PREQUEL


Introduction:
Hi, I'm Willem, I'm 17 years old and I live in Belgium in a mediocre town. I have read the 'natural art of seduction' of Gambler and I wanna be a PUA!
Why? Because 'true love' doesn't exist; there will never be a girl who when I see her I immediately fall in love and forever will be with her. It just doesn't exist in the 'real world'. There are only relations with people and some you see as your friends, some as your enemy's and some are more than just friends or enemy's.
Most of my friends are plain stupid; they date only ugly or mediocre girls. They watch at beautiful girls, never to have any conversation with them. I saw a ugly girlfriend of one of my friends (3/10 at most) and i know that he doesn't think the girl is beautiful, but he wants to have a girlfriend for the affection, for the social status, for the assurance of having someone who you can call your girlfriend.
And I just don't wanna be one of those guys; I wanna be the one who dated lots of girls; who feels confident of himself; who gets what he wants, when he wants and where he wants... not by luck,... but by skill...

The Journal:
This journal will start on 10/04/2011. In every report there will be a summary, the changes and some questions that would I like you to answer. In most reports there will be goals; these will be divided in dialy, weekly and monthly goals. I will keep doing this until I have found my freedom…

Questions:
-What kind of exercises should I start with?
-What about my anxiety that I almost always have?
-How do you approach groups?

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Willem

Hello Willem,

Nice meeting you, I'm LD - also Belgian. There are quite a few of us lately it seems.
Anyways - let's answer those questions for you now, shall we?

The exercises that you start with should be those of learning howto communicate properly. Learn how to address and how to speak, learn to be verbal. I suggest trying out the "Newbie Mission" in the PUA Lounge on the forum. It will teach you the basic approach way.

Anxiety doesn't exist. It's a frame that you create that you have when you are too low selfesteemed. Just be you - but make sure everybody sees it. Work your way into the scene, into PU.

Approaching groups is the same as everything else. Practise, practise & practise.
Evolve, rapport & go back out again.

Good luck, I'll stay tuned.

≠ LD

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@LyricalDream:

Thanks for the quick reply.
I know that it's coming to Belgium too; I hope this doesn't give something negative to the game.
Where you from, I would love to do some things together.
Can you maybe give me a link or something; I find it hard to find it.
I was more talking about nervous and stuff like that, but I'll keep in mind what you said.
But talking to one girl is different then talking to two girls, right?!

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Willem

I'm from Geel & Antwerp. So it always is possible of course.
the-newbie-mission-vt41556.html
It only makes a difference if you say it's a difference. Don't care about the outcome.
Calibrate yourself to the group and sure be true - don't fake till you make it.

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@LyricalDream:
I myself am from Geel. We really should meet...

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Willem

The irony, you're the second one of Geel that I meet in a week that does the same thing.
Funny - how luck can drasticly turn around sometimes

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@LyricalDream:
Who's the other one?

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Willem

Sorry bro, can't tell. I keep my wings kinda divided. You'll meet him if you once go out with me.

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Day 0 (10/04/2011):
This is not a real report; tomorrow I will begin with real reports and exercices.
It's sunday today and there are not a lot of people to talk to, so... But i've done some things today that I wanna tell...

Goals:
-Didn't set up any goals today, just relax and try some things.

Summary:
10:30 Went to the gym for the first time after a few years. Talked to one of the girls of the gym. She was the sister of one of my friends and we just talked about small things. There were no other beautiful girls, but I didn't even say hi to anyone else...
15:00 Went to the shopping street in my town with some of my friends. Saw very few girls and the one that were there I didn’t approach; I was too scared… We hanged around, didn’t do that much…
20:00 Taught about what I should do with this journal and how to begin talking to women. I really need to take every opportunity that I have… I’m going to set prices on every goal that I don’t do; see next report!

Changes:
-Talk to every woman you think is somewhat beautiful or cute, no exceptions!!!
-Just say 'hi' to most people, even if you are not sure or a bit nervous.
-For every goal I don't make I've gotta pay a price that goes to charity on the end of the month.

Questions:
-Can meditation help with my PUA skills?
-If so, what do I exactly do (not how to meditate, but about what and such things)?
-Can someone give me an opener which almost always work (if I really don't know what to say to a girl)?

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Willem

Hey Willem,

Welcome to the forum. Good to see that you're dedicating part of your life towards becoming a PUA. I just started my journey and I can tell there's a pretty big difference already in my life. I feel great.
How's the book ? I might read it since I really like gambler's techniques.
I had this problem too about a month ago...so I memorized some openers and routines... I know that routines aren't natural at all, but as a beginner, it helps a lot to built up confidence. I use indirect openers and direct openers....

Indirect: this one works pretty much all the time for me.

"Hey guys, I need a female opinion on something. What do you think of V-neck t-shirts ?" then i usually transitions this to a DHV and funny story, like back in Brazil when a girl I met kept sayin I looked gay with the v-neck but she would always touch my chest and smell my neck... she was all sexual about it. I love using this opener because it makes them look at you and compliment you - most women like v-necks -it might not work sometimes but I can approach any girl now because I know what to say. They are very receptive to this opener.

Direct: I tried this one a few times and it worked

"Hey I was walking past you, and I gotta say, you have a great sense of style. I had to meet you" then just introduce yourself.

"Hey you looked interesting so I had to come and say hi. I'm GringoZ"


Openers aren't that important man. I just noticed that. As long as you have a good body language, talk slowly, and smile. you won't come off as a creep and they'll be receptive.

Good luck bro

GringoZ

@GringoZ:
The book is really good, I really recommend it...

Thanks for the openers!

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Day 1 (11/04/2011):
My first 'real' report, went to the gym and to the shopping street again and also to the cinema. Took some easy goals (at least I thought) and put prices on each one. For every person of that goal that I don't do I need to pay the amount to the right to charity.

Goals:
-Approach 5 girls and talk to them. (0,20€/P)

Summary:
10:30 Went to the gym again; not one girl there.
13:30 Went to the shopping street with some friends again, there were some girls there, but I was still afraid, still goddamned afraid... So I didn't approach anyone...
16:00 I was so pissed that I didn't approach a girl that I just left my home and just cycled a bit around town. I saw a few girls with a water pipe, one of them asked me where I could get some water. I said that I would get some water for them if I could join them. They agreed and after I got the water we sat we tried to let the water pipe work. We failed, but we talked a bit about where we were going to shool and shit. I didn't talk that much and after a few tried to get the thing working for a few times I said goodbye. They didn't all feel that comfortable with me. I have to work on making conversation and for them to feel comfortable.
19:30 The cinema, there were not a lot of women. Mainly because we were late for the movie. We went to watch 'Suckerpunch' and let me tell you; 'Best... Movie... Ever...'. This film enriched my life beyond my imagination. "Who Honors those we love for the very life we live? Who sends monsters to kill us... and at the same time sings that we'll never die? Who teaches us what's real... and how to laugh at lies? Who decides why we live and what we'll die to defend? Who chains us... and who holds the key that can set us free? It's you. You have all the weapons you need. Now fight!"
You have all the weapons you need; you had it all your life. Now fight,... bitch!

Conclusion:
-Approached 1/5 girls and talked to them. (0,20€/P)
Pot=0,80€

Changes:
-Try to get the conversation going on.
-I need to find other places to do my exercices.
-I really don't need to bring any friends with me, they really destroy your exercices.

Questions:
-What are always good topics to talk about?
-Still the meditation question (see day 0)?
-What should I change about my goals?

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Willem