Long story short. Been dating this girl for almost a year.

Yesterday we broke up cause she said that she wants to experience the single life to be with other guys (she is easily influenced by her horny bitch best friend). Fine by me I said. However she also wants us to remain friends and still hang out. I said no to that however. Its just wrong and degrading for me.

Of course I get blamed for the break up. She wants a summer of single life then go ahead, but I'm not going to be dragged into the story with her.

I must say though, I do miss her now. Whats the proper way to get back with her eventually? (Assuming after her "wild" summer) Should I not contact her (as I said since we're no longer friends)? Meet up once a month?

Much thanks.

Call her in September?

The best recoveries are through doing the same as you would with any other girl. Be attractive. People have a propensity to treat girls differently once they've had sex - you can see the problems this causes in almost every relationship.

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Woo fast response.

I intend to call her in September, but I need some steps or advice on how to keep the flame alive during our time apart. Remember shes gonna be jumping from one guy to the next all summer.

Think that we should meet at least once a month? Or would that make me seem like a pussy?

Or form some kind of "friendship" but purely on a virtual level? Like keep it only on yahoo messenger and mobile phone?

You can, but I wouldn't. You seem to be trying to stay in her peripheral in case she changes her mind but she won't forget about you if so.

That you are okay with her slutting it up and are so keen to take her back might be an issue. Have some self respect!

Speak to her rarely and fleetingly. Get on with your life. It's easy to see when you're not in the middle of it.

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You're right, its just my emotions speaking now.

But if I am to ignore her all summer, I want some insurance that she'd still be into me after Summer so that I can work my magic again.

If you keep talking to her on a regular basis, even as a friend, you won't be able to detach yourself. Just ignore her. If she wants to get back with you later, you can make a decision at that time, but for now you don't need to keep giving yourself reasons not to let go.

If she talks, talk to her. I wouldnt make any effort to contact her because she was the one who wanted a break to enjoy single life. Instead of thinking about how to get her back or the possibility of getting her back, spend your summer having fun and getting to know other girls. Chances are you;ll meet a girl 10x as good as her. If not atleast you;ve had fun rather than spending your nights awake thinking of game plans and hypothetical situations to win back this girl.

OK bad bad case of oneitis. This is not really what the community is about.

But i will give you the best advice possible. Cut her off completely. You already said you did that, right? you told her that you didnt want to be friends. good move. DO NOT talk to her on any medium, even texting or yahoo or whatever.

Let her have her fun. This happens ALOT TO BOYFRIENDS. women just want to meet new guys, it does happen alot and alot of guys get heartbroken and bla bla bla. This is the reason why boyfriend destroyer has potential to be such a strong tactic.

all you can do is, try to better yourself this summer. work out, gain muscle, cut body fat. and most of all, FIND A NEW girl by september, and have her see the two of you together. then you can text her in september.

when you get back together, make sure to ask her if she got herpes and make sure you know that she didnt get herpes. I have found this works as a strong neg against ex girlfriends. You can even say "Someone told me you got herpes". This does have the potential to backfire so you have to ask it in a way where youre wondering for your own sake, not insulting her. Often times, when a woman gets herpes its from sleeping around and then she will go back to her ex boyfriend and give him herpes. This is how 2 of my friends got herpes. Women often are very self centered and self serving. ALOT Of people have it, and if shes sleeping around this summer, shell probably get it.

My friend listen to those wise words. Like this poster is implying, you will be showing so much low value if you allow her to slut up only to run back to her.

We are currently in very similar positions. I'm recovering from a break up and still deeply in love with my ex, I see her as the only girl in the world for me. She on the other hand wants to keep me as friends and give her advice on how to get with other men, i.e. emotional tampon. I told her to go to hell.

We are still facebook friends but I will not solicitate communication, I will instead pursue my dreams and aspirations, game loads of other women and watch her either grovel back to me with her tail between her legs in the future or rue the missed opportunity she had.

first of all think if its worth it, she clearly wants to be with other guys not you

When you pick up that phone in September...think of all those guys she fucked and slobbered over their cocks loving every fucking second...yeah buddy, try and tie that one down again

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Hahaha well played Sir.

I appreciate all the advice guys. As I said, my emotions were speaking to me so I was pussyfying up. I agree, if she left me for that, I don't need her. Besides, a bunch of girls are already trying their luck with me once they heard I'm single. And now come to think of it, I'm seeing that I have a much better year ahead of me as a single guy instead with that loser.

Thanks for al lthe help.

That's the spirit!

Don't think of it as an end, think of it as a beginning.

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Why?

Talk to her sure but don't give a shit what she does. Why should you care?

X number of months (4?) does a lot to make one's ardor grow cold.

Here's a tip, and kind of a twisted one. I shudder to even mention it.

When I have this sort of problem, instead of talking to the current problem, I go annoy the ice queen I dated in the mid 90s who I know will never give me the time of day. I've sort of kept her as a permanent backup oneitis so that I have it less for other women. It seems to work. Mostly.

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