I was doing texts with this girl for quite a while, at first she would take a long time to respond, wouldn't text me too often.

Once she responded to me after a couple of days and apologized for the delay, I said it was no problem. Then she began to text me more frequently (every day). We went out recently and had a great time.

She texted me after the date and the next day asked me how I thought it went. I said I had a good time, and didn't get into it any further than that. I didn't bother to ask her how SHE felt it went.

She seems to have backed off now, and reverted to the previous "taking a long time to respond" and initiating conversation less, which seems a bit weird, since she was still very much chasing me a couple of days after the date...

How do I play this? I've had situations before where I let things go stale, by backing off and letting the girl have her space too much before. Should I make sure SHE is the next to initiate contact? How many days should I wait before I attempt to make contact again?

You two are missing the sexual connection.

Nah, we made out for like an hour after the date... there was plenty of kino and sexual connection throuout and after the date.

Sounds like it wasn't enough. It still seems as if you two aren't "officially" together yet. Hmm, I don't know. Right now you're both bsing one another. Just work at trying to get it all real and emotional. Take her somewhere special and romantic this time where you and her can initiate being sexual again. Once you got to her feelings enough, she'll forget about the bsing from before and you two will finally be normal people who like each other.

Not sure why my post disapeared... Anyway, Yeah, your right. It just seems like we're bsing each other. Maybe when she asked me "how I thought it went" she was really asking "are we together now?" Not sure I might be confused in thinking she's running push pull game on me, I'm a bit of a noob.

I mainly just need to figure out if I should contact her, or wait it out? Any other profesional opinions on this?

Where do you want to take it with this girl? Either way, you need some consistency. After a great date, it would have been a good idea to capitalize on that and set another date to hang out again. You're not getting laid over a text message or by waiting her out. You need to show some initiative to make things happen, if you get too caught up in this, "Wait so many days then blah blah blah" game, you'll lose alot of girls that way.

She WANTS you to be persistent, a girl can only give so many opportunities before she says fuck it and moves on. Being unavailable at the very beginning of a budding relationship isn't the best move if you want it to lead somewhere.

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Great advice, thanks! I was gonna take her to a baseball game or something, but maybe I'll do that, then make her dinner at my place if it's possible.