Hi, I'm new with all this PUA stuff. Thanks to all of you who're on this site trying to help and not trying to dig in our pockets.

So, my ex. I was dating a girl who wasn't the most attractive girl I've been with or dated. Nor was she very good in bed either. She was pretty average. She was pretty boring too. I was in love with her, she was different despite all of the above. I took her virginity and gave her 5 orgasms at times, at least one everytime for her. So, her dad decided that I'm not good enough for her cause of a silly thing like me having too much skin pigment. I'm sure his friends in the Klan meetings think he's a great guy. Personally I'm not a fan.

She leaves me and wants to be friends [one of my least favorite words]. So, this girl I loved and wanted to marry broke up with me. I'm depressed despite efforts to do things to get my mind off it or things that cheer me up.

I don't want to care that she left. I don't think she's coming back. And I want to find someone else and get married and have kids at some point.

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Welcome

Go and take a sit and read around the forum, go read some pua methods.

And im sorry to hear about ur break-up.
The best thing to do is not be friends with her, you only do yourself pain with it. Its even better to stop having contact with her, but thats up to you.
The best to do is to forget her, and move on, learn new girls to date with so your mind will be focused on them.

Goodluck!

It sucks to be hurt.

The generic break up advice is solid, in my opinion. Be the best person you can be. Feeling sorry for yourself is a surefire way to solidify a breakup and won't give you a chance of another, and the best revenge is a life well lived.

Not everyone here has the intention of sleeping with 10 girls a week. To some, probably many, it's a filtering process.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

It's both filtering and practice to me.

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hi there Chime, hope you are feeling better.

i noticed what you wrote:

I was dating a girl who wasn't the most attractive girl I've been with or dated. Nor was she very good in bed either. She was pretty average. She was pretty boring too

i intend not to judge you my fellow pua friend, but, if you point this out then maybe it was not really love?

things happen for a reason...
as NLP mentions, there are no failures, only lessons learned.

So, in this case, if it ended, that's because there is out there a girl even better than that, and you are now on the path of acquiring new skills that are going to help you overcome this challenge.

you will now more prepared, more skilled, more focused, more goal orientated.

concentrate in what you want, write it down.
it actually helps writing in a piece of paper some qualities you would like a girl to have in order to date you, to win you, to have the honour of being your girlfriend.


so:


goal: i want a New girlfriend

Qualities she needs to have:
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Imagine:visualize yourself doing things with a girl
Antecipate: create scenarios, create lists of places you would like to take her to a first date, and so on...

remember: in order to receive happiness, we have to send happiness to the world

regards,

Jesus

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I like to draw. And Often will draw a picture of the kind of girl I want in my life, which I'll feel is not enough. So I'll make a comic strip, this way it displays the character of that girl more.

Really all I care about it kindness towards me and everyone else. Which I find incredibly rare. Her, my ex, she was an amazing person who loved and cared about everyone around her. That's why I was interested in the first place. All the other things just didn't matter after that.

Everyone has something different they want or value in their relationships. Some people value sex, some an interesting personality, some having fun exciting things to do, others the deep intelectual conversation, etc. etc. etc.. I value kindness the most...which could lead into a whole conversation as to why anyone values what the value [though this may be useful for finding out some of the flaws a person has in their game and how to properly deal with them, now is not the time].

There, in my opinion, isn't a much better girl than her out there. I felt the same about a girl I dated a few years before I dated Rose [the one mentioned above]. Deb, the girl a few years back, was pretty amazing and I didn't think there was anyone better for me than her. We broke up and I wasn't really hurt by it. Eventually I met Rose and felt just as happy as I was with Deb. Neither are better, they're both very different. I was happy with both girls and feel as if I can, if I learn the right thing, find someone different I'll like just as much as I liked them.

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quick question:

whats your score?

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