Last summer I met an old friend. She's pretty, smart but also rather introvert. She always had the feeling she could talk to me, and she admitted she had a crush on me in the past. But I just broke up with my last ex, so I wasn't really paying any attention to her rather blunt invitation to meet up.

I basically blew her off, which I didn't mind. A couple of weeks later I heard she ran into the arms of one my friends. He's an psycho with women, so I knew it would have a dramatic outcome. My philosophy is "Everyone chooses their destiny,' so I never told her that he's a psycho. I start dating again, but in october I received some urgent messages. She told me he didn't have any intention to have a relationship with her. That could hardly be a surprise, since he's married 4 years. Big drama, I listened to her story. She was really depressed, so I took her out a couple of times. Nothing happened, because my sexual drive had been crushed by her continuous babbling about that guy.

A couple of months later she again ran into his arms, and the result was the same. Complete drama. But now he went one step further in his manipulation: stalking her, threatening to commit suicide, etc. Psycho stuff. I didn't know until her best friend told me this. I decided to intervene, because this really went to far. So I told the story of that guy, explaining her he's a psychopath and he's doing this to other women all the time. She was furious, realizing she had been played the whole time.

The next weeks we talked a lot, and suddenly we admitted we have mutual feelings. It went pretty well for a couple of weeks, until she sent me a short message she didn't want to date anymore. Because I hate female drama, I just moved along. But some other friends ran into her, and she told them she really wants to see me again. But she's angry with me that I never warned her about the psycho, and also because I never replied to her last lame messages. My friends explained that I just was fed up with the whole thing. The result: she wants to meet again, and sent several emails. The last one:"Please do write down what's on your mind, I want to know".

What to send? In the meanwhile, I'm chasing other skirts, but I built up a emotional thing with her.

You will never have a normal relationship with that girl. At best, it's going to be an emotional rollercoaster. More bad than good.

If you can, walk away now. It will save you both a whole lot of trouble in the long run.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

Well, one of my friends told me she's a catch, but I'm not going to be happy with her. Difficult one, because I have to admit that I'm attracted to "challenges".

As the guy above said it can't work out. The foundation has already been set. And what happens when you build a house on a fucked up foundation? Give it up bro. We all like challenges but the most you'll get out of this 1 is good sex. Go sow your seeds in some fertile soil. This chicks concrete.

Appreciate your insight. I just hate to lose when I started something. It's my ego playing tricks.

And it seems you are prophetic. She called me yesterday in a shotgun-style. She immediately started to blast accusations. I just said that she was talking bs, she became aggravated, still telling the same crazy accusations, and after a while she hung up. Women and telephones ... evil duo.

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