Hey whats up everybody! this is a post about break ups and when you really think its worth getting back together with an EX. the way im going to format this post is give the brief story behind it and ask for your advice on two options( right now im in dead even conflict with both and would throughly enjoy your well thought out feed back:))

So where to begin...

been using the game and really divulging into social interactions via pua material, psychology books, business books, you name it. as a guy who is in business for himself and a full time amature athlete i know when to cut my losses and go for the bigger better deal. its a tough world out there but hey, its a fun exciting world to live in!

Right now im in conflict with a decision to get back with my ex (oneitis syndrom or at least really feels likes it) or not. and by get back, i mean really take the time to form a relationship (or relationshit) as some may describe this haha!

so we were together for quite a while. really made me realize what i wanted in a human being. never felt so good to be around someone in the years ive been in this game. so enough fluff lets get right to the main points!

we had to break it off because unfortunately. She is leaving the country for good, and we had to make a decision right then and there where it was going. unfortunately I was more invested emotionally then she was, even though i knew she really really cared and she expressed this multiple times. but its not the right timing.

all my education of the game, everything i knew what to do flew right out of my head and i started using the emotional side of my brain and said F&%* it im going to make it work. and of course i just drove her further away. \we still hooked up, were very intimate with another, really enjoyed being around one another.

however we talked about being friends and i thought it would go well (ya right) but we could not party with each other, she wanted a limited friendship because she knew we would hook up and she would regret it.

so the friend thing i could not handle and i told her i did not want anything to do with her that it just didnt fit nor did it feel right. and thus went dark and entered no contact.

what was to follow was the cold shoulder from her, and very bitter attitude from her friends. the way i saw it if she were to move on and see someone else while being friends it would tear me apart from the inside out. while weve all had longterm relationships, there comes a time when one realizes that this is different and that is where i am right now.

so after about a month of NC we saw each other and noticed each other, i myself chose to pretend not to see her while she made efforts to stick out. as we were passing one another through a crowd of people where we usually went to the gym she gave me a very hard look trying to get me to even notice her but i just choose not to. the same followed when wed party at the same bars where i live in SF.

so she calls one night and i choose to ignore it, but realize that the girls i have been dating since( a month and a halfe after i completely called it quits on her) just doesn't feel the same.

So i sent her a email something very platonic and friendly and recived a warm response. she left it very open ended even though my message was really just a |hey look at this funny thing a found" inside joke between myself and her. \i did not leave the msg open ended and honestly did not even expect a response.

So my question to all of you out there is. could you give me 2 responses. the first is to A: what to do to move on from this situation, get over her completely and move on

and B: if i decide to take the plunge and make this work how would i go about it, NC has been implemented and the needy emotional behavior eliminated, my shits in order to attack this clearly. but deep down i want to make this work!

Thanks guys for taking the time to read and offer advice!

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TheLost