Wow... be proud of your country man

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Quick Update.

Small update on Miss Sunset and a new number close.

Miss Sunset.
I've texted her yesterday Miss Sunset to confirm the hour for Monday.


She answered later:


LOL, come on! I just hope she'll still be sick to go to that damn park with me! Plus, I can't go on the next weekend, I'll be in Rio de Janeiro! I played it cool and replied:


I did not really know what to answer I confess but well, that might make it. She did not answer to that text.

New number close: Gerontology Girl.
Well, to be honest she approached me, she asked me some stuff about the bus. Nothing really new here but I tried to be more direct as mentioned in one of my competence pyramid. Key elements:
- I was a bit surprised at the beginning but answered to her question, told her that I did not knew since I was an exchange student. I wanted her to know that I was not from here.
- When she got her non-info, there was a small 2 min blank since I was unable to engage the conversation. I think it came across as "he just doesn't care about me", not that bad in the end.
- She opened me again: "how long have you been here?", I told her that I've been in Brazil for 2 months and a half. Actually, she meant how long have I been waiting for the bus... lol. I reframed her as being interested in me by accident. She started to ask even more questions about me.
- asked her what she was studying, told me "gerontology" (haha). I smiled, she asked me if I knew what it was, I said "I think so, in French it's the same thing: gérontologie". Now she knows I'm French.
- I negged her a bit and asked for some advice to stay young.
- My bus stop was approaching, time to # close that... Asked her if she knew some places to get an ice-cream... told me yes... bla bla... I was a bit disappointed by myself, since I was not direct as in "hey, you're cute, let's get a drink together"... I told her: "wanna go there with me?"... Okay, that's not that good but well, she was surprised and accepted. Got her phone number after that.

A few hours later, I texted her so she can get my number.


WOW! Got a answer!


I did not answer to that of course. She sent me a new text:


I replied "okay". I've just added her. I think it will be simpler to actually plan this through Live Messenger. I'll try to get her to get the ice cream this weekend so I can warm up for Miss Sunset.

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DAY 59: follow-up on Japanese Architect and new number close.
Texting Japanese Architect and meeting U2 Fan.

Context.
I've been a bit down lately... I realized that in two and a half months, I'm going back to France. Let's be honest, it scared the shit out of me... I was already picturing myself back in France without any success in Brazil... but something has changed in these negative phases... I can smile about it, I'm less anxious. So even if I was not gaming I decided to text a few number closes and get some dates. I've already called Miss Sunset and I'm supposed to see her tomorrow. I went to the architecture party Friday night but did not see Japanese Architect. It was time to contact her.

Adressed issues.
- I've not been good at following up on number closes.
- I've not had enough date opportunity.

Goals.
- Get dates.

Strategy.
Since I was in a weak phase lately, I chose to text instead of calling.
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Japanese Architect.
I # closed her in the architecture party on the university campus and wanted to see her again this Friday (the party is every friday) but she was not there, so I texted her about a "market" she told me about during the party since I wanted to buy some bracelets.
Funny thing is I opened two girls in a mall to be sure this message was in good Portuguese... lol. She replied:
I tried to neg her and be funny in my answer:
She replied:
The goal was actually to make her come with me but yesterday was obviously not a good day for me, I was busy all day. The problem is, I'll be in Rio next Saturday! I was trapped so I thought about ending the convo and get her to come to another date during the week.
She replied:
So now this is interesting... she'll be in Rio too I'll text her again to get try to see her before Thursday (I'll go to Rio on Tursday) and again in Rio.

Meeting U2 Fan.
I was really happy about all that. I was in a good state of mind. I went to an Irish pub to see the "clasico": Real Madrid vs. Barcelona. I was with my Italian friend. the pub was full of international people. As we approached the bar to order some Caipirinhas. I was speaking translating in English what the barman was saying to my Italian friend. I noticed a girl at the bar, "femme fatale" like. She was beautiful and was smiling. I opened her with the stupidest opener on earth: are you Brazilian? She said yes... "that's why you're laughing"... (I was asking for the card but the word is not the same in Brazilian Portuguese and in Portuguese...). Key elements:
- She was by herself and knew the barman, she helped us.
- She had a wonderful smile and face... she was short though... 25yo HB7
- She had a glitter in her eyes when I said I was French.
- She is going to spend one year in Ireland, she wants to visit Europe. Told her Firenze is a nice place to go with a boyfriend, told me she's single.
- Two friends of hers joined the conversation and watched the game with us.
- During the whole football game, I was dominant... I controlled the frame of the interaction.
- Told me she studied ancient Greek and was a fan of U2 (I love meeting new people!)
- When she showed me some photos of the U2 concert, I noticed she had a picture of herself as wallpaper in her cellphone... called her egocentric... we laughed about it.
- Asked her if I was the first French guy she met, she replied no. Told her that I might be the most handsome though. She smiled.
- At some point, we ended up talking about seduction... told me she does not like how Brazilian guys are... I asked her how should I seduce her (eye contact baby), told me I should compliment her and stuff... I playfully started to do so.
- She told me I look like a "Gringo" (=foreigner), I told her she looked like a Brazililan but she could be French too... I told her, "let me see that"... I took a her hair out of her face and took her head in my hand for a couple of seconds.
- At the end, I told her to get off the bar stool to say goodbye to me... She was short, I negged her on that. We hugged. I told her we will do something together.

Results: I got a date with Japanese Architect (but not planned yet) and a new number close.
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On the strategy.
Texting works well when you're not at the top of your game. It also saves me a lot of "could you repeat please?" since my Portuguese accent can be hard to understand to some Paulistanos.

On the game.
- Don't assume things without information: I was assuming that Japanese Architect was not interested since she did not replied to my first text with the link to my Facebook profile. That was stupid.
- I love to meet people! I've opened (simply) a woman I would have been scared to open before...
- I have to be more serious on following up the # closes.

Next steps.
- Following up on Gerontology Girl
- Date tomorrow? I'm supposed to see Miss Sunset tomorrow but I'm still waiting for the confirmation.

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Well done on the U2 girl, Daniel, that was really Rico Suave.

With a bit of discipline, you'll do that in a couple of months!

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Quick Update.

Here's a quick update on Gerontology Girl (damn, I need to find her a new nickname) and U2 Fan.

Gerontology Girl.
I # closed her with my classic (yet still not working, lol) let's take an ice-cream together. I texted her yesterday to ask her out.
She replied at 11pm:
LOL, "I need to talk to you". I logged in Live Messenger and started a small convo with her to plan this. She does not speak English at all... and I confess I'm not comfortable at all when it comes to write in Portuguese. Anyways, key elements:
- I'm the first French she sees in her life!
- She's young, probably 18 or 19.
- She told me my Portuguese writing was cute, I took advantage of the ambiguity... "Cute? Me or my Portuguese"
- We planned a date today at 1.30pm at the mall near my house.

So in 2 hours, I'll be having a date with her.

U2 Fan.
Same thing, I had a nice convo with her yesterday night. I've flirted a lot with her and even spoke about literature, music and stuff. She's been posting some stuff in my wall... I think she really likes me... I'll see what to do with her when I'll come back from Rio.

Miss Sunset.
I'm supposed to see her this afternoon but I'm still waiting for her confirmation. Hope she'll make it. It would be 2 dates with two girls in the same day. Smells like abundance to me!

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AFC Daniel,

I'm new to the forum, and stumbled across your reports. I have to say it's been absolutely wonderful for me! I've begun to do some of what you've been doing, and in the process getting over my AA.

You're the man! Keep it up!

DAY 60: day-2 with Gerontology Girl and Miss Sunset .
Unconfortable date and flake.

Context.
I've been contacting my # closes to get some dates and I managed to get a date with Gerontology Girl. She's a cute 18yo girl studying... well, gerontology. I texted her so we could get an ice-cream with her. At the mean time, I planned a date with Miss Sunset to take pictures... well of the sunset. She told me that she would send me a text message Monday to confirm it.

Adressed issues.
- I've not been at escalating in date.
- I've not had enough dates.

Goals.
- Escalate.
- Seed another event.

Strategy.
Same as always, KINO escalation, body language, eye contact and teasing.
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Okay, I confess I was not comfortable at all when I wrote this report... You might feel this way too...

Gerontology Girl.
We were getting an ice cream at the mall near my house. I was 10 minutes late, so was she... lol. We said hello and I directly realized she was younger than I thought... she was a bit anxious I could tell... I grabbed an orange juice at Starbucks and we stayed there to talk a little. She was still the cutie I approached but she was a child. We sat in a sofa at Starbuck's and started to talk, I was maintaining eye-contact but it made me uncomfortable... she was just a 18yo kid... She was playing with her bottle of grape juice and touching her hair a lot... I let her fill the blanks, I let the pressure on her but I did not feel comfortable doing it... We went to get an ice-cream and walk in the mall after. I tried to screened her better with some topics of conversation but was not really happy about the results...
- She was too nice, too cheesy... CLINGY ALERT!
- She was 18yo, had a cute face but that's all...
- At some point she told me she doesn't eat chocolate... asked her why... She told me she promised to the "saint" not to eat chocolate for 6 months... asked her who was the "saint" ("santa" in Portuguese), she asked me "you don't know who is hail mary?"... "told her that I did not know her personally"... (joking). Religious stuff... DLV to me.
- She went so cheesy in front of the animal store...
- ...
Well, it's too painful to write everything... but well, she was not the girlfriend material I am looking for. I could not picture myself kiss closing her and then tell her that nothing would happen... I did learn some interesting stuff about her though. She did 9 years of ballet, has some Japanese blood... I started to just be friendly with her and share my recent new (PUA) outlook on life... how it was amazing to meet people... how it was stupid to be scared... she liked it a lot... In the end I was treating her like my sister (who is the same age)...

Miss Sunset.
She sent me a text as promised... She could not make it and told me she was unavailable this weekend since she was traveling (like me actually)... FLAKE.

Results: a uncomfortable date (but was okay in the end: I was just being friendly) and a flake... On to the next one.
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On the strategy.
LOL. I applied it for the first 45 min but truth is I realized really soon, nothing was going to happen with her. I should screen my targets in a more effective way. She had clearly no experience with guys... but that was not obvious when I # closed her... I felt like I was dating my sister or something... Not because she was young... (some 18yo girls are soooo hot here!) but because she had no experience at all and was just a child...

On the Game.
- Yes! I can get dates.
- I had to better screen my # closes, be sure I would date them.
- Even if nothing is going to happen after the date, it's good to meet someone.

Next steps.
Let's forget about this date... On to the next one. Too bad for Miss Sunset though, because she is hot... but I guess the better the target, the harder the work. I'll be in Rio de Janeiro from Thursday until Monday, so I won't be able to journal. I have to plan some dates with U2 Fan and Japanese Architect when I'll be back.

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Quick Update.

Quick update on random stuff.

Photography shop.
I went out after the date with Gerontology Girl, I wanted to go to a photography shop a friend showed me to take a look at the lenses and took some informations about photography classes. Unfortunately, the lessons are too expensive for me.

Gaining weight.
Well, that was a secondary goal for me, it was strongly related to working out. I had the opportunity to weigh myself yesterday since my roommate was leaving Brazil and he borrowed scales to weigh his pieces of luggages. Last time I weighed I was shocked: 62kg, I thought that working out made me lose some weight. But yesterday, I was 67kg... So I've been gaining weight without even noticing it... 5kg in 3 months... It's a bit strange but I've double checked, scales was definitely working... Anyways, that's good news

Going to Rio de Janeiro.
I'm leaving São Paulo tonight to go to Rio de Janeiro for a few days. I'll be back on journaling on Monday (or Tuesday actually). Anyways, I'll open a new chapter in this journal.

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Mr. Perfect Excuses,

Your excuses are truly excellent because all your excuses make make sense. You're logical and kind to others. Man . . . I'm sure that 18 year old girl's dad is really thanking people like you. In fact, he probably wishes that the guys who fuck her every weekend were more like you. (This comment is somewhat sarcastic, somewhat genuine, and somewhat confused. . .)

Let's go back to your journal history and count up ALL YOUR EXCUSES. How many do you have? Now, I can't blame you for any one of them because you type up perfectly smart excuses that make sense. If I was your school teacher, I'd just nod at how smart you are but at the end of the year, I'd be perplexed that you didn't do 50% of your homework. . .

Do you see what I'm getting at here? You should consider meditating on this habit of yours. Now . . . you could probably convince me again how you couldn't do the "right thing" BECAUSE the 'situation wasn't right, you're being nice, you didn't feel it, she was too this or that, etc . . . ' and I will nod my head and believe you. You will convince me (and yourself) that in this particular situation, you did the right thing . . . but what happens when you take a look at ALL OF THOSE SITUATIONS in its entirety? Really? You had THE perfect excuse for EVERY SINGLE F'ING situation to not move forward with your plans?

We exchanged a few posts on 'choices'. I suggested to you that "If YOU DO NOT make the right choice now, you will never make them in the future either. . ." There is nothing 'new' in the future that will somehow magically support your decision making. You either do it now or now becomes the past and all your left doing is back tracking and forming up perfect excuses to make yourself feel better.

So . . . you have yet another 'now' that's behind you. The good news is you have many, many years of 'NOWS' to pounce on with the 'right thing'. If your intuitions were already excellent, wouldn't you have already achieved all your dreams? Doesn't this also mean that sometimes, you're going to have to go AGAINST your intuitions when you KNOW that specific actions will lead to the accomplishment of your dreams?

*When ever I run, the sight of a park bench ALWAYS makes me smile. Regardless of when I used to compete, coach, or simply as a happy civilian maintaining weight, there's a part of me that has wanted to sit on that fat bench and feed the birds. You know . . . I'm not a great writer but I bet I could come up with some GREAT FUCKING EXCUSES for having sat down a few hundred times. I just chose to never sit down.

This is a hard post to reply to because it makes me think about a difficult subject... me. This is confusing, and if I do make up excuses on my journey, these are definitely not conscious. Yet, like you, I've realized (always afterwards, often when writing in my journal) that I do make up excuses in front of some situations. Let it be clear, it does not feel like excuses at the moment, but I realized afterwards that the reason why I did or did not do this or that is silly.(On another note I finally understand what Rousseau wrote at the beginning of his Confessions, being honest about yourself is fucking hard, especially since there's probably a huge part of yourself that you don't know).

And right now, at the very same moment that I'm writing the sentence, I'm trying to think about it. Is it the case here? Did I refuse to push the interaction further for a bad reason? I don't think so. I was not a sexually attracted to her at all. I even wondered why I # closed her. She was still a practice field people might argue... but should I have tried to kiss closed her, knowing that I would not want anything with her afterwards? Is this another excuse? Should I want to see her again even though I did not like her? This is complicated you know, because I also think that I'm too picky sometimes... But anyways, I don't think I was making an excuse here. She was not what I'm looking for. But I would not be honest if I don't tell you that you made me doubt about it. Guess it's too soon to know if it was an excuse or not.
Actually, I'll do it. I'll read my journal again and spot all these situations where I did not take actions for a bad reason.
You're right, I'm going nowhere with excuses. Right actions and decisions.
Okay... I've replied to your post little by little... I've not read this part until now and I confess the part about my awesome intuitions is convincing. Actually I got in my past relationship because I went against my intuitions when I was in that bed with her (yeah... my intuition was "do not fuck her, this is gonna be complicated" LOL AFC) and it (the relationship) was great I confess.
I would totally sit my ass for hours trying to find sense in everything I would see... even though I came to run in the first place. All this is related to the fact that I'm a non-combative person as you've spotted it.
I do not try hard enough and might be making up some excuses to behave like that. Your example of the teacher is really good actually. How many papers have I dashed off because I was getting bored of it? I even got good grades for them. I worked one year as an intern in a big US company... When they gave me work to do, they were all amazed by my work even though I could have done way better... (Of course, most of the guys working there spend their time masturbating in meetings, I did my work as fast and good as I could so I could do what I liked). Anyways I'll meditate on this and add it to my list of blocking points. I have to find solutions for that.

Concerning the date, I don't even know what to tell you now...

Thanks Kasabi.

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It's about time to start making decisions Daniel, i noticed in the last part of your journal that you became "Passive", and by being passive you're nothing, not even alive.

Think about that.

I too find myself reading your journal and nodding to myself.

Seems like a good excuse, perhaps she was too young/not cute enough... because...Well... You have a REALLY REALLY good knack at diffusing the situation and turning it platonic.

But isn't this what you have been doing ALL your life AFCDaniel? Yes you are a FUCKING PUSSY, yes you are a FUCKING PUSSY. Admit this to yourself.

Hell, go back to the start of this thread and count how many numbers you have collected? There's a shit load... and nothing has come off them???

Now I know a lot of people, who would be so FUCKING jealous... Who would have only one number or two to work on ... and how they would pounce on those girls and turn it sexual.

Daniel, whatever you have, you have it in spades. Clearly, you're going to go far in the intellectual world.

But this is also your problem... Dumb this shit right down man...

I'm sure a toothless drug addict would be FUCKING half of those chicks you number closed. But you're smarter and better looking than a toothless drug addict.

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looks like you've hit a plateau, Daniel.

Everybody does, just recognize the plateau and do something different to what you've been doing. (whether that be mentally or physically).

Also do you find that the reason you don't get into opening in Night Game is because you've spent an hour or so at the beginning with your friends chilling and you feel like you cant 'get away' from them or their actions keep you from just going in there and just opening?

My problem till the end of my journal, found out going out alone is actually the best way unless you can get a WINGMAN. This way no one is around to distract you from the goal of approaching. This is what helped me

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You probably also have a tendency blank your mind between specific events and the analysis of those events. Consider going into 'analysis mode' sooner. If you waited 5 hours, do it in 4, then 3, then 1 . . . You'll want to eventually begin watching yourself as soon as you get those familiar emotions. Where are those emotions and justifications coming from? . . . then you'll want to watch yourself PRIOR to making those justifications and excuses. (This is a path to putting some consciousness into your actions)
Many people refuse to accept these things even after the events. In fact, many will continue to fight and create new excuses FOR the previous excuses. If you have the ability to backtrack and accept, then all that is required is a few changes in schedule. As suggested above, simply backtrack and accept sooner until 'accepting' becomes ONE with your actions.
Only YOU will know the truth. . . which is why your excuses are 'perfect.' Here are a few things to consider:

1. You've heard that girls rate male physical appearances higher when photos are taken of the guy with other girls staring/surrounding the guy. These girls do not go back and think, "well, I was fooled because of those girls." No, they emotionally, intellectually, physically FEEL that these guys are HOTTER.

2. This is in fact what "GAME" is all about. A girl won't say that an ugly duckling suddenly becomes a 10 but all the other attributes of a man will lead the girl into upgrading his PHYSICAL appearance. Inside her mind, it's not, "Well, he's ugly but my gosh he's this and that . . ." It's "Wow, I never realized that he was pretty hot . . ."

3. Although some will disagree . . . and there's no way to really prove this, anybody who's been in sports long enough will tell you that athletes sabotage themselves all the time by injuring themselves. And not just twisted fingers or a minor sprains because these things make very poor excuses. No . . . these guys go all the way to season ending/career threatening injuries for the 'perfect excuse'. Most will NEVER, EVER admit this . . . but backtrack . . .