This evening failed miserably and now I want to know why, so that I can learn from it.

I met a girl at a party, by the end of it she sat in my lap and I thought it was going really well. We took a bus into town and went out to a bar with one of her friends. We found a table and the three of us talked for hours. She didn’t ask me to buy her anything but I did it anyways (regret it). We ended up holding hands while her friend talked about who she was going to hit on (she didn’t talk to anybody besides us). These two girls know each other because they both use twitter (I despise it) and they mentioned my targets username.

When I asked my target if she wanted to come back to my place she rejected me and wanted my number and told me that we could see other more some other day. She wrote her number into my phone and called her phone from my phone and saved my number.

I went home and I looked her up on twitter, and this is where it gets really messed up because during our time at the bar she has updated her twitter saying that I was just a burden and that I prevented her from hitting on other guys. And here I thought I was doing her a favor because I considered myself as a more attractive person than she was.

A fun note is that her friend wrote on twitter that she wanted me instead, that my target should have “given me to her”. Well needless to say I deleted her number and I just feel horrible that this happened at all, but instead of blaming the girl for being dropped on her head as a baby I thought I might learn from this, where do you think I went wrong?

I think she was disappointed in your escalation. From hand holding to "you wanna come back to my place" isn't exactly the wild roller coaster that women love so much. Next time try this line that i got from the SNS guys. While holding her hand under the table you can start a finger fight. Lean in real close and whisper "Our fingers are fucking right now and nobody even knows it" then give her a little peck on the neck. It sounds like she was looking for a guy to ravish her. I wouldn't say you failed though,bro!

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Thank you, that is sound advice

I think, that you should do more Kino, if she sitss on your lap and holds your hand, she won't be ready, to suddenly go to your bedroom from there.
Now from my perspective you have 2 solutions here:

a) Next time, you escelate hard and fast right from the start (altought this is high risk)
b) You use 60 Years of Challenge's sxual tension building, where you seduce her to a point, that she will be ebrassed if she doesn't kino you back (in a way, she talks and talks and talks... and you're holding eye contact, carresing her hand, smile, if she wants to go too far you stop her and eventually this tension, will cause her to flip out and went all over you).

That's my advise

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Failed is a label. You tell yourself you failed and as a result you feel down and become pessimistic, you blame yourself. Be kinder and more positive to yourself and other people will be the same way to you. Revise your thoughts to, "I am new at dating, and the more I try talking to women, the better I will get at it. Women have different tastes, everyone is liked by some people and not-liked by others. You have not failed - you have succeeded in trying. Get to know the girls, and if you like them - let them know, and let the chips fall where they may." The reason why is not you. Do not blame yourself, it is just an illusion that you did something wrong and that it is your fault. It is just very negative thinking that causes people to feel bad, and that in turn pushes people away. Think more positive and be more loving to yourself. Failing is also an exaggeration. Change your definition of success. Define success as talking to women and being more social and thinking more positive and taking risks, NOT as getting the girl. Because most women do not want to be gotten, they want to be loved.
That is mind reading - you cannot read her mind. Women's feelings toward you can change, women can feel different emotions toward you, so don't blame yourself for it not going well. Dont tell yourself that it SHOULD go well - because that is a should statement and life is not predictable like that.

You feel horrible at the end of the story not because of anything the girl did, but because you are being self critical. Women have different tastes, their moods change, etc. Thinking that if you do the right things, the women will like is unrealistic and self centered. You are giving way too much importance to what this girl posted on twitter because you think now the whole world knows about you and you've embarassed yourself in front of everyone. That is an illusion. There are so many posts on fb and twitter that hardly anybody reads them, most people care only what others think about their posts, and dont care much about what other people post. I bet most of these girls do not pay attention to you enough to care what anybody posts about you on twitter. The world does not revolve around you, which is good news, because these women and these people think of you much less negatively as you think about yourself!

Yes you will learn and improve through experience! Give yourself credit for taking the risks with the girls and putting in the effort and initiative. But being self critical is not going to help you improve. Positive self talk on the other hand combined with experience and what you are already doing will be a powerful combination for you to progress forward!