Ok so I've got a problem. When I saw my girl last time, she didn't seem to know the meaning of the word "yes." The most we got out of our date sexually was a hand job for each other. But after 3 times of trying to get her in the mood, I finally gave up because she would only say "no." I feel like I may have pushed for it a little too much. Because she also said "When you push for it after I say no, it feels like sex is your main goal. I love you very much. But relationships should be built on more than that." (By the way, I know this, but that's obviously no reason to withhold sex completely. Especially since we've already fucked.)

But see, the problem is... if I don't try to seduce her at all, it'll never happen. Because she puts no effort into making it happen herself. It's the Alpha's duty to make the conditions right for sex. I feel like sex is on her terms now, and I need to change that. I'm tired of being the pursuer... I want her to seduce ME! I want to be the one saying "no" for once. So what the hell do I do? I'm stumped guys :/

If you're fingering her, youre probably not pleasing her very much. She should be begging for you to pipe her.

The Sex God Method by Daniel Rose

nope. this chick just gets off on giving you blue balls. she likes having her little puppy with his little leash on.

you need her to see other girls giving you sexual attention.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I pleasure her A LOT by fingering. I finger her better than any other guy she's had (as she told me).

Read it. But all those techniques don't do crap for me unless I can get her to beg for it... or at least say "yes" first.

Any other options? I'm committed to this relationship, and I just want her to put out more.

you could try begging

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Lol I meant a non-smartass answer dude. This girl is awesome. And she has put out great in the past. It's just now for some reason. I want to shift the power of when we have sex to me.

well, at least you have a sense of humor.

here is the thing:

you are pursuing her, right? how is that working for you? not very good, right?

and the harder you pursue, the worse it gets, right?

so you have two options, because pursuing her is NOT working.

option 1: be celibate, don't have sex
option 2: make her pursue you

i'm willing to bet you are going to vote for option 2 (just a hunch)

so, the question then becomes "how do i make a female pursue me sexually?"

you have to:
- be seen as a sexual being
- seem unavailable

women want what they can't have!
and, they also want what other women have!

so, if you get sexual attention from other females (i mean attention, not actual sex). just flirting, texting, joking, doing things with groups of friends that include females, talking/chatting with female coworkers, etc.

when she sees them smiling at you, looking at your ass when you walk away, the way you make them squirm in your presence, she is going to have two thoughts:

- HE IS A VERY SEXUAL BEING
- HE IS MINE!!!!!!
- HE IS NOT YOURS!!!!!!!!
- FUCK ME NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I like it! And now that I think about it, I've been really available lately. And I'm gonna start making a point to hang out with hot girls more often. Thanks for the help man!

Next time you have your pants down and your fingering her, whip out your erected dick and sneak it in her pussy... "Whoops"

Note: Wear some gym shorts, not jeans with a belt.

Just like sex isn't the only thing in a relationship, there is no relationship without sex. Dont worry about hurting her feelings, if you're not getting what you want from her, why cater to her in order to get sex? That wont give her any incentive to jump your bones any quicker and leave you more and more frustrated by the day.

Tell you want some time to think things over....see what she'll do then. Whether or not she's being malicious about withholding sex, you need to break her little fantasy about what's going on.

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A Tru nigga

You got two choices here. One you can tell her you want her to make advances on you (communication tends to do more good than harm). Or you can stop all sexual advances to her and wait for her to do something.

Very simple, move on brother.