Hey guys! Since my journey 3-vt86910.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=30 is not really going as I thought it would go, I'm posting in a different topic, just to ask a question.

So, here's my situation: I have this one-itis. I obviously really like her, we have a lot in common and we can talk for hours. Now, on her facebook it said that she had a relationship. She never really mentioned it, so I went on a date with her. It went really well, a lot of talking, but not so much escalating from my side. Nonetheless, we talked untill 4 in the morning, which is not bad, right? I asked her about her boyfriend too. She started talking about him; that he is not listening to her, never asks what she thinks, has no ambition.... After that night, she apologized that she talked so much about her boyfriend, and since then we have been texting and chatting on Facebook a lot (like minimum one hour everyday).

So I figure, I'm really into her, and she's really into me, the only thing that stands in our way is her boyfriend (she told me that she didn't dare to split up because his family already knows her, and all their friends are common to his friends; she also said she regretted not knowing me two years earlier). Also, when we went home at 4 in the morning, there was a moment that I was sure I could've kissed her: we said goodbye, but we were standing still; if I went in for the K-close, I was sure I would've succeeded (I don't know how to explain it, but I feel it when a girl wants to kiss). I didn't do it, and maybe that's better, because it would've complicated everything. Also, I talked about my last field report (check my journey), where I had a succesful K-close (I thought this would be a major DHV).

Anyway, my question now is, what should I do? One thing is sure: I'll set up a date next week with her (just some casual drinking in a bar or something). But what do I do then? My idea was to talk again, but escalate as much as possible (I saw this 21 convention talk of Gambler, which was really useful for undercover escalating). I also talked to some friends about it, and one (male) friend said I have to bring up the boyfriend and ask her what's it all about. I think this is too direct. Another friend (female) advised me not to force it too much, let it just flow naturally. I think this is too indirect.... So, what would you do?

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Alright I'm going to let you in on some great knowledge handed down to me from my teacher .

There are two kinds of guys in a girls life. They are as follows:

Mr Right
And
Mr Right Now

Two things you can do from here. You can either have a good time (sex) with her and keep it casual as. Most females actually...

(This post took a little bit longer than expected. Had to go chat to some chick in some big old fuck me boots at the airport lol.)

Ok back to conversation at hand.

So Most females actually will rather enjoy having two men in their life.

One AFC for the purposes of financial security, make her feel good about herself and raise the kid's that arn't his.

One PUA, because he is the lover he turns her on due to the excitement and thrills of cheating and his general awesomeness.

This describes your first option, keep her as a side screw she may down for that. Don't be ashamed about it.

Option two, this refers back to the Mr Right and Mr right now. You can break that relationship up. Firstly do not feel ashamed for doing such a thing. It's not something I would suggest for a very healthy relationship, but had it been a healthy relationship you wouldn't be in this predicament. Her boyfriend is considered to be Mr Right now. A relationship due to fall soon as soon as mister right or the new mister right now comes along.

You can get her to see you as her Mr Right, form a new relationship and see how it goes. Or let her see you as her new Mr right now and plough for fun

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