HB8 and I had been dating for a couple of months. thursday night, after a fairly successful night out, I found out that she's been seeing another guy. She was reluctant to tell me, but i eventually found out. I, of course, was angered. I left coldly, and the following text conversation followed:

her: Are you mad at me?
me: i guess im just jealous.
her: well im sorry
me: dont be. so why couldnt you tell me that you liked this guy before?
her: i dont wanna hurt feelings, and i do miss you quite badly
me: id rather know the truth. deceit is a great way to lose someone. and leading someone to believe that you like them will come back to bite you
her: i was not leading you to believe that....
me: i want to ask again...i never really got a straight answer: do you like me?
her: its complicated
me: complicated how
her: I do like you. Right now i like him more. but i do like you. it doesnt make sense, and im horrible. im sorry.
Me:k. thanks for telling me. you've come close to losing me before, and i honestly thought about it again tonight
her: i dont want to lose you. im truly, deeply sorry.
me: good night.



Since then, she's tried to reach out. I've responded to her texts coldly, only answering her questions and not adding more.

I REALLY would like to win this girl back. Advice? also, did i show any weakness/ make any mistakes with my text conversation?

thanks.

BTW im new to the forum. I've been a lurker for a couple of months, and have finally decided to take the dive. thanks again.

Did she say the other guys is PUA? How did you know? If not, I think you have completely wrong definition of the PUA term. If that is the case, you need to start reading the material before asking that question.
Your problem can easily be answered by the reading materials, and if you feel like you're too lazy to read them, here is your shortcut. YAHOO ANSWER !!!

I'm all about helping, but it seems that recently ppl have mistaken this forum for LOVE GURU forum a lot.
And here is my honest advice, MOVE ON.
Your case is definitely oneitis, you dated her, fucked her, now she's fucking you over for another guy, and why do you STILL want her back ???
And despite your cold tonality throughout the conversation, you shouldn't have asked "Do you like me?"

Thanks for you reply. The "Material" is the only reason I ever even had this girl. The material is very thorough when it comes to pick-up. Not so much when it comes to maintaining attraction. I've read The Game, Mystery Method, and im currently reading "the art of seduction." Any other reccomendations are welcome.


I've moved on, and i've been dating other girls. And yes, i'll be the first to admit that Oneitis is a factor, However the pride of being better than the other guy is also a factor. I just wanted to know what the winning move in my situation is? Being indifferent is a must, I know. Should i continue to talk to her? Should I continue to hang out with her/kiss her? Or should I cut her off completely? I've met the other guy, and i can see his appeal. He's an interesting person to say the least.

when you like a girl because of her qualities i usually go for it

when you like a girl and you don't know why, drop it



anyways, you need to tease her and show some greater value, don't ever let yourself slip into that lame position again, remember, she's fking around with such a fantastic thing, you.

David DeAngelo. investigate.

If you put it that way, then I'm more than gladly to put in my 2 cent to help you win her back.
Let's work from the root of the problem, you used PUA stuffs and got her hooked. There must be a reason that she left you for the other guy. This could be your inner game, or the fact us PUA have no intention to settle down, or it could be her problem. Either we want to narrow it down to why she like the other guy better, and what are you lacking.
As far as this goes, she's trying win your attention back, note this might not mean anything, she could be just feeling bad about it or rather just trying to keep the attention she used to have. Take advantage of that, let her chase you, show her you have more interesting sides besides what she has already seen, being with other girls also a good way to go.
But keep a nonchalant mindset about this, and start treating her like a bratty little sister until she has done enough to deserve your attraction.

Thanks. I suspect the problem was that I got too boring. I always kept on with the teasing/negging, and complimented her every now and then. I know shes still attracted, the IOI's are still there (although less than before) when I do see her at work. I've stuck to just being friendly, but not showing interest.

We went from talking/texting daily, to almost not at all. Im thinking about continuing this for another week or so, and then slowly re-initiating friendly contact with her, and starting to game her from square 0. Good idea?

Honestly man just move on. Seriously I hate to sound negative but its the right answer about 99% of the time. She left for a reason, probably because she lost attraction for you. Even if you somehow get her back you are going to be worried that she will leave again and that will be very very bad for your overall wellbeing and attitutde. Learn from it and move on to something younger, tighter and hotter.

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I agree with Carmo, personally I would not waste any more time on this girl.
If you want to win her back as a challenge for yourself, it would be much much better to go try gaming .hired guns

She's saying all that shit to lessen her own feelings of guilt, not to try to reestablish or maintain a relationship with you.

Don't be a boy-bitch and let her friendzone you to lessen her own feeling of guilt. Let her taste her own stench of guilt.

Beyond the fact that she is trying to lesson her own guilt, you need to think about yourself. I am telling you from experience that it is now worty trying to win back any girl. This puts you in a really bad frame and instead of buidling your confidence more and more each day you will be hurting your own development. Theres a ton of other girls that would be better to spend your time gaming. Winning back a girl who cheated on you is not worth spending the mental energy.

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