So I like this chick I posted on it in relationships but It was locked because I guess it was the wrong place to post.

Anyways this girl is with her high school sweetheart I want to work my way in I dont want to wreck anything, I just want her to be more comfortable doing more things with me. I lost our relationship about a year and a half ago because sadly enough I bad mouthed her b/f indirectly and she disliked it but were talking again how to I overcome this obstacle???

Its hard to get her to do anything

Help Please

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Attraction is not optional - Lucky

You want this girl but you don't want to wreck her relationship? Maybe you don't want her badly enough then?

T.W. Jackson who's a relationship coach (You may or may not have heard of him.) has this PDF out which details a very powerful method of apology. It's called the Clean Slate Method and you can find it up for download online. I suggest you use this method to apologise for slating her BF coupled with "I want to be friends" for best results. From then on, take it slowly.

How long has she been with him?

Is she the more attractive or the less attractive in the relationship?

In my experience and what I've learnt from observations is the more attractive person in the relationship wants to get someone above his/her current other half after a while and in turn gradually over time the less attractive person in the relationship has a smaller and smaller tolerance for bullshit.

Food for thought.

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I've got 99 problems but...

Okay im lying I want to wreck the hell out of it, I want her to want me. Shes the hotter one in the relationship and they have been together for 2-1/2 years 3-1/2 tops.

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Attraction is not optional - Lucky

That sounds like a serious relationship. I know that love is a selfish game, but I'd not butt in, especially after failing with her a few times. Apologizing and stuff doesn't hurt, though.

That's what I thought.

I get a real kick out of ruining a relationship and proving the girl who's been with her BF for X months/years was never really that attractive.

If they've been going out that long it's normally where it reaches make or break. Start talking to and texting her, platonically and build up from there. Don't respond to her instantaneously. Study push and pull and look into the concept of rarity. Something that is constantly around has no value. Something that is rare and doesn't respond to her text messages like a lap dog is much more valuable and therefore attractive.

You have to become as attractive to her as possible - essentially you want to out-attract her current boyfriend.

If you've been trying to communicate with her this entire time now is the time to stop. Obviously I don't know your circumstances but if you've been doing that you need to STOP and step back.

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I've got 99 problems but...

So no more contact until she initiates?

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Attraction is not optional - Lucky

Depends. Have you been plaguing her? If the answer to that question is yes, than stop right now. Come back in a few months when you've fucked a few more chicks and built up your confidence more.

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I've got 99 problems but...

No its been a couple months now and we had one convo the other day I posted on here thats the only contact we have had, other than seeing each other throughout college. This was our convo.


We lock eyes and for some odd reason I gave a head nod, she gave it back, both of us had a look on our face of attempting to gauge the situation so I said hey and this is how the conversation went.

ME- Hey, how are you?

Summer- Good, how have you been?

M- "Im okay is it cool if I walk with you for a minute?"

S - "Sure, I just took a test and I think I locked my keys in my car (digging through purse) YES! MY KEYS! I didnt lock them in my car. So how have you been?"

M - "I broke my collarbone"

S- "Really? How?"

M - Paused "Really long story"

S - "Yeah"

M- "Can we talk for a minute" I stopped us from walking "When I see you I want to talk to you but I feel like everytime Im around you theres this odd awkwardness and I just think your a cool person and I want to get to know you and be cool with you without any awkward moments and without being intrusive as well"

S- "I know, Its not like that though"

M - "Its like when we see each other Im just unsure if it cool to talk to you"

S - "From now on were cool its just last time we talked it was a while ago and I wasnt sure if you remembered me, and I didnt want to be the first to say HI"

M - "Hold on" I turned and took a few steps away then came back "Who are you?"

S - Laughing

M - "Yeah what are you about to do? Wanna go grab lunch?"

S - "I cant I have to go to work soon"

M- "I sent you a facebook msg not to long ago did you get it?"

S- "Well I did" (She was honest but debated about lying)

M - "Yeah I sent you that because I had extra superbowl tickets and I was going to see if you wanted to buy em or go with me and my friends but you never messaged me back"

(Shes from pittsburgh and is a huge steelers fan)

S - "REALLY??? NO WAY???"

M -"Anyways I guess Ill see you around soon and Ill hit you up just dont want to be to intrusive"

(Shes was waiting for me to ask for her number and I didnt)

S- "Okay ill talk to you later"

M- "Bye"




The conversation flowed well, I was calm, cool, collected, and felt really confident but not overconfident. She smiled, made contact, seemed interested and there was no awkwardness, its like we talk everyday. Her body language was completely on me and although I should feel good sadly I do not because I dont feel like anything was accomplished.

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Attraction is not optional - Lucky

walk away. ruining relationships is bad ju ju.