im being really direct with this girl. The situation is shes been seeing a guy, but then met me and we had sex, and she knows him better but i wouldve been a shoe in if I was there first.

so i was just really direct and straightforward to her.. said "im really into you, i find you incredibley attractive and im interested in you"

her reply is

"but you dont really even know me"

weve only met 3 times

can I win her over? what should I say

I'm not an expert, but I think you should build more comfort. Take her out on a quiet date, like coffee followed by a long walk so you can get to know each other better. Let her know you want to get to know who she is and you're not attracted to her just because of her looks.

yea thanks, im kinda just looking for a reply to what she said tho, any suggestions?

eh fuck it i just replied saying

which is a shame, thats why i want to get to know u more

That's pretty much what I was going to suggest, something like: "well, how about we fix that?" and set up a date.

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And what did she said back to you?

hmm well shes prettyy much dating this guy it seems, it was just unofficial when we had sex. Guess my timing was a little late. I know shes got a thing for me, but i think i gotta know when to just walk away and leave it be, when obviously she has more going on with someone else...... itd look bad to actually try and break them up? or is this something we try and do? I know im overall better looking and more alpha than the guy shes seeing, that shows why she slept with me, just before they became official.

anyway... she said

"its a shame that youre going away then" (going on holiday for 2 weeks tomorrow)

then I just said,

"no im looking forward to it. but when I get back, i want you"

her reply...

"i have a boyfriend! you are so naughty! im nothing special, you can do alot better than me"

my reply...

"but i was spoiled as a child and Im used to always getting what I want, and thats you."

really looking forward to some opinions. I think she just saw us as only a one night fling, but once I started being direct to wanting her, she might be seeing the possibility that she coulda had me instead.

i dunno what to do? walk away or what

i assume this is by text message?

what is it you're really interested in?

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yea text. I dunno, i never really plan it, i just go with the flow.

if im attracted to them, i see them.

couple months later if i still like em i date em.

oh well the girl is what im interested in... her unique personality and looks. thought we clicked

This seems to be turning into a scene from The Notebook!

This could easily go, if not already, to her using you to get attention without having to give anything...just BEWARE! You sound like you know this already, but us guys tend to get caught too....women are good at these things...

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TBH mate go for it, if their relationship is solid she would never of slept with you. Obviously he is lacking in a way you are not, but he has something you dont or she would choose you.

Elicit her values, find out what she wants from a guy what her bf is giving her and what he isnt and then be everything he is and more, and then it is an easy choice for her.

yea, i think Im just having a moral debate over whether I should:

- not give a fuck about her new little relationship and try and AMOG the crap out of the guy to make her breakup with him to make me happy. lol

- try AS ABOVE and if unsuccessful - would look bad and like I cant take a hint when to stop....

- dont do anything - just forget about it, they breakup soon hopefully, then move in for the kill

[quote/] - dont do anything - just forget about it, they breakup soon hopefully, then move in for the kill[/quote]


I think it should be this option, but a pet hate of mine is not taking life by the balls. I hate sitting back and 'hoping' instead of making things happen for myself.

Let me rephrase that question, do you want

- just Sex

- a Relationship with her