Ok... today the girl i have a major crush for was in the library...she tried to take the only computer available next to me...and asked if it was available because oddly it was logged on with no one around (it seemed free)

I said I wasnt sure but it had been like that since i got there...she said "ah crap" and moved on.


I saw her later and said it was now free, she smiled and said it was ok she found one upstairs.


Now then, what the hell do I say next? This was our first communication and im worried i came across a bit rude the first time regarding the computer. I didnt see her coming so it threw me a little!


I was considering the honest approach tomorrow at the library:

"Hey, hope I didnt come across rude yesterday morning! Exams send us round the twist huh?"


Conversation ( I hope)


"Listen you seem pretty cool, whats your name Ill add your facebook"

you shoulda have said : i you're such a big nerd , why are you pretending you're not handy with computers '' etc actually she IOI ed you 2 times you could actually pick her up.

dont get a crush in this girl, you are already caring what she thinks of you and this will shut you down - plain anxiety. to get the girl you want you need to not care and hone skills with woman in general.

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What were her IOIs?

I really like the look of this girl... have to get something tomorrow.


I am thinking facebook name > number close?


Number is alot more personal PLUS she may have a bf so numbers arent usually given out but facebook add is alot more subtle?

I am not an experienced PUA, but I would not open with saying sorry. This is too nice/plane. Probably better to use a teasing/fun opening??

Like:

"hey, are you going to try again to sit next me today, just like yesterday? "

She has a tattoo on her neck.


Maybe that is a better opener...


"Hey your tattoo is pretty cool...do they hurt? Im planning to get one before I go on holiday in July..."



Or is this unworkable now we have (albeit briefly) spoken?

do not open this girl with anything of the sort. IMO it comes across super stalker-ish and very needy. needy in that to me it just seems like this girl was looking for a computer and asked you.

imo when you talked to her the second time, she was being friendly to you.

So what would i do if I were in your situation. well for i rather go direct on the girl than just use wimpy indirect.

Next time you see her, the first thing you have to do is get her attention so you can talk to her. I will just walk up make eye contact and say Hi! or tap her on the shoulder or elbow so she knows that I am talking to her and then open with something like

" Hi, I dont want to be weird or anything, but i literally just saw you and I had to come over and tell you that I think you are absolutely adorable. and I had to come say Hi. Whats your name?"

after that i would want to transition into a conversation so you said this girl has a tatoo on her neck. So heres how you start a conversation with her. Start making assumptions about her

"You know(pause)...you look like.... the type of person....who likes punk rock."

you can keep making assumptions to find out more about her bc if you wrong she will correct you and wonder why you thought that and in this case you could make some reference to the tatoo.

get to know her a bit and then close.

Oh and this bit is from personal experience bc i had a huge crush on this girl and when i had the balls to go approach her i was so nervous that it affected my game. So i recommend go talk to a different girl you dont really like before you go talk to her. So that you can start to relax. it made it easier for me so hopefully it works for you

of course tattoos hurt.

don't ask if a tattoo hurts.

lame opener. lol

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Do you really want to walk up to a girl that you don't even know and apologize for something you don't even know offended her? Do you think that's manly and gives you a dominant position? The answer is 'no' to both questions. It makes you look weak.

I don't mean to beat you up and single you out 2:35, and I don't want to go on a diatribe, but I'm surprised how many people are just lost in this forum. But, this is a place is for learning after all. I don't know how old you are....it may be your age.

I feel like some game comes from studying the material, but most of it comes from trial and error and figuring it out on your own. I feel like the more you plan and use canned openers the worse things turn out in the long run. If you can eventually set your mind to think in a 'gaming' manner then things will start to go your way and become more natural. Start studying some materials. I'm sure there's a section about that here on this forum.

Forget about Facebook. It is not a substitute for a phone number. It's just a way for you to put off asking for the number. Try to be cocky and funny, and bust her chops a little. If she's smiling and laughing when you hold down a short conversation ask for the phone number and get going on your way. Come back to this thread when you get the number, and tell us about it before you call for a coffee date.

I am 21 y/o ...my score is 18...Ive been shit with girls in general for 18 months for some reason.


I reckon it was weed....but ditched that cept for special times.


Anyway todays update for y'all

Saw that girl again today but I was on my phone to a friend in uni...eye contact again on the stairs.


But...when Id hung up shed gone.


Anyway I took some of you guys advice and practised first...I saw this girl i recently added on facebook sitting on some couches in the lobby

"This seat taken?"

"no "
and with that sat down and talked to her, made a joke about adding her when i was drunk...she was receptive.

We chatted for a good half hour...half way through 2 of my friends appeared who were stuck on some revision and I talked em through it infront of her (This a DHV?)


Anyway I said see you later etc and she smiled and said see ya later...so i am gonna ask her for a drink or something on facebook.


To be honest I felt 10 feet tall afterwards...a good ego boost so tomorrow im planning this for the other girl who I really want:


"Hey, hope this doesnt sound weird but i just literally saw you yesterday for the first time and think youre kinda cute...and am i right do you study english you look like youre into literature...."


sound cool?

No, not really. It doesn't sound all that cool. It sounds completely void of confidence when you approach a female and say, "I hope this doesn't sound weird.". You might be planting a seed in her mind that it actually does sound weird. If it were me I wouldn't comment on her physicality right out of the gate either. Assuming you get her laughing I might give her a back-handed compliment later on like, "You're pretty cute for a short girl."

If the conversation is going well for a few minutes do not leave without asking for a phone number.

Facebook is not better than a number close because it is less intimidating. You can add someone on facebook you don't even know, but you wouldn't give a creeper your number. Asking for her facebook makes you seem like you could be looking to just be a friend instead of actually asking for what you want.

So many different opinons


I need an opener but not sure now!

Yeah but what if she has a bf? A girl isnt likely to give the number then is she?



She is only ever with this one guy in uni...or alone. And Im good at observing others he is an AFC friend zoned guy sadly for him (or gay).

Perfect. Facebook just creates problems in my opinion.

If she has a boyfriend he might be on the way out. You never know. You might be the replacement. Start thinking in those terms.

I don't think opening really has to be that complicated. Walk up to her and say, "Hi what's your name?". If she smiles or sticks out her hand and gives you her name stand there for a couple of seconds. If she asks your name it is my belief that that in itself is interest. Of course, you have to keep going from there.