.....I just don't know what to do with myself, so I thought I'd join the forum...

I'm a 22 year old virgin, a good looking guy. I don't have too much trouble attracting women, but I have 0 follow through. I start getting nervous as soon as I see that look in her eye. Last night, my friends brought over this little 90 pound spanish girl. She's 27. Within 5 minutes of meeting her, my friend pulls me aside and says "Hey, she wants you to dominate her." Frankly, I wasn't too excited. I'm a romantic, and I need time for attraction to grow.....yeah i know, not your average mindset. Anyway, the rest of the day all of my friends are staring at us and pushing towards fucking her. Eventually I told myself "No more waiting for the right girl, you're gonna fuck the shit outta this little lady tonight." Having made the decision, I was nervous. I had been drinking a lot of beer for the last 2 days, but it wasn't gonna cut it. I quickly downed a couple glasses of wine and a few shots of vodka. During this time she asked me if I was a virgin........I was pissed. Apparently my friends told her a lot about me.....I didn't let it upset me too much, I just swooped her up to my room and had her naked in no time. I explored her body and licked her all over. My first naked woman! Ah it was great, but.......I couldn't seem to get more than half chub. I kept making her suck my dick, but she wasn't any good at it, and as soon as I got a little harder she'd stop and position herself for a ramming, but I just couldn't stay hard enough. It was the most frustrating thing in my life. Anyways, I'm not sure if I'm seeking advise or if I just needed to express my frustration, but now my whole group of friends get to gossip about my limp dick.......

Oh, shortly after she left, we had a text convo. She asked to see me again....my ego was hurt so I acted only mildly interested. I don't know what to do with myself.

I`m with you mate... I feel for you. hope you will have a better luck next time, and I advice you to cut off the drinking I`m going out tomorrow with 2 girls and I`ll post a report of it , you are welcome to read it

Keep it real

my dude, you got a case of the SAME SHIT I HAD! i know EXACTLY where you're coming from. Your whole life you've been told that 'FALL in love with a girl, get married and forget the world' bullshit. my friend, you gotta realize life is NOT set in stone. if you want something, YOU have got to be willing to make it or break it. i 'suffered' from a single mother's Point of View (which was very skewed, and understandably so) which was that if you are having sex with a woman on the first night you are doing something wrong. You've got to break through that mind set. There is nothing wrong with sex. (unless you don't wear a condom) Women want sex just as much if not MORE than you!! they just don't want to be pressured into it, or lied to. I think you can understand where they're coming from. whatever your friends say, doesn't matter. what matters is what YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF. so gtfover whatever your homies say, they ain't saying what you need to hear. so you gotta do you, and keep your mind thinking positively about all things. you have to go back into the past and figure out why you are thinking the way you are, and i think you'll find that with what you know now your old thinking has changed.
p.s. smile much my friend. that will build your confidence and truth.

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It happens to everyone bro, change your mindset. Sex is Sex nothing more. You can have your romatic and passionate sex when you meet someone special, but for now just fuck every girl that wants to be fucked. Thats all they want thats all you should care for.

Girls like sex as much as guys do... probably even more!! Those hookers get to cum more than we do!! lol either way bro. I have been there and it fucking sucked but in my case I cared for the girl and was dying to fuck her and nothing!!

Also really important!! If you masturbate too much or watch too much porn that will not help at all!! Sometimes its better to hold back on jerking off and watching porn even if we dont want to... trust me.

Cheers happy gaming
Janzi

Fell free to PM me with any personal questions

Tip: if you beat off a lot, try going a few days without it.

Just TRY. You'll be dribbling all day long.

I was in a similar situation with a girl when I was virgin, and I had also been drinking some that night After the foreplay when I finally was going to fuck her I couldn't get it up, even if she sucked it good... I think that drinking alcohol + being nervous/under pressure have the wrong impact on your dick :/
Cause the morning after I had no problem getting it up and fuck her
A strange thing is that now-days I get it up easier and can fuck longer with alcohol in my blood.

Janzi is right about the part when you should fuck as many as possible, romantic sex is more of a relationship thing, though eventually it probably turns into dirtier sex

Anyways good luck out there!

Yours Beyond Imagination

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You got to start somewhere...

Another tip, and a rather gross one...

Get a fleshlight, one of the tight ones (for me, all of them are tight).

Beat off, then penetrate the fleshlight as soon as possible after beating off. There are ways of getting your dick hard that are sort of semi-mechanical, squeezing blood into the base, etc. PC muscle control also helps a lot and you can learn to pump it up from almost nothing.

Learn how to do this. It's just exercise.

Source: I'm 40. Just wait, kids.

Thanks for the replies. You're right, I do think the nervousness and alcohol were big factor. I do masturbate way to much, and had earlier that day. I'll stop that all together. I've decided to stop drinking and smoking so much pot. I ordered some Maca to increase my libido. Look it up, it sounds badass. I've done some research on PC muscle control, and have been working on that. I still feel like less of a man for it having happened, but atleast it was a catalyst for change.

Fuck maca, just quit smoking the evil leaf.

Well, I blew her off once now, but I'm meeting up with her tomorrow. I haven't touched any alcohol or grass since that night. I've been eating healthier than I ever have in my life. I've been working out and running hard. I've been taking Zinc, B12, Liquid Maca Extract, and other vitamins. I've been doing PC control exercises. I haven't masturbated or looked at any porn. I plan on giving her the ramming she should have got the first time, and if I don't....to hell with me.

do you usualy have trouble getting it up when you drink? i know some people struggle and some people have no problem.

if you cut back on masturbation and its still not helping, look at your diet. some low fat diets kill your libido because you arent getting certain necessary fatty acids. i dont remember all the key ones, but i know omega 3 is one of them. some research into nutrition will help you out.

i remember my first time was exactly the same. Nerves and drink are not a good combo. Just cut the drink, do some excersize earlier in the dya and you will be fine

This is the last post I'll make on this topic. I get it now. Waiting around for the right girl is a waste of time. If you find her, you won't even know what to do to get her, or keep her. I realize now that I should be fucking as many girls as I can. Pussy is literally intoxicating. It's like a drug. I guess I'm a normal guy now

As far as nerves. I think I was nervous about my performance, but I realize now that most men aren't as passionate and caring as me when it comes to pleasing a woman. If I just do my thing, I'm gonna be above average at least. It turns out I'm "amazing" and "like a sex god."

I feel like a new man. I'm excited to learn how to be a better man everyday, and to help others achieve the same goal. I think you'll be hearing from me some more. Peace out.

Its the alcohol.. it numbs your senses including the pleasure in ur pants.. its best to drink after you got an erection so you wont lose it fast..