I am dating a girl thats a year younger than me.
She is extremely attractive, she is smart, down to earth and sweet, both our families like the other one, etc....

Besides her having a somewhat boring/uneventful life compared to mine, she is a very nice pick....


so, whats my problem?


She is a typical teenage girl. She is still had the age where she is looking for prince charming and passionate/true love. The age where "Dear John" and "the Notebook" are her dreams of men....

she wants a serious and long-term relationship BUT wont put out for a long time, probably over 9 months. She has had sex before (after 1.5 yrs with her ex) but she just seems too uncomfortable with anything sexual. I believe she is less mature and I dont know how to change her viewpoint on it.

You guys have any thoughts? I am not getting into a long-term relationship with an attractive girl only to wait a year and not get any.....I am a guy, I have my wants...

1)Should I make our relationship official and just let it be?

2) keep dating her and escalating

3) If she declines my escalation, even after multiple freeze outs/push-pulls, have a talk with her about why she doesnt like that? and that its natural?

4) move on to the next one

anyone?

There is no reason to bump your thread so quickly.
And your a typical teenage boy (you did say your a year older than her) But to answer you question. Break it off with her. You be doing her and your self a favor. She cares more than having sex, while you care more about sex. Ya you can try to seduce her and what have you but if she isn't ready for sex in general your not going to get any for a long time with her.

haha, the one-hour bump. that's a record!

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im in the exactly the same posistion as this guy except, the girl flirts with me sexually and then i sexually flirt back and i get the words... but i thought you was a good boy, we've only just been going out... hold on their cowboy
i think shes playing mind games with me.

It depends on how much you like her. If you really have a thing for her then respect her boundaries and don't make a big deal out of it. She will warm up eventually, sooner than you expect. It shouldn't feel like you are forcing her to do something she doesn't want to. If the sex is that important to you and you can't afford to wait a little bit then it's best to just end things in a friendly way before anyone gets hurt. But if you really like her, don't make sex a big deal at all. Respect her boundaries, and before long she will want it! Best of Luck
- Muze

She is a teenage girl, she is automatically classed as "clueless".

Escalate escalate and escalate!!

Escalate in person, never do it via text. Ie; smart PUA phrases, sexting etc. These techniques will get the dreaded "what? Im like sooooo totally confused?!"

Love this

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Well, I'd also try to escalate heavily, if that still doesn't help, your final move could be if you just tell her that you can't go on like that, either she put's out our you'd have to break up with her. But that should REALLY be your final move, as chances are good that she'll twist it around to "So I have to sleep with you, you just want me for Sex blabla", and then there's no chance for recovery, that's the point of no return