| More of a "next time" suggestion than a "repair this time" suggestion, but you should be busy too. I set up a date for next Thursday because I really am extremely busy. I said "we should get together sometime Wednesday or after." She said "ok, let me know". So I said, "well, if you're not free next Wednesday or Thursday night...", and she said Thursday would be better. I'm a busy guy. I won't offer up Friday or Saturday for a first date, or probably even the first few dates. I have something going on Monday and Tuesday (I really do, it's not big, but I don't want to try and cram a first date in there). So I offered up two very specific days and a specific time (at night after work). Never offer the following day regardless of whether you have plans or not. She'll probably say no anyways and you want to look busy. If she offers tomorrow, that's up to you. Generally though, you want to offer up when you are available first. If she's not available then, offer another time further in the future. If she's still not available, then now it's up to her to pick the time. You can actually tease her a little for being complicated, but do not keep offering up times for a date. If she refuses a full three suggestions, then it's on her if she really wants to go out with you. If this continues on past a few suggestions from her (especially if they are unreasonable), assume she is toying with you and move on.
This same rule applies to picking what to do for a date, you have one suggestion ready and a backup. If she doesn't agree with both, only then is it on her to pick what to do. If it reaches this point though, then most likely one of two things happened: you picked two lame date ideas, or she is very high maintanence.
The one thing I want to make clear under no uncertain terms: It is your job to pick a date time and place. Only if she is being difficult do you push it to her. She won't like this because women are not used to having to do these things. Do not leave it too open, but also don't be too specific and have a backup. Appear busy. The best way to do this is to actually be busy.
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