ok so im talking to this girl from work. we were facebook chatting the other night, and i was like 'i gotta come clean, i totally would have invited you over to watch a movie or some shit, cuz i think you are cute to boot' and went on to say why i couldn't (my living situation). keep in mind we had a few weeks of casual flirting leading up to that, it wasn't just out of the blue.

anyway she then was like well i gotta come clean too, you always caught my eye and blah blah. you get the picture. she basically said she was in to me too.

then i asked if that mean she'd say yes if i asked her to hang out outside of work, which she also said yes to. but then she explained how she has commitment issues and does the whole 'k bye' thing a lot. to which i responded, hey thats cool girl im just looking to chill with a cool girl.

so we agreed to keep whatever this is like, super super casual (shes moving to cali sometime in the summer anyway).

so i was in an LTR for a while, and its hard to be in any sort of relationship in my situation. but i guess i do wanna have fun with her, and use her for practice in the future.

ok my question is how do i escalate the situation from here. im not too worried about when we hang out, i can hold my own decently, plus me and this girl click. but i need to get to the hang out part. on the way home from work the other day i asked her if she wanted to do lunch cuz she only had a morning class. and then she said 'well i have this alumni lunch thing' and then looked at me and said 'and im not just saying that' or something along those lines. and i was like 'oh, thats cool'.

now, since we agreed to keep it super super casual, i dont want to like text/call/FB chat her again to make it seem like im pressing it super hard. but at the same time, i dont want to never say anything and have it just dissipate.

so whats my next move here guys, hook up a newb, with *some* natural talent with your endless well of PUA mastery.

k thx

Bro, you are being waaaaay too gentle with this whole thing. I promise this friendship will lead nowhere....unless her vagina is on the IR, girls are always readily on the market for a man. You want to fuck her, right? It's important to think about making a bold move forward with this. This friendship gets you nowhere and either does waiting.

You dont have to go balls out and give her an ultimatum. Be bolder and get the ball rolling. She's nothing special for you to be hanging over for years to come.

"Piss or get off the pot"

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ok well got any ideas for the bold move?

its not that like i was trying to be too gentle, or think that shes 'all that special', cuz shes not. but shes a cool chick.

what i was really stuck on was the appropriate amount of time before asking her to hang out again. too soon = needy, clingy, etc etc. but too long is like you said, 'piss or get off the pot'

so i was looking for the happy medium.

appreciate the feedback though.

Well, at this point being bolder isn't that hard. Ask her out somewhere, show your interest. If you dont do it soon, it might be too late. At first you cant let a girl work too hard for it, you gotta let yourself out there and if she bites, gradually make her work harder and harder. You wont know where this is going to go until you take the leap.

Im not going to go into specifics because that's better coming for you so you can plan a venue and specifics but just make sure it's fun and lowkey, an arcade or a place where you two can walk around and keep it light. Let her know what's up. If a girl is truly interested in taking it further, she will give you all the necessary opportunities.

Dont hint towards a relationship with her for now. Your simply "interested". You're giving her an audition of sorts Whether this be the case or not, she doesn't need to know the truth. It's important that you pursue this with some intensity.

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A Tru nigga