Hi! I am Grand Master from India. I am a newbie. Have number closed a few times and got Day 2s, but didn’t follow through with most of them. I have been in and out of game during the last few months. But now I have made up my mind to start sarging more frequently.

Inspired by kasabi, I started journal writing about three months back. And I must say that I have become a better person than before. I have become more organized, I can think clearly and objectively. I feel the more I write the more intelligent I become. And now I have decided to start a separate PU journal where I can document my sarges and get valuable feedback.

I also want to thank Hobbit and Zac L for motivating me to start meditating. It’s been over a month since I have started to meditate on a regular basis and I am already starting to see some results.

For now I will keep my PU goals modest and simple. Here they are.

My Immediate Goal

1. Do at least 30 approaches a month. While I am opening sets, my objective is to number close or at least get some kind of contact info like email or Facebook.
2. Find a decent girlfriend by the end of September.



My Ultimate Goal

Have a lot of options to choose from when I decide to get married in 7- 8 years.



What I need to do to get started

1. Put in more field time on a consistent basis.
2. Keep my list of situational openers growing.
3. Have a stack of 5 routines at my fingertips which I can use if the conversation reaches dead end.
4. Have to work on my voice. Already started doing the exercises suggested in Roger Love’s Vocal Power. In fact I have started to get some results as well.



Thanks for Reading.

Grand Master

So I went out yesterday and did two approaches.

First set, 1 girl, at a library

GM: I have been searching for something interesting in this section, can you suggest something?
HB: (smiling)Well, I don’t really know what to suggest. I don’t read much. (continued checking the books)
GM: Yeah even I have hardly used my membership in the last few months. I have taken only 4 books in the last 5 months, but now I am trying to get into the habit of reading more.
HB: What kind of books do you normally prefer?
GM: Detective, thrillers or something similar.
HB: Even I was looking for an Agatha Christie book, she is into that genre, but seems like it’s not there. I guess you have to search the entire section and see if you like something.
GM: Damn! There are too many of them here. So what kind of books do you normally prefer? Big fat ones?(She had a huge book in her hand)
HB: (all giggles and smiles)
GM: I am Grand Master by the way(Handshake)
HB: (gives her name)
GM: So are you from this city?
HB: Ya.
GM: Oh I see, working or studying?
HB: Actually I am a dentist?
GM: Hey my room mate is also a dentist. He works at a clinic in ….. Where do you work at?
HB: Actually I have my own clinic. So what do you do.
GM: I am working at… and also studying…
HB: (looks away again)
GM: (I pull out a book By Ernest Hemingway from the shelf) Hey what does this guy write about(duh! I even remember the date he killed himself)?
HB: Mostly classical novels.
GM: I see.

I felt like I was asking too many questions and she was not contributing so I moved to another section. But I was surprised when she searched for me before leaving just to say“ Bye, I have to go now” and she left. I don’t think I would have done that for her if I had to leave first.

Second set, 2 girls, same place

I get a call from a sexy female friend that she wants to meet me and I give her my location. So I had about 20 minutes to kill.
I spotted a HB at a table reading. It was a table of 4 and she was sitting diagonally opposite to a not-so-HB who was making notes from a book. I thought they were not together as I had observed them for a few minutes and they didn’t even look at each other. So I picked up a book and proceeded to sit beside the cutie, but saw a scarf kept on that chair.

GM: Hey is this yours?
HB: Ya. (she takes it away from there)
GM: (After settling down in a minute, to the HB) So what are you reading?
HB: Just my course material.
GM:Are we allowed to bring our own books just to read here(Lame I know!).?
HB: Ya
GM: What course studying for?
HB: blah..blah..blah..

The girls exchanged few glances(or signals through their eyes!), and this is where I realize that they were together. Thinking that I have to include the UG in the conversation as well, I go.

GM: Oh I see, are you guys done with your graduation?
HB:Ya.
UG cockblocker: Actually she is a commerce graduate and I am studying law( giving me that bitchy 'fuck off' look)

After getting a cold shoulder form the UG I went back to reading my book. Then after a couple of minutes silence, I try to re-initiate the conversation.

GM(to the HB): You taking any coaching or studying on your own?
HB: Ya I am.
UG cockblocker: ( giving me that why-the-hell-are-you-still-talking look) Why do you want to know? What are YOU doing?
GM: I am doing… (BS Alert!)but the reason I am asking is that my sister is thinking of taking up that course and she was asking me I know about any course.

For a moment I considered leaving the girls alone but then I thought if anyone has to fuck off then it should be those who had a problem. I have every right to sit there. A few minutes later I got a call from my friend that she had arrived and waiting at the gate. Suddenly an idea struck me. On a normal day I would go meet her at the main gate and then we would go hang out somewhere, but not this time. I gave her my location in the library and asked her to come find me. Just wanted to demonstrate pre-qualification and social proof to the set(mainly to the UG cockblocker!).

When my friend arrived, seeing her the UG cockblocker’s jaws dropped(the look on her face was priceless) and the two girls stared at each other.

So I get up and leave.


My Analysis

1. My voice changed while I was talking and I had to force the words out of my mouth. I have been doing my vocal exercises regularly and was feeling pretty confident with my voice so I don’t know why this happened. May be because I was nervous.

2. Well, looking back it seems like I am asking too many questions. I want to make the conversation go on like a – conversation, I didn’t know what to do. The girl in the first set would just answer a question and go back to searching for books. I wanted to do what has been suggested by kasabi here what-is-the-best-way-to-ask-for-her-pho ... highlight= but there was hardly any opportunity for that. I did memorize a few routines(like 5 Lies game and The Cube) but I find it difficult to introduce them in the normal conversation out of nowhere. Result? The conversation turns into a question and answer session.

3. I find it very difficult to handle cockblockers. When there is a set with multiple girls and I express my interest towards the target, the UGs get jealous and try to shut me out. This has happened to me quite a few times in the past as well. I have to figure out a way to handle the bitches in the set.

Any comments?

Nice to see you've started up a PU journal. Just a few thoughts:

1. It doesn't seem like you have any "end goals" for your interactions.

2. If gaining numbers is your goal . . . and you like the suggestions I made in that thread . . . then you need to keep that in mind and steer conversations towards that direction.

3. It doesn't matter how 'you feel' things are going. If you had the ability to calibrate how things were going, you'd already have a million numbers from all your interactions. The only way you'll really hone these skills is to ASK FOR NUMBERS whether you 'feel it' or you 'don't feel' it.

4. So . . . just do your thing:

a. Connect... (We're on the same team)
b. Create... (Cool f'ing events ahead!)
c. Digits.... (Get those numbers)

*With that first one, you could have gone, "Wait, wait . . . I wanted to chat with you. Well, if you have to leave, give me your number. I'll call you . . ."

Get those numbers. Do not leave a 'conversation' without a request.

Hey Kasabi , Ill surely follow that. I usually push the conversation but hesitate to ask for the number.
Ill do that more often.
Thats my primary goal now .

This is what I have to do as rule of thumb. Thanks for the feedback kasabi.

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So I have been opening sets regularly for the last few days everywhere, whenever I am out of my house. Opened about 8 sets in the last 2 days. But only one set was responsive. This girl I approached was at a book store totally engrossed in a romance novel and so, was completely in the mood. I teased her a bit here and there and we had a good conversation. I should have number closed her but I caved. I told myself she is a lot younger than me so I should not #close but I guess that is just an excuse. FYI I am 25 and from our chat I learned that she was about 17 or 18. We had two intimate handshakes. lol. (where the skin between our index fingers and the thumbs touched for such a long time that for a moment it felt like we were holding hands!..haha). Then I got a call from a friend and I left. While I was on the call she kept looking expectantly at me and waited for my call to get over. Now I when I recall the situation I realize that she was definitely into me, and probably wished in private that I had asked for her number



My Infield Realizations and some Sticking Points

A smile and a playful vibe helps, and above all it’s contagious. I was trying to focus on a lot of things at once, like on comfort, attraction building and projecting a sexual vibe and I was sometimes confusing myself by mixing things up. But now I would focus on being really good at one aspect of my game at a time and then move on to the next. Getting phone number still remains my main goal in every interaction.

Lonewolves are easier. That’s probably because there is no fear of looking easy in front of her friends if she likes me and decides to exchange contact info.

Carrying on a conversation is not that difficult after all if the girl is even a tiny bit interested. Just pay attention to the nouns that are coming out of her mouth(Like names of places, people, some movie or book). To make the conversation sound like a conversation and not an interrogative session you just have to make a statement about her(like 'looks like you are a local', or 'looks like you are a student'). Make any silly or intelligent guess, and she would almost always correct you if you are wrong and agree with you if you are right. If the girl is giving you a cold shoulder then be prepared to talk about yourself then out of reciprocity she might talk about herself. If she doesn't then it's 'Routine' time!

I am starting to feel comfortable talking to girls who are complete strangers but I get nervous and anxious while asking for phone number and when I am expressing my interest in the girl(like may be saying you are cute and stuff). I guess I just have to force myself to do more of it.

I am not plowing the sets that are giving negative body language or blowing me off at the start because I don’t want to be accused of eve teasing!(which is very common in India). So I have to improve my body language to spark attraction right away. But again I guess it’s just a numbers game.

Regards
Grand Master.

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b. Create... (Cool f'ing events ahead!)

^Seeding future events not only increases her interest in hanging out with you, it lowers the 'jitters' for both parties. A lot of guys here are into the direct thing and go after every girl, anywhere/anytime they happen to meet them, by telling them that they are hot and raising sexual topics.

Now I'm not saying that the "I'm a horny dimwit game" has no place as it can sometimes be a hilarious gig. It's just that during the day, you've already gained her interest, earned some trust, and that's enough; seed a future 'event' and you're all set. A girl does not give out her number to a guy thinking, "Well, OK . . . I am going to give this guy my number and going out to this cool event with him JUST AS FRIENDS. " It's OK to leave her guessing . . . you can turn your sexual motors on during the date.
Sure, this is one way to do it . . . but how many ways can you 'express' your interest? I'd say that the guys who rely ONLY on direct verbal forms of expression are either liars and/or lack imagination. What kind of newbie DOESN'T tell girls that they are cute? This is the type of generic cliche that gave birth to the phrase, "Words are cheap." If you're really interested in something, anything, what do you do? What do you say? Do you go to a bike shop and tell the salesman that the Harley is "hot" over, over, and over again, followed by, 'you'd like to ride it sometime'? Let's put some more arrows in your quiver.
The good news is that you're sensitive. However, this can also work against you. The only way you'll figure out if you're unnecessarily ejecting a set would be to push yourself a little more each time and see your limits. You'd probably agree that your senses are more based on guesswork rather than past experience.

hey ! Grandmaster,

Great to see you posting your feild report.
Your and others field report in India will surely motivate people who think its difficult to sarge in India.
As, i understand its just a myth but its so built into us that it seems real.
And a fella PUA and a friend vicky has started the journal. Lets motivate him too.

Happy Sarging.

I was in a park with some of my friends and spotted a 2 set nearby and I could not help approaching them. I knew deep inside that If I didn’t open this set then I would ACTUALLY keep cursing myself for the rest of the day( This has happened to me in the past as well)

At a park: set of 2 ( 1 UG + 1 HB):

Me: Hey excuse me can I ask you something? I have a friend, she is looking for a girls’ hostel in this area. Do you have any knowledge if there is any girls’ hostel nearby?
UG: Actually there is vacancy at the hostel where we are staying. But we will double check about that .
Me: Where is it actually located?
HB: blablabla so It’s not very far from here I guess
Me: Good. That’s not very far at all. That will do. One of you can give me your phone number if that’ ok with you or take my number and give me a call.
HB: Ok that’s fine. Not a problem.
Me: So are you guys from here or somewhere else?
UG: No we not from here, we are new in the city (This is where I should have offered to show them around but I am yet to start thinking on my Pick Up feet!!)
Me: Actually I am not a local either. I am from….

(Then UG gets a call and starts talking on the phone and I am on my own with the HB)

Me: In college?
HB: blablabla.
Me: Cool, I have a friend who is studying the same thing and he goes to blablabla Institute.
HB: (Goes on to explain what her course is all about and where her institute is located)
Me: I have a totally different academic background so I have no idea what that means
HB: (Smiles)
Me: I have to go back to my friends. Take my number then, give me a call. (After I give my number, I take out my phone and ask her to give a miss call which she does). It was nice to meet you.(Firm handshake).

And there goes my first number close in a long time even though it was not even remotely close to perfect. In fact I myself have done way better number closes than this . But nevertheless I pushed my boundaries and my comfort zone, even though only a tiny bit.

This is about 70 - 80% of the conversation.

PS: Actually I did have a female friend who asked me if there is any hostel nearby but she already found one few days back!! So now my plan is to call her in a couple of days and tell her that my friend has found a hostel already and offer to hang out with her at some cool place. Let’s see how it goes.


My Analysis

I was speaking with a lot more clarity and my voice was much better than a few weeks back. My body language was a bit shaky though. I could have stretched the conversation a bit as well. But the best part is that I am really starting to enjoy this GAME!

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Good job and yes, you missed a good opportunity to seed some future events. Much easier to follow up when your number is associated with a specific event. ANYTHING you tell her will be new and exciting to her, right? Either way, don't walk away from the number. Call her up soon and tell her about your friend finding another place and ask her if she's having fun. She'll "blah, blah, blah. . ."

Then you, "Hey, have you been to _____?" And if she pulls the "Can I bring my friend?" Tell her, "I was thinking we'd go just the two of us but if you'd like to bring your friend, sure why not . . ." (And if you really do go out with both girls, make sure that the next time is only with YOU and HER.)

Repeat the process. More numbers, more dates . . .

When I was writing my previous post, this is exactly what I was worried about but she didn't bring up her friend . I called her a couple of days later and she said that she is in her home town and not in the city at the moment and would return on 9th May. So I would give her a call and set up a Day 2 when she returns.

Meanwhile, something interesting happened. A girl whom I had number closed in Facebook few months back called me and said she wanted to meet up as she is leaving the city permanently in a week or so.

I had called her a few times after number closing her, but she kept giving excuses for a Day2 so I had stopped calling her altogether about 3 months back. Anyway, when we met she told me that her parents are pressurizing her to get married and they are searching for a suitable groom(yeah… arranged marriages are still the norm in India). I just ignored it and we had some real fun time for more than 3 hours. I made her laugh her ass off during the entire evening. I kinoed the hell out of her. Hand holding, palm reading, arm touching(she was wearing a sleeveless top and I kept touching the upper part of her arm). Once, I left my chair to order food and when I returned, I came from behind and tried to playfully strangle her.. she got scared … haha… I tried to CLAW her but she kept moving away every time I moved closer to her. But I was way out of my comfort zone already!! It took me more than a week to do this with my ex-girlfriend what I did with her in a few hours!(yeah…I was a hopeless case...lol). She threw a few shit tests, I passed most of them, failed some because I realized later that they were shit tests!. I made it a point to go to three different venues. Threw in a few disqualifiers here and there as well.

She is still in the city and I am wondering if I should call her during the weekend and try to push it a little further. I have nothing to loose anyway.

My main motive was to have fun, practice some of the routines and NLP patterns, make her laugh and get used to doing more kino. I did that and more.

I could have been more sexual, but I don’t know how to do that yet. I should have also done a little more push-pull. But I am still learning and hope to get better with time and practice.

Any suggestion regarding how I could do better on a Day 2 and project that sexual vibe without seeming creepy?

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Don't simply wait. Continue to "massage" the contact through some simple greetings every once in a while.
Some guys pretend that they're porn stars during the day but this is so tasteless. . . on a first date? While in some fast food shop? What you did was plenty. . . and sometimes, just slowing it down and staring at her with a coy smile is enough. Take her to a quiet spot later on and that's pretty much it.
You had a good time. This was good. It seems all you missed was a 'goodbye' kiss.
Read Chief's outer game and 'sexual' thread. It really comes down to 'creepy' = 'creepy'. If you feel uncomfortable with it and make it seem like you're masterminding a big scheme, she'll feel uncomfortable with it too. Just take a stance and go with it as if all of this is a natural thing that everybody does and you'll be fine.

Yes. I guess you are right . From next time when I am out on a Day 2, I have to plan for a kiss close in advance.


Yesterday

Opened a few sets but only 3 sets are worth talking about because I learned a thing or two from them.

1) This one was a set with one cutie was ready to stay after I had asked for direction, she said she had never heard the name of that place before. I didn’t have much to say after that and so the set left!! That’s so non PUA on my part!! I am supposed to lead the conversation. One of the two girls was really cute. They would have stayed if I had any fucking thing to say!!

2) Another set opened well. There was 1 cutie in this set of 2. I asked for direction and they said that they are going to the same place (huge coincidence) so I joined them and we walked together while talking for about a couple of minutes. Then when I asked for name and tried to shake hands, the cutie immediately raised her guard and didn’t stretch her hand. Anyway, we almost reached our destination soon enough and they decided not to go to the shop where we all were supposed to go and they stayed back.!! Lol.. really funny.

3) I really feel like kicking myself about this set. I made her laugh and teased her but she got so involved in helping me that even I forgot that the opener was supposed to just open and I got sucked into her frame. She even started asking other people where the place was, just for me.lol. I should have number closed the girl or pushed for an Instant date. Next time, when the girl is about to leave I will just ask for name (if I haven’t already) and pitch number exchange no matter what. The other girl who was there in the set was standing there quietly while HB was talking to me and laughing, sometimes looking at her UG friend. I think if I had tried to push for an instant date, the HB would have agreed and the UG would have had no problem either(because from the UG’s body language it looked like she had low self esteem. I may be wrong here though) as the cutie was definitely the dominant one in the set.



Today

I went for an interview in the morning. In the waiting room at the interview venue there were about 10 guys and 1 girl. Everyone was so quiet. People were not even talking to each other, forget about talking to the girl. So I talked to a few guys and then I opened the girl. And then everybody joined in.. haha.. Instantly, I was the leader of the group for breaking the ice. But the guys let me talk to her and didn’t interrupt. Learned a lot about how group dynamic works from yesterday and today. She has been in the city for 4 years and hardly seen much of it. So I told her she should go out more often(literally!) offered to take her out sometime to my favourite place in the city and I number closed her. The other guys were staring in amazement!!

After the interview(which I cleared!!) I went to the girl who had called me for the interview and told her that I owe her a treat and asked for her number. She readily agreed and I took her number!!

In between the rounds I made the two girls laugh and also managed some light kino and high five when no one else was around!! (And definitely I did this separately to both)


Later in the evening in a street while I was returning home I spotted an HB ( and I was still wearing formals)

ME: Hey do you know where is…
HB: No.. sorry..
ME: I asked a few people but no one seems to know. I am just going round and round in circles!!
HB: (smiles)
ME: So you work around here?
HB: No I stay here, My office is in blablabla(which is near the place where I stay)
ME: Interesting, because for me it’s the other way round. I stay where you work and I work where you stay(which is true).
HB: (laughs) Which company do you work at?
ME: blablabla. Where do you work?
ME: blablabla. You from this city?
HB: No actually, I am new here.(ALL TOO FAMILIAR...HAHA…)
ME: So which all places have you visited so far?
HB: I came here just 15 days back. So I haven’t seen much yet.
ME: Yes 15 days is hardly any time. I am guessing you have probably not been to blablabla(my favourite place in the city) Take my number, we will go there sometime.
HB: (smiles)( takes my number)
ME: Give me a missed call so that I have your number too.
HB: (big smile)I will give you a missed call later, I am in hurry(turns around a bit to walk away).
ME: Ok then..Just tell me your number(I ain’t letting you go until I get your number babay!!!)
HB: Ok. Its blablabla
ME: (Yesss!!)Bye then, It was nice to meet you.
HB:Bye

Then we part with each other. She was the most beautiful girl I ever opened(easily an HB10+ by any standards) and it was also one of the smoothest number close I have ever done!!

PS: This was all I could remember from the conversation; it was a little longer than this.


Then while I was waiting for bus I opened the cutest girl at the bus stop. We had a nice chat for about two minutes and I was totally diverting the conversation towards a number close. But her bus came before time and she just left instantly after saying goodbyes. She was all smiles and giggles(without much effort from me.. or may be because I had a high energy and was having fun while talking to her) and was really receptive but I was in a race against time so there was nothing much that I could have done.

Today was an absolutely memorable day .

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A lot has happened in the last one month since I started this journal. So this is just a little adjustment to my goals as per the improvement that I have made and the things that I still need to learn.

Review of my Pick Up Arts GOALS for the year ending 31st March 2012

1. Do 400 approaches. Done = 19 . When I open a set then I count it as an approach only if I have pushed passed the opener (like asking for direction). If I just ask for direction and eject irrespective of their answer then I am not counting it as an approach.
2. Approach any girl confidently anywhere – streets, malls, parks.
3. Learn the skills to continue the conversation for at least 3 - 5 minutes.
4. Push for an Instant date and pitch for the number close at every approach.
5 a) Get at least one Fclose as soon as possible, but I am not going to sleep with anyone and everyone. I will do her only if I think she has the potential to be my girlfriend. And yes, I do have a checklist for the qualities that I am looking for in a girl and also the things that I don’t want in her. 5 b) Find a decent girlfriend.
6. Get a firm grip on SS(Speed Seduction) by watching and applying the techniques in the Videos, Audios and the e-books. Finish studying Dave Riker’s SS and The Sexual Key by J D Fuentes. Learn to deliver 7 patterns like a Master Speed Seducer.
7. Master the art of number closing. Number close at least 40 girls. Done = 4 .
8. Get a feel of the Night Game scene in my city.
9. Learn to run 5 routines (Cube, 5 lies, smile types...) like a pro.
10. Keep increasing my list of Situational openers.
11. Work on my voice whenever there is time.
12. Learn to connect on a deeper level by establishing authority in their world (understanding where they are coming from and making them feel understood).
13. Become good at reading Body Language.
14. Get really good at creating attraction and trust with girls during approach.
15. Work on my Fashion.
16. Do the approaches regularly. At least one approach a day if possible.
17. Review all the video and audio tapes, and ebooks that I have already studied, and make notes from them if required.
18. Do meditation more regularly, for at least 4 days a week.
19. Exercise at least 4 to 5 days a week.

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Agree with ^this. Some of your current goals seem to be aimed at 'proving' you can do all these things but you already have the ability. If you put your mind to it and don't mind wasting a week on approaches, you could probably put a serious dent to your 'approach' goals and # close goals. (Find business/job forums, functions, parties, clubs, etc . . .) If the actual numbers of approaches and phone numbers are your goals, then go for it. If you think that these things are the means towards achieving higher ends, then think about this a little more.

Example: You left out of your list, "FOLLOW THROUGH" with those numbers and gain dates. . . but as long as you do this, you will find a girlfriend well before you hit '400 approaches'. In fact, you might already have a girlfriend in one of the numbers you already got.