Has it ever happened to you that you meet a girl who doesn't seem to have much sexual experience, and she treats you like you are the greatest thing since sliced bread?

I have come across this quite often recently, I meet really nice girls. And it makes me feel super guilty. Because you can tell she hasn't dated too much ya know... She doesn't shit test you, doesn't linger on sex talk, tries really hard to get your attention, perhaps even has low self esteem, or is a bit shy/reserved. Usually the kind of girls that go to college to ACTUALLY pursue a career. And the thing is, I always pick up on this very early on, WAYYYY before the lay... So I know, that by the time it does come... She gonna expect me to commit to just her, and I don't really want that. I mean, they are attractive, physically an all, but I don't wanna break hearts and stuff. So I can't let myself go through with it...

This is why I prefer the more confident and experienced, non-slutty, nice girls. Where they are cool and all, but have been around the block enough times to be a challenge... Not only is the lack of a challenge a bit of a turn-off, but like I said, I feel guilty before even making a serious move, because I feel like they are gonna instantly want me to commit to just them. And I hate to keep letting some of these opportunities slip by, these are really nice and attractive girls, but they are just TOO damn nice... right now, I wanna work on my game, my experience, I want girls who I can fuck a few times without having to necessarily commit.

What do you guys do? Has this ever happened? How do you break this frame. I know all girls LOVE sex, but like I said, right now... I have commitment issues... I don't wanna settle for any girl unless I have strong feelings for her, and that takes time... Which brings up another point? How do you manage MLTRs? Thats something I'm gonna have to work on soon...

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"Be the change you wanna see in the world" -Gandhi

I don't trust those "super nice girls" and I'll tell you why. You are absolutely correct, they are that way because they don't have much experience and they have somewhat low self-esteem and/or are not sure of themselves.

Here is the thing...

Lack of experience DOES NOT EQUATE super nice.

Lack of experience EQUATES super nice "behavior", because they don't have enough experience to know how to act, know how to game, know how to be independent.

The worst thing you can do is get into a relationship with one, because once your "love" gives her the self-confidence and personal experience to come out of her shell, she will grow into a SuperBitch who doesn't appreciate a damn thing you do.

Next thing you know...Jerry! Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

"Bitch? What??? You sleeping wit my brother???!!!"

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

yeah, thats precisely it..

I think the best girls for relationships are those that have been well around the block in the relationship game, that are very attractive, and they KNOW it, and because of that are very cocky and arrogant. They will shit test you and give you a hell of a time trying to get in their pants. Because underneath that rough and tough exterior, lies a very kind and gentle girl. In fact, the reason these girls are so cold sometimes in the exterior is BECAUSE they protect their kinder hearts.

Still, some of these "less experienced" girls are very attractive, and I come across these quite a lot. I just wanna know how to deal with this. Establish what I want out of this, in a way that isn't like I am taking advantage of someone. That is my biggest milestone. Because really, I know its an internal conflict. I'm not comfortable with the idea of deliberately stepping on others.

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"Be the change you wanna see in the world" -Gandhi

what a fun reply mack, keep sharing your knowledge hahaha

thanks, i'm the representative board curmudgeon

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

The thing is if not you, then some other guy will do it. I get the moral dilemma, as I have ran into similar girls as well.
Depending on the girl and what have you I either go the friend route, or just out right reject them. On a rare occasion I seek out a relationship with them
You can't really if you plan keep all of the girls from knowing one each other. If you let the other girls know about each other it is easier to maintain on your end but not easy.

I disagree. I think it more has to do with overall life experiences than anything else. When I was younger I was like these girls or as we say AFC. But from growing up and experience life more my behavior changed. I am still a nice guy but not as nearly as nice as before.

As I say if your not jaded by the time your 30 years old something is wrong with you.