Quote:
So i work with this girl, and for about a year she would come around and always give me these ioi's like telling me her stories and playing with her hair and just lingering around me and sometimes kino when i initiate it..i didnt do anything at the time because i was seeing someone else in the office and thats just not cool stuff could blow up in my face. So after i broke up with the girl i was currently dating i started realizing how attractive the girl that was always lingering was so i called her up one night and since then went out about 4 more times. on the 4th date i kiss closed and on the 5th f-close....after the f-close we didnt talk for like 3 days and then things just got silent like we werent talking anymore, she started getting flaky and even bailed on her own plans to go out...so ive never experienced something like that b4 cuz after i have sex with a girl shes usually the one to keep calling and staying in touch and when can we do this again...but this time i was feeling this way....any how it got to the point where i said ur cool n all but we should just be friends...then she agreed...i thought we should just be friends would work...turns out it just backfired how can i get back with this girl shes mad cool and totally not like any girl ive ever dated.
I think you forgot the comfort there... just like have sex with girl and instant leave. But then on long term, have sex, and no contact. She doesn't feel comfortable and maybe a bit used....?