*NOTE* It would not let me start a thread in the relationships section, said I had to have over 20 posts. Anyways, feel free to move it there.

So to preface this little blurb I will tell you a bit of what has gone on over the past month and a half. I ended up dumping my girlfriend at the begining of march, she was controlling and manipulative and quite possibly bipolar. It all ended after she yelled at me over ,really, nothing for an hour so I dumped her after one time too many. I went about my life, dealt with missing her (despite me being the one that dumped her), and took a ride on an emotional roller coaster. I discovered this website and started gaming on women and slowly improved my game. I was not really sure if I wanted a relationship or not as I move to a different city in a few months.

I re-connected with a girl that I had not been able to talk to while dating my ex. I thought she was cool, has the ideal attitude towards a relationship for me (laid back, not clingy, not controlling, and trusting). We ended up going on some dates, kissed, random kino, madeout, I got a handjob (she is a virgin btw).

Today it dawned on me that I really don't want to be in a long distance relationship. I don't want to ruin the friendship we had together. I also am afraid I will come across somebody better when I move. I guess that I don't think I have strong enough initial feelings for them to develop into 'love'.

I don't know how to even begin to talk to her about this. What do I say? What should I say? Any thoughts, insight or opinions, or even similiar stories would be great

Suppose I should add that this girl was the one that my ex always thought I would get with if I were single. So the added stress of my ex seeing us together and making a huge scene isn't helping...

Work out what you want first, being indecisive will get you know where except trouble land. Once you've decided then talk to her and listen to what she has to say. If you dont want a long distance relationship (and no one can blame you for that) then let her know that. Be direct but not harsh so she gets the point without being hurt.

You just got out of a long term relationship. As much as I'm sure you care about this girl, you don't have to feel obliged to go out with her for any reason. I say you take some time to sort yourself out and enjoy going out with different girls. When you're not hurt by your previous relationship anymore, decide if the girl you're messing around with right now is the one for you.

Bottom line: take your time.

Well this girl and I started out as good friends. So I KNOW that I still want to be friends. I have decided that I can't go away and do a long distance relationship, and I know that I do have some feeling for her just not how strong they are. I'm thinking of sayign something along the lines of "you know the last couple of weeks with you have been awesome. But after alot of thinking yesterday I owe it to you to tell you this now. I realized that I can't get involved with someone before I move, and I don't want things to end later on and end up with the both of us being hurt."

That sounds good to me. Let us know how it works out. Good luck.

Well, talked to her the other night. Told her I don't want commitment, or a girlfriend right now. Also told her that I can't promise anything (such as finding another girl) when I move. I also told her that i am not looking for love or anythign serious. She still talks to me wanting to cuddle, make out etc... Which is fine by me mainly because her hands end up in my pants Sounds like I talked my way into a FWB. I also warned her not to get too attatched to me.

Haha nice one!

She still wants to go on dates. I am just keeping my distance, taking my time replying to texts, hopefully reminding her subtlely that we are not in an exclusive relationship. Today for instacne she invites me over to help her with some things and 'cuddle'. Nothing interesting will happen as her house is full of people right now, I kindly declined saying I had blah blah blah to do (kind of making her want me more I think?) so hopefully when her and I go to the club Saturday things will go my way.

ALMOST got blue balled... She came over, we were watching TV, TV got boring so we made out (lol ) rubbed her sweet spot over her jeans (shes on the rag SPAM) made her moan etc etc, then her hands ended up right where I like them However, she ran out of time and had to leave, my issue is how do YOU try to subtley suggest a girl move from using her hand to a BJ? I don't know even if she's down for that, but still worth the try.

B24

Seeing as her hands are in your pants, do you really need to be subtle about it. You could just say "I want a blowjob" and see how she reacts. Why deal with all the subtle bull shit, when being bold is so much quicker and more honest.

Also, if this gives you a bit of extra confidence, manswers said that virgins give out more bjs than any other demographic of women. So just throw it out there.

i say you stand up, sit her down, unzip your pants, pull out your cock, and point it at her mouth, gently grab the back of her head and take her down on it.

that dominant enough?

lol

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Epic. +1 for a good laugh