Stole from a PUA article site, college flirt
here the original,
http://collegeflirt.net/essentials-5-yo ... er-is-you/
he has a video on how to do it on there..its pretty good
You Are Not Your Opener, Your Opener is YOU
If you don’t understand my mystical hunting speak, today….we are talking about opening… I cannot stress enough how important it is to set the tone and start strong in a interaction with a girl. Hell, being an amazing opener is enough to get you lays all by itself.
If your looking on EXACTLY what to say and little opener routines…well…this is the wrong post. Check out my FREE eBOOK Intercation Catalyst for openings and how to use them effectively. I’m going to tell you one thing I shouldn’t though. Everything in that book is useless as shit (cept for the arbys 25 for 25 convo..thats just so money) until you master HOW to open.
A lot of guys think that its what you say that gets the girl interested at first… This is fucking wrong…FUCKING with a capital F wrong. Its how you open and approach that creates that spark of interest
I will go so far as to say that if you master how to present yourself you will be able to open with 3 word sentences.
Do you know what my favorite way to open a girl at a club walking by is.
HEY (loudly and stop them) whats ups?
I’ve opened with literally everything. From long drawn out opinion openers to just yelling gibberish at girls and picking them up. The one deciding factor everytime is not what I say or do when I open. It’s HOW I open and what it INSTANTLY conveys.
This is so hard to write about with out being able to show you but I will try. Using the things I talked about in the other essentials and why it effects your opening
I really want to get in depth wit this, so today we are just gonna look at HOW you open makes all the difference…and why
How to Open
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First the why?
Okay I want you to picture for a moment that every person on earth looks the same. Every girls is about a 5 and every guy is about a 5. Everyone dressed the same. There are no status symbol, the only way to tell someones place in society is by how they act.
If a person came up and talked to you how would you tell if they were below you, above you or about the same as you in social importance. Or if you approached someone how would you know if they had value.
If person A (nice guy approach)came up to you and instantly trying to relate to you, be nice to you, and liked you regardless of what you said or did. What would your logic be. Person A must be below me
Now person B comes up to you (overly horny creepy guy), come up to you and starts trying to mate with you for without knowing you. They again must be very low value and low class. They bring unconfident sexuality or way to much with out having any value
Person C comes up to you. They are interested in knowing you to some extent, but you have by no means won them over. When they approach you they talk to you like a equal or lesser. They say what they want to say, they are in your space, they arnt there to get your approval. They are getting nothing but amusement and fun when talking to you. They put there arm around you its normal, and because they are so confident…it of course must be normal… This peaks your interest.
How to Open
Instantly when you approach a girl you are put in either the A, B, or C category by your immediate actions. (remember C is the only one that you really were intrested to talk to, even though C looked exactly the same as everyone else) A and B represent the most common guys girls get approached by in bars.
Lets look at really common situations
Person A
Girls is at the bar you walk up, politely interduce after hovering close by for 30 seconds. This is done without strong eye contact and a kiss ass tonality (voice goes up at the end of your sentences) You offer to buy her a drink and hope she responds well
A guy walks up and says a opinion opener to a group of girls. Theres no confidence behind it and he looks around needily for there approval, its obvious hes there because he want there approval. When they look at him weirdly he reacts and forgets what hes saying
Your person A
How To Open
Person B
Girl is on the dance floor, you are waiting by the side looking for a open butt to jump on. You see a empty girl and you run over and grind on her from behind hoping she will accept you. She walks away.
Girl is at the bar and theres a guy whose hovering around her and keeps looking at her. His focus on her mixed with zero confidence repulses her, he finally approaches with a weak arm around her shoulder and say something sexual. She freaks out and runs off.
A guy comes up and get way to touchy with a girl while bringing zero fun or good emotions to the girl. Hes not smiling, it just pure one way needy sexual advance. This scares the girl
All 3 of these you are person B
How to Open
Now all of these as person C
-Girls is at the bar. C walks up the second he sees her. He pokes her and says whats up. Strong eye contact. She says whats up back. He smirks, put his arm around her and says “ Hey I’m bored do a shot with me” before she has a chance to respond to any of this, he orders a shot and says cheers. Then he is like “oh what your name by the way” Conversation starts. He wasn’t looking for her approval, there for she couldn’t take it away. Hes just having fun…who doesn’t want to talk to the fun guy?
-Group of girls is standing together. C is walking by with his friend. C walks up loudly introduces himself and basically takes control of the group. He says “hey hold up a sec, look guys my friend over here is about to get married to a girl hes known for a week, isn’t that fucking dumb?” He has loose body language and talks to them like he EXPECTS a quick answer. It seems like hes there because he wants to get something solved and is just being extremely social… hes just having fun, not trying to kiss up to anyone. The girls answer enthusiastically because they feel like they are gaining a interesting conversation by talking to him and not having to stop what they are doing to to talk to some poor loser.
-Hot girl is dancing on the dance floor. C is already dancing like an idiot near by having fun. He jumps in front of her and starts doing spirit fingers because he thinks its funny. She laughs, he laughs. He then grabs her hand and then starts spinning her and making her dance badly. Then he pulls her in without hesitating and they start dancing very dirty likes =P . C brought fun to her night she wasnt having a second ago, there for she wants him there!
-Girl is at the bar, C sees her , approaches immediately and say hey. Hes in her space, he confidently put his arm around her and starts talking about whatever the fuck he wants. It weird for a few seconds but because hes so comfortable doing it the girl accepts that its okay and opens up. Because C seems so certain with himself, she thinks the touching is normal BECAUSE he so confident, he couldn’t possibly be wrong…right? Of course,its always much better to play follow the leader!
-C has approached a girl, he just pulls her in while eye fucking the shit out of her. Theres no hesitation or even caring if the girl doesnt like it. He literally doesnt care if he gets rejected or not. The girl senses the confidence and his dominant mindset and they make out
Now of course C still get rejected sometimes, but hes knows he worthwhile and its the persons loss, so it doesn’t matter because
C ROCKS!
How to Open
Look at how a C person handled all those situations when he opened. All of these were totally different ways of opening. Normal style, PUA style, Dance floor, Out of the blue, and even super sexual direct. The difference wasn’t THE opener. It was HOW he opened.
Just keep this in mind. Next Essential I’m going to tell you little strategies on how to open, but you should still have this in the back of your head.
If you again are looking for actual opening conversations and pre planned stuff you can use to get a girls interest and esclate smoothly be sure to check out my FREE EBOOK Interaction Catalyst
This is my last post for about a week as all my time is being poured into our new Ebook. Take some time to read the other Essentials series post if you havn’t
CHAT
