I had to share this story because I was amazed at what happened to me the other night.
I was sitting at a local bar after work, and this guy whom I've seen before and is usually all over every girl came to the bar where I was sitting (I'm a girl as well, maybe I should put that into my signature). He's not ugly, but in no way attractive per se, around 45 years old, so he's not the kinda of guy you would just pick and take home. He was also a little drunk. So he did what he does to all the girls, hugged me and started kissing me gently on the cheek, telling me how much he likes me, caressing me on the neck and blah blah, really direct. I was just joking with him, there were some friends there and I was teasing him for being a player, we all just had a good laugh. Every now and then he would come back and start with the KINO really directly. I realized in one moment I was totally aroused! I swear, if he could've isolated me then, I'd probably cave in. As I was sitting there, rejecting his advances, all of the stuff I've read about KINO, about ASD just really made sense. I could totally identify with the girls being hit on all the time, how they must feel when their friends are there and how ASD occurs, why you should keep trying even if she rejects, why is it important to isolate in the right moment but what surprised me the most is how simple and effective direct KINO was! It totally blew my mind. I'm a lesbian! And this guy was touching me a little and got me all wet, like WTF??
So after analyzing it in my head, here's what I think were major points.
His touch was light, gentle, very erotic - no high fives, or buddy hugs, they do nothing. I immediately thought of 60's and the risk creepy and damn it worked.
His eye contact was constant and intense, his voice low, smooth and he talked slowly.
He actually did some push pull, he would come over, KINO and then walk away. It took about 3 or 4 approaches with KINO that lasted about 3-5 minutes to make me feel the way I did.
When he walked away, he was social, teasing and not needy in any way.

So I hope this helps some of you guys that were struggling with the right way to KINO. Tell me what you think and share your experiences of what works for you the best.

Cheers!

haha nice story!

totally proofs what I had done with a good female friend of mine^^

What did you do?? Give us the details!

I've never heard a girl using so many pua terms.

I have some female friends who understand me when I speak pua (well most of it), but you are great.

Next time I come to Rijeka, I'm so gonna call you and we're gonna sarge together.

High five!

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I have to return some videotapes...

Sure! PM me before you come, I'll give you my number.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

See, no need for kino to get a #close, just invite a girl sarging. 101

pozdrav!

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I have to return some videotapes...

LOL! Pozdrav

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

love the honesty and helpfulness here.

Can you give some kino examples as far as where he touched and how he escalated things.

like when did he touch your arms, legs, waist, face, etc.

Well, mostly hair, neck, face, hands, arms. There was no escalation because he came in "full throttle" 60's style. He did push pull, though. And he couldn't escalate any more because of my ASD, so I was pushing him away a lot. It didn't stop him to repeat the KINO a couple of minutes later, and thus try to break the ASD and it was working.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

NICE!

Glad you made this post. Depending on the situation, I usually escalate kino over a period of time, (high five, hugs, kiss on the cheek, kiss close) but you said this guy started in directly.

Welp... worth a try...

I also usually start off slowly. That's why this was a mind blowing discovery for me. It does require more courage, I think. And being able to reengage after rejection over and over again:)

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.