"Go fuck ten other women, see if the shine's still on her."

I have given that advice at least a hundred times to at least a hundred men. It is the only known cure for the disease that is oneitis.

I have oneitis. I have gone and fucked ten other girls (more, in fact). The shine is still on her.

Now what?

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Dont fuck 10 more women.

Build a relationship with more women. My oneitus was cured when I got into my 3rd relationship

Now you know she is actually as great as you first thought, meaning it's time to grab yourself by the short and curlies and make her yours.

Your boy,
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A year ago I realized that it was a bad idea to close my heart to block any potential chances for a loving relationship. We've all been hurt before but trying to protect yourself too much actually does more harm than good. If a good thing comes along then why not give that seed of opportunity a chance to grow?

If you think you have oneitis and you've gone and fucked ten other women without a change of heart, that likely means you've misdiagnosed yourself. Oneitis is inherently based in scarcity. What you've got is something different.

Just let us know if this potential "oneitis" that you think you might have leads to any actual negative consequences, but something tells me that this isn't your run of the mill AFC problem.

I don't actually have oneitis. I have a crush on a girl that has been around for a good number of years, and she's always been able to make me go a little stupid in the brainpan.

Mostly, I was just looking at this as an exercise. Pick-up is full of easy answers. If you have a question about a thing, there are a few answers, each a perfectly tailored sound-bite.

I'm afraid of talking to strange women. You have approach anxiety. Treat it like it's a rock in your shoe; it's uncomfortable, but you can just ignore it until you get somewhere you can take care of it."

There's this one girl... You've got oneitis. Go fuck ten other women and see if the shine's still on her.

Girls don't pay a lot of attention to me... Here are some routines to get you through that.

I'm okay getting girls to like me, but I don't know how to make them want me. Here's some games you can play/routines/techniques you can use to make yourself more sexually attractive.

So what do you do when the sound bites don't work? What happens when you're trying to teach a person and they just never stop being scared? They're immobilized by it? They've got the will, but their legs won't even move? What do you do when you can't stop thinking about a girl after dozens of other women? What happens when the routines don't work? What do you tell a guy when he's used the techniques, he's rocked the routines, he's tried the techniques but none of it works?

When the simple answers don't cut it anymore, what then?

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I think this is quite relative to respond to. It's kind of the same as I'm going through right now - however, I haven't fucked 10 girls between the time that I met her.

However, the point being stated - the reason why you prolly have this 'one-itis' is because there's a specific connection/thing going on between you two. One that you do not share with other girls.

The way I look at it, be genuine with your interest and tell her that. Tell her that you feel something or experience something new that intrigues you and just let it flow from there on forth.

Good luck!

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The whole thing on oneitis and being needy the community teaches is utter bullshit (its built by guys with low self esteem) Having oneitis is constantly persuing someone who wants nothing to do with you and looking to get validation. If you have mutal respect and intrest for each other, theres nothing wrong for wanting to be with one another especially if the two of you are hitting it off really well.

This is one of many things I hate about this community. It fucks guys up to where they think they have to go around banging tons of women, and for what? To have a bunch of dudes thinking your cool on the intetnetz? It's all marketing bullshit to buy products." Ask these 3 magic questions and avoid rejection 100% guarented" LOL.

Why do you think their aren't any "products" on how to keep a healthy relationship? Most of the self proclaimed 'gurus" don't know how to keep a girl and their relationships tend to have a very short shelf life.

And instead of looking for some "sound bit" go fulfill your dreams and become an over all interesting person that has a life people want to be part of.

Like Sinn says " There's two ways to get good with women, becoming an intresting person or becoming a master manipulator, which one would you rather be?"

Aaaaaaaaaaand, we've missed the point. The fact that I have a crush on a girl doesn't bother me. I'm cool with it. I understand what's going on with that. I'm not looking for advice on that.

What I'm looking for is more "When the normal advice that gets constantly spewed at people runs out, when people have done what they've been told to do, and it still doesn't work, what happens then?" Not just in oneitis, but in the whole of the pick-up experience.

And it's interesting that you answer the question of sound bites with a sound bite of Sinn's. ^_^ Just sayin'.

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Speaking from personal experience is always the most legit advice

Ok then your " Cure " might help single people but recently I've seen allot of post about people with one-itis in a relationship you can't go out and fuck 10 other people. Well you can most decent men wouldn't. This is including myself.

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The whole reason you are told to go fuck 10 other women is to bring out the fact that you don't really care about the oneitis.

Now in the events where you fuck 10 other women and you still have the oneitis. Then you must pursue that oneitis. It's obvious that the feelings for this girl are past the physical, and you must find a way to let your oneitis feel what your feeling.

Anybody who's says otherwise on this topic, is fooling you bro.

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Samex seconded. If it's that serious, then it's worth pursuing. Good luck bro.

At its core, I view a lot of PU as a facade. You learn routines, stories, methods that trick the girl into thinking you possess certain traits or are a certain person. In essence, you are memorizing a blueprint for how to impersonate. But as with any costume, the disguise won't last forever. That's roughly where the advice fails most frequently. So the solution is to stop impersonating and start actually becoming what you have been faking until now. Example, don't tell fake DHV stories, improve your life and share experiences.

I've also noticed early on that a lot of the "normal advice that gets constantly spewed at people" around here is targeted at the AFC. Most of the rules and the common advice are directed at guys who don't know the first thing about male-female dynamics. You're not at that point with your situation, so the usual advice doesn't really apply to you. As said before:

if you have oneitis with a girl youve known a DECENT amount of time, like 3+ months, and youve been close with her during that time, you need to understand that even if you love each other it jus isnt going to workout if you arent still together at that moment, no matter what, dont hold onto that 1% chance that she changes her mind.... if you have oneitis about a girl you dont know much and she is just really different, than maybe screwing 10 other girls will help