She's one of the cutest girls in my class at college. I never really talked to her. Then one day, I ran into her at the police station, of all places. We were both there for speeding tickets. I couldn't pass up the opportunity to monoplize on the situation. I said to her, "You need to stop being such a troublemaker." She laughed and said, "What? I'm not a troublemaker! It was just a speeding ticket!"

The next time I saw her in class I accused her of being a criminal and told her that if the heat gets too high with the law, I have a safehouse down by the docks where she can lay low until everything cools down. She played along.

I saw her a few days ago in the hall while I was talking with a classmate. She was looking at her phone and didn't notice me, so I told my friend, "See that girl, she's bad news. If you hang out with her, you will almost certainly end up behind bars." When she realized I was talking about her, she looked up, smiled at me, and said "Oh, shut up!" As she walked away she said, "You know, I have to take defensive driving! You should come take it with me!"

I was dumbfounded by her offer. I didn't expect that at all and it left me speechless.

Today we had class and I casually asked about her taking defensive driving. Her eyes lit up and she said, "Yes, i'm doing it next week! Are you going to take it with me?" I started teasing her, saying she was pushy and whatnot. She again emphasized that I should take it with her. I told her she was very persuasive and she told me it was because of her eyes. I responded by recommending that she consider becoming a car saleswoman. She laughed. I told her i'd get with her after class about it.

When class ended, I went up to her and told her that I had to check my work schedule to see if I could go with her. We then somehow ended up talking about perverted monkeys. After a bit of banter, I gave her my phone to put her number in it and told her i'd let her know about defensive driving. She gave it to me with no resistance. I then told her, "How are you at lazer tag?" She said, "I haven't gone in like 7 years. Why?" I told her, "Because, if I take defensive driving with you, then you're going to play lazer tag with me." She responds with, "Oh, whatever! You have to take it anyway, whether it's with me or not!" She said this playfully.

What do you all think? I don't know if she's just being friendly or what.

The Leading Man

Man i like this post, i tease a tremendous amount to girls, they laugh, lap it up, BUT i'm wondering the same thing! Are they just being friendly or do they wanna fuck, too put it bluntly :L

Any girl that shows any bit of interest means she wants your dick in her mouth asap. And by interest, let's all be clear on it and not get technical. It's that feeling you get when you think a girl likes you, period.

When you tease girls though, there really isn't that much sexual tension. Being sociable, cracking jokes, etc. only makes you fun which improves communication (girl wants to talk to you more, gives you her number). Having better communication with girls doesn't lead to having sex.

all male to female or female to male interest is sexual by nature

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Well, I went ahead and agreed to go with her, but then decided to cancel at the last minute. You see, this girl is, by my standards, about as attractive as they come. In the past, I would always jump at the opportunity to spend time with a girl like this, but I am forcing myself to do the opposite this time. I told her something came up to avoid seeming too eager to see her. After class, I sat and talked with her for a bit. I explained to her that I couldn't go, but I told her i'm a compromising man and offered to take her to get something to eat before she goes to the class tomorrow. Unfortunately, she said she had to work and told me her work schedule and how it was weird. I then started asking her questions about school, her family, and what she does for fun. She talked almost the entire time. She made a lot of eye contact, played with her hair, etc. Then, about 15 minutes into the conversation, she mentioned the boyfriend. Of course, as always... So, I just acted like I wasn't phased by it and continued with our conversation. Before I left, I apologized for not being able to go with her to the class and told her she should still go with me to play lazer tag. She told me, "We'll see," but in a reluctant way. Don't know how I should proceed. I just sent her a text that I will call her later this week, but haven't gotten a response. She doesn't text much though. Should I call or back off? I can't tell if she's interested or not.

The Leading Man

Well, she just wrote back, "I appreciate you being nice, but I have a boyfriend." Same ol' story. I just wrote something I saw online once. I said, "I have a goldfish." Hopefully, she'll respond with, "huh?" or something along those lines, so I can say, "Oh, sorry, I thought we were talking about things that don't matter."

The Leading Man

Didn't go as planned. She sent me back, "That's nice. You can stop trying to talk to me now."

I just sent her a pic of a random girl I know and said, "I was just teasing you. Meet my girlfriend. I was just trying to be friends. Since you invited me to that class, I figured you were cool with that. Guess not. Nice meeting you."

This always happens. Especially with pretty girls. So frustrating. She is the second girl in this class that this has happened with. I suppose at least i'm trying.

The Leading Man

Well for her when you opened her you sounded interesting, but seems like at the end you focused too much on her and not yourself and the result is that you became boring for her. The type of girl who needs a really strong guy and something that you probably did made her think that you're not strong enough for her. Almost 0% chance of getting her. Move on to the next..[/quote]

This is where you blew it.

This girl HAS a boyfriend and she chose to be FAITHFUL to him.

That is not a bad thing.

At that point, you had two options: set the stage for possible future hookup OR come off like an asshole.

You chose option 2 (I'll explain)

She knows and you know that you WERE trying to pick her up.

When she gently let you down by "being a faithful girl",

you responded with a lie.

So now you have portrayed yourself as either:
- the guy who has a girlfriend and was trying to pick her up, is a cheater, and denied it
- the guy who doesn't have a girlfriend, and is lying to save face

So, you answered her gentle letdown by being a douchebag.

Congratulations.

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Yeah, I prefer the douchebag method. The girl I sent her a pic of I am not with, that was a lie, but at the time, we were talking. The thing is, she invited me to go to that defensive driving class with her when I barely knew her. I never talk to her in class, therefore the whole "she was just being a faithful girlfriend" theory is questionable, at best. It's annoying that she invited me out, then, when I decided to not go and instead offered an alternative she acted like it was innappropriate of me to consider hanging out together. I don't have time for that nonsense.

The Leading Man

My theory. She was interested in you and was looking for an upgrade hence all the flirting. Once you flaked on her or turned out boring, she brought up the boyfriend because she realized you weren't all that great and wanted you to back off.

yep it's over. Look out for the next girl.

Shitty boyfriends always blowing the whole thing....I hate those settlers

Damn dude, you had it, but you messed up. I think you really messed up when you went over to her and apologized. Then she gave you the reluctant, "we'll see" reply.

You shouldn't have apologized.

I think you not going to the driving class or w/e with her was an ok idea. If I were you, I would've gone but made her invest something in it.

"Ok I'll come with you. Under one condition, you have to bring me [INSERT SOMETHING HERE]" (And obviously, make it something reasonable)

If she would've denied, that's fine. You won't go with her to the class. You've just built more attraction.

If she was ok with bringing you whatever, then you take it from there.

True, could have gone better..

BUT... rest in the fact that you put your best foot forth.
I was actually Reading Jeffy's new book today "Get laid or die trying" (excellent book)
and one of the first things he mentioned was screwing up..a.k.a. not getting the girl. Its all a part of the process man..but when this shit happens, you really gotta build yourself up to just keep pushing. Learn from this and let it reshape the way you do things next time.

You did well

SquareLife

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