| Hi Guys
This post is quite long but I will be extremly thankful if you are goind to give some of your professional statements.
Right now I am in the middle of an interesting stage with a girl and I am not sure where I am standing. However, since this question is not related to that particular relationship but to a number of similar situations, I consider it to be a general question and I am going to explain it to you in a second.
But first, let me explain the background (please check also my introduction thread):
I am particularly interested in one special type of girls: They are extremely smart, highly educated, polite, very ambitious and pretty (as far as looks are concerned they do not have to be a 10, but I would say, a 6 or a 7 is mandatory). As a matter of fact there are not so many girls who meet all of these requirements at the same time.
However, if it happens to be that kind of person, I feel very attracted to her and normally these girls are attracted to me as well for one particular reason: According to my experience, these types of girls at my age are really annoyed with the "ordinary" guys.
Now, the next passages are not meant to be arrogant at all, so please do not consider it like that (because with some other types of girls I am really bad, so I am just talking about my "specialties here):
I've just met a girl that seems to be perfect to become my next girlfriend that is exactly as stated above. We met at a party and there we've had an amazing conversation: We were able to talk on a level that is way above the kind stage of a normal 19 years old person. We totally felt at ease. BUT: I did not breake rapport a lot and now there's the question:
Can I compensate that? I am not asking because I am not able to do it since breaking rapport is no big deal for me. But I want to understand Adam Lyons' formula better:
-Confidence
-SE
-Breaking Rapport
-Qualifying
-Sexual escalation and so on.
Now, she has got a huge amount in confidence in me and she qualified during our conversations a lot. Since this party was at my house and there were about 80 guest of which about 50 were pretty to beautiful women, the social proof was no problem. I did not get to the escalation part on purpose.
She said:
- "I am so impressed with you, you've got great marks, working at an amazing company" (PLEASE NOTICE: I did not show off like "Oh baby, I am working at a bank, I am so intelligent etc., I just drove the conversation to the "right" part).
-"It feels SO GOOD talking to you"
-"For the first time in my life I can talk to someone who is than 40 years old who really meets my requirements in terms of conversation, honesty" etc.
-"Oh, you're so funny" (she laughed a lot about my jokes).
-"Finally someone challenges me(PLEASE NOTICE: I disagreed with her frequently, so that was some breaking, but no too much). We need to meet up again etc."
As I see it, I really stand out in the crowd in her opinion. Is that enough to make someone attracted enough so that you can straight go to sexual escalation the next date without worrying too much about breaking rapport or am I still too much in the confident/friend zone?
Thanks for your comments!!!
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