Man this stuff is funny - I was so worried about this when I started 3 months ago saying 'hello' to girls lol (gasp) like its a big deal and then opening - just ask em where a good coffee shop is or where i can buy a suit- but now im stuck on leading the interaction and back to feeling the same way i did doing this mission- just my message- we all feel like this all the time when learning its normal- dont let fear get to you just do it.

Okay, so yesterday I started saying hi to every chick I crossed paths with. At times I was stuck in my own head and totally forgot but other times it went well. Most chicks would say hi back and it would be fine but one chick I said hi to cracked me up. I said hi, she kind of went into a funny spasm touched my hand and said "Oh hiya, you alright?" I nearly burst out laughing but walked on thinking of my experiences in doing this.

I did this every day for a week when I was staring out six years ago. I'd dress up and go to the mall with a friend and just say hi to every single and any set where there was at least a 6. One thing I noticed is that a regular good guy smile earned me only a few responses (3 or 4 out of every 10 girls), while a more bad-boyish smile and a wink would make the girl turn around every time and want to establish a conversation. I would generally follow with small talk and suddenly "Oh I'm sorry I can't stay long, my friend and I came shopping for this X fashion/entrepreneurship/real state/club opening event on X day (almost every time a real actual event, regardless of if I was assisting or not) and we kind of have to get going. Give me your phone number and we'll finish this conversation over drinks some other time." I phone closed 9 times out of 10 with that method. Sometimes though, I felt the need to make myself more important to able to phone close and I'd add that I'd call her whenever I found an open spot on my schedule since I was busy doing some business stuff (just make sure it actually seems plausible, ie: look the part of someone that has business to do).

Anyways, this is a great method to get over AA, and is the first thing I make a friend that's learning the arts do, even before giving any tips or instruction. I even do it from time to time just to make sure I can still charm girls in such a setting that quick.

i done it for a bit but got a few rude results so i bottled

Oddly enough i did this just the other day! Woke up looking like hell on earth, decided to look good and go to the mall...Said hi to a bunch of girls, even shyly opened a 3 set with a stupid opener from the show the pickup artist, got socially mutilated by this jock (asshole), but your right it does work, i was a lot more confident by the end of the day

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Hi. This is my first post on this forum, but right after I post here I will make a formal introduction on the new members thread. I just wanted to share my embarrasing but hillarious first attempt at this.

About five years ago before I joined the Navy I went to a mall to do my say "hi" to ten girls and had great success with my confidence throught the entire day until the last girl.

On my way out of the mall feeling like a million bucks I saw one last lady walking in holding her baby and I went for the good old hi routine with a somewhat raunchy/creeper smile (purely accidental) on my face.

I couldn't figure out why she gave me this horrible look until I looked down and saw that she was nursing her baby while walking around. So here I am looking like some sleazeball giving kinky smiles to breastfeeding mothers. It's quite funny now but at the time I must have turned ten shades of red. Not a bad day if I don't say so myself.

This weekend I plan on doing it again because years later I'm still an AFC that needs confidence to approach.

Thanks,
Gabriel

I did this very thing about a week ago. I was surprised how well it worked. I got several "hi's" and smiles back. My biggest moment was when I said hi to a girl at one of the kiosks. Of course she immediately called me over and tried to start selling me skin care. But I turned the tables on her and threw out a teasing neg (thanks Mystery), which totally changed the conversation. By the time we were finished she was telling me all her shit about her terrible boyfriend who had stood her up the day before. I just listened. I started to go for a number close, but she wasn't that good looking so I didn't. Probably should have anyway just for practice, right?

I am feeling pretty good right now!

Actually I bought 'Rules of the Game' and did the first day assignment which is basically the same as this mission.
So I went out to the mall and I was a bit in a hurry because stores were closing 15 after I arrived there.
First I walked into a store where the sell grooming stuff and perfumes etc.
I entered extremely relaxed with a big smile on my face and totally confident.
I was the last customer in there so I said to the two women working there;
'Hey, I am the last customer so are you gonna take extra care of me or are you gonna throw me out?'
Of course they were polite and I chatted with the hotter one about which kind of perfumes she likes on man. (Both in the 20th, 6 & HB8)

After that I was totally pushed and happy and I walked around the place like if I owned it.
I wandered around a big cloth store then and just started talk to some people, both men and women. Only short phrases and nothing really leading into a conversation. But I totally reached my goals!
Actually it was easier for me to talk to women then men because mostly their reaction is friendlier as far as I experienced it. Also I feel more comfortable talking to women specially when they are potential love interests (or however you might call it)

So today I had an impression on how approaching strangers will effect me and it already did a lot. I actually just decided, writing this, that I will continue this mission everyday in order to become more confident about approaching.


I actually have to write a thank you e-mail to DJ Fuji. Because it was because of his speech, at the 21 Convention I watched on youtube, that I had enough courage to step out of my comfort zone.
His speech was so awesome and encouraging and I learned something extremely important from it. DISCOMFORT=GROWTH
Only when you step over your line of comfort you can grow. And in this mission I learned that this is totally true!

What could you lose?
NOTHING!
What you could earn?
A LIFE!

So if you approach somebody and you get blown out, who cares?
You don't know them and probably won't ever see them again.

DJ Fuji told a story. When he was a Marine they had to kick each others shins all the time. Why? Because it kills the nerves and once they are in battle and get hit in the shin they won't feel it anymore.

It's the same with approaching and getting blown out.
If you approached 1000 sets you won't care anymore if you get blown out once.


I highly recommend every speech of the 21 Convention. You can find them on youtube. Channel is Under21convention07 or on the21convention.com

There is so much I learned from all of the videos. And it also helps me right now to find out which kind of person or PUA I am.

This is great advice to help get over your social anxiety, but something it lacks, is what to do when someone does stop dead in their tracks and talk to you. What should we do?

Dictatorship! DICTATORSHIP!!!

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HEIL!

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What would you do? React positive and talk to them. I would really appreciate if more people were open minded and just friendly to strangers.


and Solteris what kind of sh%& is that. I am German so wtf?!
Basically it's some Nazi stuff he is saying and I have no idea what he means.

I've done this a ton in the past and it works.. Maybe not all the time, but it does work exactly like it's intended.. I guess the reason i'm posting is to remind the guys who try this - that it's not so much about "getting a girl to talk to you" but more-so about breaking your anxiety about approaching women.

99% of the time, women will not approach you unless you have exceptions why they could approach with less pressure.. E.g. you're super hot, have lots of money, already have a crowd entertained and laughing, are standing next to someone more beautiful than they are (and that woman is talking to you).. and so forth..
- Basically the point being: Guys do the approaching.. and if you have something in your way, like social anxiety, this "mission" will try to help you overcome that.

I did this today.... and I uttterly failed. Lol. I don't know why but the mall today seemed like there was less than a hundred people in it. AA plagues me all the way, and I'm too slow(trying to use the 3-second rule)

I did this a few days ago and strongly recommend it. I'm not saying I'm a master PUA now. But it definitely killed off some approach anxiety. I got so excited doing it. I started approaching afterwards without even thinking about it. I want to replicate this feeling whenever I can.

I’ve decided to do this whenever I go out now. It feels great. Some people look at you oddly and some people are rude. But the majority of people say hi back. And look at you like you’re important. You feel like you own the town. You feel like everyone wants you. And if you’re thinking those things-your body language, everything about you is conveying that same message. You look fun and interesting. You look like the don.

Thanks chief, this was great.