I met a girl a few times, she's close to some of my other friends. A couple of months ago, she invited me to go to her goodbye-party (she went abroad for professional reasons). At the party it became pretty clear that she wanted me. She initiated kino in a very direct manner, but she had to leave early (airplane). When she stayed abroad, she sent some pretty straight-forward messages "let's have a drink when I'm back", "You're a very handsome guy", etc. In the meanwhile, she had a temporary bf abroad (she always does that). I guess that she suddenly felt very guilty by planning to have sex with me when coming back. So contact went to a minimal state. But I know she will dump the guy the moment she's back. The only thing stopping her now doing this, is again guilt, because he's really sweet to her. And needy. The longer she waits, the bigger drama will be.

So, I really want to bang her because she's a HB9. So when can I call her? Do I just have to wait until she "officially" broke with the guy? Sooner, later? If I contact her, I'm going to be pretty forward that I want to have sex with her at the same evening. So, when contacting her at the right moment, I'll have an easy bang with a hot chick. Advice is appreciated!

At least wait until she's broken up with the guy before you contact her. Whether you see it or not if she's calling a guy her BF there is an emotional connection there. I doubt she'll be ready to hop in bed the moment she ends it with him. She'll need a little time to chill out first before that happens.

Well, I'm pretty sure that she's now figuring out how to say the bad news to the guy. I think she's somewhat surprised that she indeed developed an emotional connection with the guy. She knew from the start he was just for fun, but down the line she made it complicated. So what do you think? One months after the break-up?

And I feel bad for her bf, honestly. He really expects that it will last.

Well yeah I feel bad for the guy too in this situation, but it's up to her how she lives her life not ours.

I guess a few weeks to a month is good, just depends on how bad the breakup is really. You'll be able to gauge it seeing as you know her so much better than we do.

She's very realistic, a long distance relationship with no options has no future. It's not really an ethical question, it's just being pragmatic. Furthermore, the guy gave her a job and a roof over her head. So, again, this contributes to the guilt factor.

Of course, I just want to avoid being transformed into a shoulder to cry on. I hate that, the most irritating situation. But aside from your mentioned contextual elements, you convinced me that I should wait a while.

Thanks for the advice, JSmooth. And not judging me.