yo whats the story lads!!!im new to this site and want to ask yeah how how you got the confidence to approach random women on the street??this is probably the one area in my life that i find difficult to do! any tips be appreciated greatly

you don't get the confidence to do, you get the confidence by doing! so get out there and approach!

nice one man i know i gotta start doin it jus need ta lay off the smoke and get over the negative thnkin of bein rejected by (beurs)thats what we call them in ireland nice 1 4 the advice man

Welcome.

When it comes to approaching, it's one of those things you become comfortable with more over time.

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Serj

I agree with the guys above, but why not have the best of both worlds? You're saying you need a way into gaining the confidence to approach people right?? Why not approach them mentally for a few weeks.. Interesting? I hope so, read on

You're walking around doing your chores, and randomly thoughts start popping into your head: "Wow she's fucking hot!" or "Maybe i could say hi to her"... Naturally, we don't pay much attention to those thoughts - they just resemble our gut intuition about certain women... So what i am challenging you to do, is for 1 whole week - go out for at least 30 minutes a day and start brainstorming what you could comment on towards a girl... Doesn't matter if it's a granny, cashier, or a potential love of your life (though, if you think a girl is that good, i think you better skip what i'm suggesting and just go balls out).

DO NOT say or use any of the material you are thinking about.. It's more about getting you into the "routine" of noticing things about people. Once you are more attentive, you will have a much easier time during day-game. And once you've mastered this, you can work on improving how funny you are, etc..

After 1 week, just go out and try to start simply by saying hi to the first few girls.. but eventually work your way up to saying more complicated sentences: "Hey do you have a light?" to the girl standing next to you smoking.. or "Wow this weather is crazy".. yeah these are old-school lines that i highly doubt will get you laid. The thing is NOT about "getting" anything from women - it's about you developing a routine of noticing women and what's going on in their lives.

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thanks lads good advice there man sounds like you know what your talking! il definetly be workin on what you said! is there any good pua yeah guys can recommend to study 2 help me get my confidence up again??and did any of yeah ever get a embarassing rejection before??

Re: "confidence" - honestly your better off NOT reading the PUA material for confidence.. Your better off by trying to get out of your head and into your gut. Like rather than "thinking" about doing something, then doing it.. Just "do it"... Like if you wanna act like pac-man for a day, fuck it - go for it. The goal is to let your inner-self free from social judgment.. Cause once you don't fear social judgment - you can do virtually anything and be unaffected by confidence.. Then through repetition with socializing you'll develop a "calibration" to what should or should not be said.. And from there, you will have the confidence you're looking for.

Embarassing rejections? Ohhhhh yeah. I've got stories left and right, about girls i mis-read to girls i read perfectly but that "fucked up with"... All the way to stories about girls who were never interested and i knew that, yet i approached anyways.. Those stories actually helped me gain the most confidence because those are the points where i got stuck - i was actually thinking after interacting with them: "wow i fucking blew it, i wonder how?" and i'd be stuck for a few weeks until finally something would come to my attention (e.g. "Oh fuck! wow why didn't i realize that.. I shouldn't have been so directly sexual").. And then later down the road, i'd repeat it by accident, see it all over again.. Smack myself for living the same rut - but then i'd pick my head up, say fuck it, and repeat until i got to where i wanted to be.. And i'm STILL working on where i want to be - cause there is always a way to improve.

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You also might want to check out the newbie test in the general questions section. It's a great start to get yourself used to rejection

ya man thats true fuck it what do i got to lose good advice doh you really do know what your talking about cheers lads

try to Three Second Rule.

The Three Second Rule,
u go to a club, bar , street wherever u might meet women.
first 3 seconds of seeing her, just go and start talking.

if u didn't do that in the first three seconds UR OUT.
the fear of approach you are having is because you are OVERTHINKING.
you brain will go

" okkay, she's HOT, what should i say to her? should i go HEY, how are you? what if she finds it silly, what if she rejects me by saying fuck off, what if she didn't hear me from the first time, should i repeat the question ? maybe her BF is in the rest room, maybe she's waiting for him to come, oh wait, maybe shes single,
she's checkin her phone, she must be waiting for someone. DAMN she saw me looking at her. did she realize im thinkin of talkin to her"

and so on and so forth,
a MILLION thing gets to you head in few minutes. and the thing is that you GET TRAPPED thinking the same shit again and again.
so after making it awkward and u look like a wuss, and feel down, she leaves. and you say to yourself. DAMN MAN !!! i should have done it, i wouldn't have lost ANYTHING. alright im gona do it next time !!! thats sure !!! i learned my lesson .

next day : same scenario.


so to get out of this death trap, and make it simple, and it feels more fluent and natural, just apply the 3 second law .
its the hardest law EVER. but u will get used to it eventually. it will be hard the first dozen of times but when its done ... its done, and believe me its worth it.

from there and on, you will start working on your game. before approaching the girl u cant improve anything. so after starting to geting over the fear of the approach you start working more and more on your body language, confidence, openers, routines etc...

hope this works for you m8 !

haha nice one mighty yeah lads are good at giving genuine advice ha a lot better then the shitty chat rooms wi 6 people constantly talkin about useless shite ha il try that 3 second rule;) guaranteed 4 a few awkward moments doh haha but suppose you have to leave your comfort zone to get results and actually put in a bit of work
thanks!