Ok, i'm gonna start off and say i have been kinda trying for months to become a different person and have read these forums and others and found what i would like to be. An Alpha Male character who is very confident and Mode One personality. (Alan Currie's book on Mode One behaviour) Really enjoyed it. I don't mind to become a seductionist where i lie to woman. That's not what i want. I want to be upfront, confident and real with them. But as much as i am trying (which obviously isn't enough as i just cannot change myself) i am not seeing improvements. I am trying casual improvements like making sure i dress well and try to act confidently walking around and stuff, but to no avail really. I always try to smell good too and got complimented on Gucci pour Homme today by my friend who is a girl actually. I rarely get complimented on smell though, probably because i don't set myself up for compliments i don't know? But i got that aftershave and Armani Code and Armani acqua di gio which i try to rotate.

I am 6 foot 2, fairly thin, but not skinny, 77kg. Short hair most the time with stubble is what i have SPAM. So i haven't a height disadvantage which many do struggle with i see. I would like to think i'm an attractive person, i mean i guess it's admitting defeat when you think you're not i suppose, but i guess seeing my success rate with woman can't be much really :/ So self esteem is quite low. I am at Uni SPAM. I have got with 3 girls in my life. 1 on holiday where i just made out, average looking. Another at my mate's uni where i got the furthest and pulled her in the club and went back to hers only to fuck it up royally there. Seeing as we were both virgins i did stuff but for some reason couldn't get the condom on (had 2 of them, and for some odd reason i remember trying and i couldn't get it on). I have put them on before and been fine so have no clue why this was but it was slightly gutting as i was this close to losing the virginity, and losing it with another virgin would be quite nice i guess. But anyway yeh she was slightly better looking, wasn't that bad, but not great. The final time was in a club where i don't even remember how i got with this girl who was slightly better again i think. But problems occurred and i messed it up and didn't even manage to get her number (my fault, i ballsed it up when i had a real chance). All of these have happened past 12 months where i will admit i have been pretty drunk in them all if you hadn't guessed by the way i was describing it :/ and i am now 19 and still not really got anywhere with girls which majorly sucks. I feel i can do better than what i have had but my self esteem is so low i think and i can't seem to find how to build it up.

I would find it a lot easier if i found out girls checking me out or something. I can take that and also it's a self esteem and confidence boost. But either i never find girls doing that or i just can never find them doing it. I don't know overly why i'm posting this. But i've gone last resort and really need help from some of you guys who do well with women and really need to hear some good things and where to start. I mean i'm at Uni approaching the end of first year and whilst many of my friends call me a character, i am quite shy before getting to know people and i figured out that most people i do get on with well if they approach me first. I was thinking and i rarely do any approaching myself, which kinda sucks.

So anyway i really want to become the alpha male type guy with oozes of confidence and self esteem. Someone who does well with woman without feeling the need to lie and seduce which is something i dislike highly (no offence to those who do, that's just me i guess) I feel like i can do a lot better than i can do, and in one way think i know i can do it, but the path is blocked. I just don't know how to get to that point. Either way with me being like this SPAM, if i stay like it then if i manage to get a girl then i will be the one on the back foot in the relationship. That is something i never want and where problems start imo when the man doesn't hold any power. Again that's just me but i'm sure you all agree to do well with the opposite sex you need some balls and confidence or otherwise stand the chance of being cheated on or being trampled over. Something no one should aspire to happen with. But i want to do day game, night game. I don't want to just meet people when really drunk. I mean that's crap really.

Cheers guys, means a lot you reading this and hope you can help me. If you do manage to help me then you will be forever remembered by me ha I don't see this as just helping with my sex life but career wise the alpha male image only is gonna help i think. So it would be a life changer.

I know it's a long read guys, but i really would appreciate any help. Really am in the pits about this and just can't do anything and don't see any light at the end of the tunnell the way it is. Thanks again

You sound as though you think becoming alpha is just a matter of drinking a special elixer. It isn't. Work on inner game first. Set controls and restrictions for yourself, starting by going easy on the booze. Alcohol and game don't mix.

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My philosophy:
Hit and quit till you find one that you see fit!

Oftentimes, alpha behavior takes months or even years to perfect. You just have to keep practicing until it becomes second nature. It's going to be shitty in the beginning but you can't let it get you down.

Focusing on your looks so that girls check you out is well and good, but if you expect them to make the moves, then you're sourly mistaken. Being able to take action and initiate things is a key part of being an alpha.

Cheers guys. I know alcohol isn't going to help in the long run. But i enjoy drinking with friends and we have some awesome times together drinking lol.

Also i know it isn't going to come like that. But i don't know where to start. I am paralysed with terror of just approaching a girl i don't know on the street for example. If i struggle to do it drunk then it ain't going to be easy sober. I'm not bad once i've talked with someone a few times. But it's always the first time and that greeting i cannot do. I mean it's all great and all saying just do it. But i just can't. How do i get out of this rut?

I would find it a lot easier to approach if i found girls checking me out, but either they don't or i don't catch it. But as i'm tall and a decent size (not like skinny), make an effort to smell good and look good with decent clothes, i guess maybe i'm just not getting the signals as i know those things aren't bad things haha. What would you say to someone who you found checking you out anyway. Would you just go up to them offer your hand and say hi :S But what then? That's the part i can't really do i don't know.

Cheers for the help, but need more help basically. I want to become alpha, sure to become properly alpha is a long term goal but a short term goal is to get more success with women.