does this mean you're in the friend zone?

i've been chatting with a girl on FB and the other night she told me she liked a waiter in her local restaurant but didn't know how to approach him. i tried to steer her off the idea and then ended up describing a really explicit scenario involving her and a 'dream guy' fucking in a park

she was totally turned on and i left it a couple of days then she started messaging me again. she starts asking what i think the best way to approach this guy is and then goes into her emotions about how she just wants someone to love

im confused if this is because ive just built up comfort with her and she knows she can confide in me or if there is some underlying attraction

i told her how we were too similar and could never be a couple cos we would be too in love, then fighting, then making up with sex etc.. all that bullshit

how can i build more ttraction to me and turn her off the idea of appraoching this other guy?

No. This shouldn't bother you. Your past the fact now, but if you could go back:

This is just some guy you don't know. Best to assume he's not in your league.

I would have told her to do something to see if the guy gets flustered. If he does, than he's a chump and she needs a guy that can handle her.

But at the same time, your trying to be a player using canned lines YET you are getting insecure that she's showing interest in someone else?

ok, i understand what you're saying. i should totally not show that im bothered about her appraoching another guy, seems obvious now

ahs anyone got any tips about how i can steer the conversation round to building attraction?

Yo man I was in a weird mood when I wrote that. I apologize for any negativity.

Build attraction? Have you only talked to her on FB? That waiter thing might have been a shit test.

Um, at the end of the day, these rules and steps don't mean anything. Early on they do seem like guidelines you have to follow, but as you grow your going to find out their BS.

This is your life. Tell her you want to meet her in person and see if the connection can blossom. If she says no, whatever. You'll be laughing at it tomorrow.

ive only chatted with her on FB but already she has told me lost about herself, about her past and trouble with drugs, past boyfs, friends back home etc...

we were meant to meet a few weeks back but she flaked because she got really pissed the night before. i dont disbelieve her cos she texted me at like 6am in the morning and i know she quite often gets hungover bad

shes quite needy and insecure and only 19, i think i could have probably secured another meet-up but ive been busy and pursuing other interests,. shes already asked to go partying with me

Unless she's really something special, put HER in a friend zone and move on. It depends on your goals.

yo, i dont know how this will work, but if she asks you again should you say...." I dont care, anyways what were we talking about?oh yea..." something along those lines perhaps? im no expert at this but from what i read from mystery DeAngelo, Strauss showing some indifference perhaps could work ? and maybe it can be a shit test if she is talking bout some "dream" guy. But if i were you, i think i would go with indifference. Anyways bestt of luck my man and hopefully you will bag it...