Hey gentleman.
This is the first part of a trilogy about Inner Game.
In the first part it´s all about the Power of Believing
The seducers mindset 1/3 - The importance of mindsets
Why some people are successful and others aren´t
You show everything that is going through your mind with your body, we call it charisma.
Woman like a special sort of charisma. 98% of men are AFC and don´t expect much from life.
What are the other 2% doing different from the 98%? I tell you. They don´t do anything different.
Their life is controlled by their mind in the same way as the AFC´s life is controlled but these men have other thoughts which open them more doors to the things they desire. Let your mind wander while you are reading this post.
Your thoughts and your brain are the most powerful weapons you have.
You can do almost everything with these instruments. If you, for instance, really believe that you will seduce a woman tonight you like than you will be able to do that. Hold on a second. Last time in the club you really wanted to bang that girl and really believed in it but you didn´t lay her. Now someone wants to tell me that if I just start believing it will work out? Something isn’t right.
You’re right , something is wrong here. You wanted the lay, you knew that you can do it. Was it your inner confession that you can do it or was it a struggle going on in your head? The constructive beliefs fight against the destructive? It was a discussion that you really wanted to win but the crucial part was missing, the ,,key” to stop this brain fucking?
Then you don´t have a solid mindset.
The ,,Mindset”, your inner attitude , let´s call it the ,,Inner Game” is always reflected to the outside and visible for everyone. This is to a major part unconscious. If you are totally worried about something, you won´t be able to go through the club with a happy face. You say:” Ofc I can do that!”? If you only managed it one time with your fake smile while you have been worried or upset and somebody gave you a honest compliment: “Dude, you´ve really a great joie de vivre “ I would really like to meet you and see this in action. You will soon notice that you can’t pretend happiness.
Actors can? Yes they can! They can because they put themselves into their role and believe into this feelings and thoughts, that they become congruent. So they are able to control their feelings and beliefs. This is the first and most important step. Without the right thoughts they won´t be able to breathe life into their role which they are embodying at the moment. We are controlled by our mind. Do you know how much of our actions are influenced by our mind? 85% are unconscious and only 15% conscious. So our actions are happening quite automatically and are influenced especially by our mind and beliefs.
Why YOU can be successful
Now I’ve a some dam good news for you.
You can change your principles every time as you please! Allow this thought that you can change your mindset every time. This is the first and most important step. If you struggle against that you won´t have a chance to profit from this great option.
You can do everything that someone has done before you in fact by modeling his beliefs. This means that you make the inter-dimensional representations, which are a product of his results of his mindset and filters, to your own. Everyone has his own mindset. I think one of the most important mindset, which are using a lot of successful people, is: [b
]There is no failure, there are only results.[/b] This mindset is really beneficial for everyone. If you don´t reach the goal of a certain action you can go mad because you failed. Where does this belief lead you? This kind of thinking isn´t quite motivating, is it?
If you don´t achieve what you wanted you still can see it as a successes. You found a way how you won´t get what you wanted so you can do better next time and you will know how you can do it right. So your failure isn´t a failure, it is a result and even a positive one. Now think to yourself for one moment why you should accept this mindset for yourself and why not? Which of these views brings you further in life?
So the next time you think that you can´t do it or that you are going mad about something which you didn´t manage to do then remind yourself that the negative mindset won´t help you in anyway. It is really important that you make it to a habit from now on to see the positive aspects in each situation. This might be hard at the beginning but after some time of training it will happen automatically which leads you to a new quality of life.
The more the negative beliefs are anchored, the more this change affects your mind and furthermore influences your action and your life into a positive way.
I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.
- Anthony Robbins
The impacts
A little example:
You are sitting and waiting for your LTR at home. Usually she would come every moment. You wait and wait and it seems that she will come late. Now you have to options to thing about it:
The
1. one is that think that she is meeting another guy, is cheating on you, does things she doesn´t want to tell you etc. These thinking will influence your conversation when she arrives 3 hours later. Even if you try to control yourself, your mindset will still lead to misunderstanding, sorrow or even anger.
The
2. option is that she had to work longer. You do not care about it because a positive reason for her delay came through your mind and so you won´t blame anyone for it. When she arrives at home and tells you:,, Dear I had to work longer.” What do you think for yourself how much your own reaction is different from both mindsets. This example can be illustrated well how important it is not to let your ideas make what they want but to take influence on them.
Your task
You want to take control over your life and your mind, don´t you?
Now set the objective to( which you also write down now) to check your own mindset, your beliefs. Take your own at least an hour and accept no belief that starts with “I cannot”, without asking yourself how far this belief hinders you in achieving your goals. Turn these beliefs into a positive mindset.
You have just learned that you decide with the thought “I can” or “I cannot” if you can and will achieve your goals or if you don’t have a chance. Which one do you prefer? The attempt to influence your thoughts doesn´t cost you anything except that one hour in which
you find time for your own life and set a foundation for a much more successful life.
To choose the way of the positive thinking is quite releasing, isn´t it?
Hope you enjoyed it.
PS: I don´t know if it´s the right place for this post but i didn´t find any "Inner-Game" category.
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The seducers mindset 2/3 - Valuable Exercises
Hey ya!
In the first part we learned how important the mindset is for our life and our success. For all of you that want to take control over your mindset I have got some examples.
Exercise 1: Mindsets
Step 1.
Write down 5 mindsets that you think prevent you from being successful with woman, to approach, to escalate, to lay etc.
Really think about it because as soon as you realize what your anxieties are you can work on them and change them. If you don´t know them you don´t have a chance to work on it. So each fear you spot is a great success because now
YOU have to possibility to change it!
Step 2.
Now write for every mindset one reason why this negative mindset is useless and obstructive. If you can´t find one invent one.
Example:
(Step 1.) Negative Belief:”I don´t look good enough to approach women.”
(Step2.) Positive Belief:” I am a handsome, smooth man and I have the right to approach and to talk to every woman I want to!”
The positive beliefs you found out are from now on your new affirmations. Those affirmations have the best affect in the morning and in the evening that means before and after you go sleeping. This means that you look in the mirror and tell yourself, for instance:
”I am a handsome, smooth guy and I have the right to approach every woman I want to!”
When you do this exercise the first few times your subconscious and your mind will struggle and an inner conversation will run off like” But until now…..” or “what crap are you talking?”
This is totally normal! When you did this exercise regularly for 1 week your subconscious will begin to accept these new beliefs.
It is important that you don’t miss a single day and do this every morning and evening. This exercise will take you 10 minutes of the day and it´s really worth that you try it, don´t you think so? Your subconscious will accept the affirmations automatically after some time (2 or 3 weeks) and your mindset will be much more productive and positive than it was before.
If you still don´t know what you should write down at step 1. and you just can´t think of anything, take a pen and a paper with you and write down all of your negative beliefs that prevent you to approach woman. If you really wanted to go and pick up some girls every reason why you shouldn´t talk to them is a “Limiting Belief”, which
you should be aware and change immediately.
I really want to suggest you to test these affirmations, you will have great experiences and you don´t have a disadvantage form it. Maybe you´ve never thought about it but
this is one of the few decisions in life from which you don´t suffer any drawback.
Exercises 2: Values
If you know your values, you know yourself. You don´t believe me? Then try it out, I promise you excellent results!
Values are these things and attitudes that are important for us in life, that motivate us, that say us what´s right and what´s wrong, that tell us if it´s good or evil and if it is worth our time.
Values can be:
-Freedom
-Organization
-Respect
-Punctuality
-Helpfulness
Etc…
There are global values that affect your life and context-dependent values , that means values in the context of "work" and "friendship" can be different in each case. Nevertheless, be sure each area of life (context) doesn´t have completely different values.
Values are usually quite time-stable and cannot be changed from today to tomorrow, unless the circumstances change, for example by a dramatic incident. Every human being has about 10 to 20 values, and it is worth gold to know your own values .You can understand each of your own reactions to each topic if you know your values.
How you find out your values? Do one the following simple exercise:
Write down two contexts from which you want to find out your values, for example: Woman, friends, work etc.
Then write down at least 2 values for each context. Imagine this simple questions such as “ What matters to me?” or “what is the heaven/hell on earth for me?”
Then rate how much this value is integrated into your life form a scale of 1-10
An example:
Context: Work
Value 1 – Independence 1-10=8
Value 2- Challenge 1-10=9
The best thing for yourself is when all the values are a 10 because then you live fully in line with your values! This can be quite difficult in certain contexts; nevertheless you should always try to satisfy your values as much as you can or to change them with the help of your beliefs and affirmations permanently.
I want to keep the second part fairly small because these two exercises can really change a lot and you should definitely try them out. Really try these two exercises and see how for yourself you will change almost automatically for the positive!
In the next part it will be about “basic beliefs” which a good seducer has. See how the beliefs match your values and your inner game will be getting better and better in the future and you will enjoy that your frame will be so strong that nothing will be able to throw you out.
CHAT
