Well Mr.Panda.

Your thesis is a good one. But I already admitted to it being me trying to protect myself from rejection. (me being playful) I was truly being playful has nothing to do with my ego. IDK with this girl its just weird man. She talks dirty to me, initiates all the flirting, and has even said she feels like she "looks like a bum standing next to me" she has told me already that we are only going to just be friends, but she always follows that up with and "well IDK really". She always hints that I'm her type, like almost down to a T (looks, personalty and extracurriculars)

And also, I put so much emphasis on her blushing because

1. She blushes every time I hug her EVERY TIME (we hug a lot.)
2. She calls me "Mr. Make Me Blush"

So IDK ppl's blushing theories on this make sense, but now you can see why I disagree....


So now you guys can now look at this at another angle maybe, or maybe you still see it the same. Either way I still don't know whats going on in her head nor will I know what she wants. I backed off pursuing her, but she always pulls me back into trying. Sooooo i really just dont know what to do......

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^Keep trying to initiate kisses and other flirtations. If you decide to drop it all - you will for sure be friendzoned. She flirts with you, she dirty talks and she thinks you're handsome.

Keep flirting back and be sexual with her. Take her out someplace and have a casual date. Maybe she's not the 'sloppy makeout in a car' kind of girl. Go out with her and try kissing her again.

The important point that stands though is this: Whatever you do, do not try pushing for the kiss like you did last time. That's really gonna blow any chance you have with her in the future (if it hasn't screwed things up already).

No pushy neediness whatsoever. She rejects, you back off and try again later.

You might be right about the car make out thing, i didn't look at it like that. But she doesn't like going on dates. She would rather stay home and play video games. (I KNOW WHAT A CATCH!) Only opportunity I have to do anything to her is when she drops me off. She never can come up and chill, for she always has to be at her parents shop after class.

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Anakin,

As you know I've been following this story all along. I've gotta tell ya, Buddy. I don't have a good feeling about this girl. I've paid close attention to the details of your interactions with her and also to the way she responds.

Let's put it like this.........

OK, we are going to discuss "theory" versus "reality" versus "practicality".

In theory, this girl keeps you guessing, she may like you, she may not, she may fuck you, she may not, she may kiss you, she may not, she may have issues too big to work around, she may not, she might start acting cool tomorrow or the day after, she may not... see the problem with theory?

In reality, this girl isn't working out for you, no matter what you do, it doesn't click. No matter what you put out there, she isn't responding well to it. It seems that she is overly-suspicious of your game. She has you figured for a player, and let me tell you what is likely to happen. She already has you pigeon-holed as a player, she told you that early on, you talked with her honestly about managing expectations, she didn't respond well, you kept pursuing, she hasn't responded well.

In practicality, let me tell you what is going to happen. You are going to end up being the bad guy. Even thought you aren't the bad guy. You will end up as that. Because this chick (the one who's been hurt in the past, right?) already has it predetermined in her head that you are going to trash her heart and rip out her soul. That is why she doesn't respond appropriately to any of your stimuli.

Listen, Bud, I know you think you've got a good one here with this girl. I'm not so convinced though. She is keeping you in the "theory" phase. Maybe she will turn it around, today, tomorrow, after one more talk, after one more text, after one more visit, etc. Problem is in practicality, she is actually the one playing games because of her own issues. And when it comes to a head, which it will, you will be villainized.

Then you will be sitting there going "what the fuck?"

I'd chalk it up on this girl and be done with it just like you were ready to the last couple of times. There is a pattern repeating here.

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This girl is Asian..right??

Yeah I don't wanna reveal the race, for getting caught on here purposes......

Mack your right.

I pretty much figured that out myself already, I guess I keep holding on to the possibility of her turning around. But she prolly won't, and I know this......

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I'd give her the gift of missing you.

Say "you know how I feel about you, if you wanna do this, you know where to find me"

and then fucking disappear into the night!!!

One of two things will happen:

- she will never find you, meaning she dont' give a shit
- she will come find you, and she will quit acting stupid

Seems like a win-win because it sounds you ain't gonna get your cock wet with this one until she stops the games. Because at this point, it's become "games".

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I totally agree with tvikyle!

This is a fail proof... did it last night works like a charm.... if the girl hesitates even for a second, don't wait just kiss her.

Ima try that mystery K-Close.

And mack, I can't disappear completely for I have class with her. I was thinking just maybe hugging her and then not paying any kind of attention to her after that? Cause she does blush when I hug her......

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