I recently made the mistake of becoming too friendly with a girl and believe I have entered what is the seemingly inescapable 'friend zone.'

She is a voluptuous brunette and a Danish au-pair who I would rate at around 7.5.

I have known this girl for just over a month now and she loves my attention because she knows few people in the country at the moment.

Although I see her about once a week and I know that she likes to see me, I don't think I have received any IOIs.

How can I make her attracted to me in this stage of friendship? Am I too far gone with no way of escaping?

I believe that if/once I kiss her, it will be pretty downhill from there.

Any advice would be helpful,

Thanks,

Mikael

Have you done ANY kino? Is there ANY sexual tension?

Well, not really.

It's all too 'friendly'

I have danced with her, taken her to the cinema, even bought her dinner once.

However, every now and then I sense a little spark and I think she senses that I like her.

I am seeing her on Monday.

We're going into London to have an early lunch, watch a film and do a little shopping.

Any ideas?

Mikael

OUCH OUCH OUCH OUCH OUCH . . . you are already in the "I'm paying for everything zone".

Since you're seeing her Monday, amp up the KINO. If there is ANY true attraction, you need to find out, NOW. Don't go and rape her, but amp up the kino.

Then, flirt with her. Bust on her. Some. Push/pull. Things like that.

Thanks, but don't worry.

I'm not paying for the cinema tickets and we'll go dutch on the lunch.

I have been through a post about making a move in the cinema and I DO intend on amplifying the intensity of the physical contact.

If, however, she is unresponsive or responds negatively, will it be awkward between us and if so, how can I ensure that this doesn't happen?

Making a move in a movie just seems like a bad idea to me. I don't have experience in this area, but mostly because movies are just bad places to work on a target because you can't really talk or have any body language going on. Its great once you've already got her to the point where you can kiss her and put your arm around her and on her leg, but until then, its just putting distance between you and then only gives you something to talk about later.

What you want to do is hit a mall, or a park, or some place where you can talk and be unrestrained by having to sit beside her and not talk. If you get her at a mall, then you can grab her hand and smile at her devilishly and then run/skip to a store a little ways away and then grab something like a necklace, or a hat or shirt and put it on her, or hold it up to her, while touching her enough to make her comfortable with you touching her. Seriously, malls are where its at.

In the theater, you're gonna be sitting there and suddenly try to take her hand or put your arm around her and its just too forward unless you've already established that there is something between you. Stay away until after you have kissed.

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Regardless of if your paying or not, sounds to me like your stuck on her.

Go on the date and do what LA says, escalate kino and take it from there, if you do not get the reaction you wanted then act less intrested in her, freeze her out a bit, and possibly open a set or 2 while your out. If by the end of this "date" you are still not happy or made any progress...

FREEZE HER OUT for a few days, a week, in that time sarge as much as possible, take pictures while hanging out with other people...go out, only answer your phone if she calls while your in a loud and social envirnment (What?!?!? i cant hear you im at the club/bar/etc...call ya later).

Then talk to her again, if she asks you were busy, out with some new friends, w/e...show her pictures, work on kino a bit and go from there. I agree with Rye i have been comming up with alot of routines to use in the mall...such a diverse place to game. Plenty of sets for social proof, plenty of new envirnments to run routines in (book store, clothing outlets, toy stores, etc)..best of all you can talk, but generally these places are loud enough that people dont feel insecure about speaking out loud (think the fat dude in front of you trying to pay his bill over the phone and yelling all his personal info into the phone). This will allow her to respond to you, without her feeling like her responses will be scrutinized by others.


GL

Nice man! I'm glad to see you like the mall game too. Its my favorite "date" to take people on, its got so many different settings, so if you start to feel something isn't working, you can just bounce to another spot that has what you need to make it work; whether it be kino, or attraction, or comfort, or DHVing, it can all be done in the mall. Not to mention the benifits of hanging out in so many different stores is bouncing without the effort of trying to get someone to go to different places, because its all in one building! I <3 MALL!

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Thanks guys.

The place where I am taking her is in my opinion, the best shopping centre in the country with plenty of diversity in shopping areas. I will try to put to use your reccomendations.

Cheers for all the advice,

Mikael

funniest thing i ever did in the movies was take a girl too see 300 i was slightly drunk an was chattin all the way through, i got really pissed off at leaning over so i jus grabbed her hand stood her up an sat her on my lap much more fun way to spend a movie

malls are good because afterwards you learn alot abotu each toher too, music taste food taste, clothe taste, the shoppin date is one of the best..

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Check out a thread I made a while back called Ask Rye Lee. There are some good mall game pointers in there. If you want, feel free to revive it with a question, I hate bumping my own topics.

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Awww, Rye, come on now. Where's the alpha in ya? I have no problem bumping my own topics . . . lol

Why dont u take her out to a club, full of HB8s and HB9s? Go out and aproach with her, like a pawn, she will prove preselction. Game HB9, let go of HB7...

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