File Entry #1: Getting Started.

Follow me as i lead you on this mystical journey of awesomeness of AFC to PUA.
I’m 21yrs old and I’m an AFC. I was in a relationship that lasted 2years and just ended
last summer. Its been great being single but i have just had bad luck with women.
I cant approach girls let alone start and carrying a conversation. I’m a good looking guy,
tall 6'3 200Ib, dress like a rockstar. I come off as a nice guy, The Friend, you know?
and thats one of my biggest flaws is that i get FZ. I don’t know if I do it to myself or
what but its something I want to change.

When i go out i need to learn to have fun and cut loose, i usually just get really drunk if i go out
with friends and avoid meeting new people. I don’t want this, i want to meet new people
i want to be the life of the party when i go out.


Discovery Of PUA:

I discovered The PUA Community by reading the book The Game, like many other people on this site.
When i read this, it made me realize i have no game. Its tough for me to talk to girls, and approach.
My mind goes blank, like some jackass just kicked me in the head.(iv been kicked in the head, not much fun)


Problems:

-I worry to much about what im going to say to a girl."what do i say after Hi"
-Do i fear rejection? Sure who doesnt sometimes.
-Getting lost in my own head before approaching. I mean im already shutdown before
even talking to her. Need to incorporate the 3 sec rule.

Preparing For The Game:

Ok, time to get my Shit together, baby steppes.
-Destroy my AA.
-Get socially comfortable
-Work on my conversation skills. Listen to what they are saying and dig deeper into the convo.
Listen for those key words.
-Don’t think, just DO
-Have fun.

I work alot so i will try my best to update this journal. I plan to keep this going for
awhile. Kind of like Motivation.

Last minute question:
-What are some good exercises to do?

Don't worry about what to say after the "Hi" - there is no worries. The reason why you approach is because there is interest from your side. Show that interest, show that intent. Wether it be direct or indirect - it doesn't matter. Just show that you care!

Rejection is actually just really simple. Embrace it, the more you get rejected.. the more experience you get. The tric is that the more you get rejected, the more you stop caring about the outcome. This is the desired result - there is no need to be happy or unhappy about a specific approach - in in the end - it's still your call. Not hers or his.

Getting lost in your mind is a normal thing, it happens with a lot of people. The thing that I usually do is just to focuss on enjoying myself. That way a lot of things go natural. Don't go out to seduce, go out to have fun.
Try just to approach anybody by just saying "Hi". The more you get used to just random talking - the better. A good place to start is with the newbie mission. You can find it in the "PUA Lounge" section. It sounds pretty lame, but if you really have that specific kind of 'AA' then you need to get back to the basics & train it.

Good luck, I'll try to keep up with reading your journal.

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File Entry #2

Im also keeping a journal with me when i go out day gameing. I wright down what happend than back to here. Keeps it fresh in my mind.

So today i went to the mall to buy new clothes and get new drumsticks. I figured since im going to the mall i figured this would be a good opportunty to Sarge.
I decided to try the Newbie Test. make eye contact, smile and say Hi. Doesnt seam that hard.

FINDINGS:

Anyways before i left i went through some old books and found Rules Of The Game, totally forgot i bought this book, anyways i skimd it and seams like a good guide to help out new people to the PUA Community. Any thoughts?
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The Mall

AA you are a cruel bitch. There was no failure today because i dont believe in failure. Only learning from your mistakes.

I called my pal up to see if he wanted to go to the mall, he said sure, he would meet me there. We were going to be each others wings, so i thought.
I arrive at the Mall and walk into HMV(a music and DVD store) and usually theres a few cuties in here but to my dissapointment their was not. Dam! I bought Black Swan(i heard it was good, also heard there was a lesbian scene in it so had to check it out).

I decided to headover to the book store because i wanted to by one of those Ereaders and look at cooking books(yea, i cook. I can cook a mean French Toast)
There was actually alot of HB in this bookstore. I was looking for this one book and couldnt find it, i spot this HB 8 who works there so i asked if she could help me. During this interaction i didnt even engage her in convo, my mind was Blank.
She gives me the book, i say thank you for the help, Smile and make EC. She says Np and does the same.

Not So Hot Till Chicks:

There were these 2 HB6 and HB5.5, i walk up and engaged them in Convo.

HB6:: "Is this all for you today?"
Mapex:: "Actually no, i would like to also buy one of those Ereaders you have on display over there".*smile*
HB6::"Ok, i wont be able to get that for you but she*pointing at HB5.5* can.
Im not authorized to"*sad Face*
HB5.5::*laughs* "What color would you like?"
Mapex::"What colors do you have?" *curious voice*
HB5.5::"Black, White, Black with Purple backing, Purple ect.."
Mapex::" you know..im really diging that purple one"*sly smile*
HB6::"the purple...?" *gave this confused look* like a man cant choose purple
Mapex::*embraceing the silence a bit*"No, ill take the black one" *smile*
Both start laughing. HB5.5 walks away to go get it.
HB6::*still laughing*"That was a good one, that was to funny" i was getting eye rapped from her after this.
I pay for my stuff and walk away, as im walkingout the door i spot this HB8.5, i make EC, smile, about to say hi and.......and......i choke on my word and say nothing. If AA was a person he would be a Ninja.
I decided i needed to clear my mind, im thinking to much so i went to start bucks and read a bit of a book and had coffee.

Starbucks

I didnt open anyone here but i did do an excersise. I watched people as they were walking by and observed them, observed what they were wearing and tried making up way to open them. This what great to do.

My friend decided not to come, he was to lazy to come down so i was a lonewolf in the Mall. I bought new shoes, the Clerk was this HB8, small blonde wore alot of fucking Pink, made me want pink lemonade for some reason, also she wore a cool scarf. Didnt engage her, that voice in the back of my head kept talking shit. "She wont like that blah blah blah", you know?

What To Work On
-I need to shut down the voice in the back of my head.Made me worry what the girl would think of me, usually i dont care what people think. Im probably never going to see them again, why not go for it right?
-Stop thinking so much
-PUA material seams easy but its alot harder when you apply it infield

I look back and realize how i could of opend these girls. I was just missing my Balls today.

Oh i did manage to say Hi to a girl as i was walking out of the Mall, well kinda. My voice went all raspy like something was stuck in there. She just looked at me made this weird face and kept walking. I just started laughing, it was kind of Funny.

File Entry #3

I WAS planing on going out today to work on killing my AA but this morning when i wokeup i felt like Grandpa Death was knocking at my door, i caught the fucking Flue. Gahhh!

Anyways im going to be taking this day and probably tomorrow to be looking into College, and read some PUA Books. I just bought one of those Ereaders so i will probably download one of those books.

Whatsup dude, just read your entries..

I went to that EXACT same feeling some time ago, until something happened and it just made me see everything in another perspective..

stick on to the don't give a shit about whatever anyone thinks..
what happened to me was.. that i went in a trip to Austria where my bro was and we were throwing a party that night for my b-day..
and since the first day I got there, I had spotted this really hot Hungarian girl, but didn't manage to find something to say..
so in the party.. I admit I had some drinks maybe too much haha which normally makes me just say or do everything I'm thinking about without giving a second thought..
so that same night, I just aproached her, got her dancing reaaal close.. exchanged a few words "zu mir oder zu dir" (german for : your place or my place?) haha and in no time we were making out in the bathroom..

I don't mean you should go out and drink, it just made me realize that wehn I do what I'm thinking about, it will work out fine, and it has done ever since..

Just say what you're thinking.. even if it's something like: "damn you're hot"
there's a high chance it might work out..
and if it doesn't just fuck it and go on to the next one dude..

@Wolf92

Yeah i know what you mean dude.
I can see how having that state of mind can help alot, i think thats the state of mind that every guy should have, to apoint. To be able to approach and not feel that AA and say whats on your mind and just dont care of the rejection and also haveing fun. Because when you have a few beers it deffenetly helps your nervs and all that but dont want to be resorting to that all the time.

Hey keep it up bro, going out all the time. I suffer BAD from AA as well but I have been forcing myself to go to the mall and go out almost 5 times a week. Lately I have been doing a lot better.

This is what I did to overcome most of my AA.

First I try to be very social and try to give a compliment to every woman (of course be smart). Doesnt matter if she is old or fa... well not my type. This helped me approach and "practice" w people I dont really care about. This I consider a warm up

Second I would set goals. Simple ones like I will apprach atleast 4 girls today when im at the mall or something. Later something like get a #close. Making them harder so you push yourself everytime. (BTW my goal for this weekend was 4 #closes and ended up with 7, and 4 on those were in one night!!! it was a long night so I wasnt to creepy lol, i hit 2 bars and a house party that night)

Third my mentality, like other guys said here. If you have a mentality of "whatever" things kinda work. My mentality is "Im not trying to get anything out of her, just make her day" if they smile im happy. If they act bitchy i go like Oh well she is the one missing out on a fun short conversation or feeling happy or whatever.

I know I suck at the PUA thing still but slowly things are working out a LOT better and its easier everytime to approach women... and yes a beer or two help when ur out

Good Job, btw check ur inbox.
Janzi

@Janzi

I like that idea, doing warmup sets to people i dont find attractive. I can talk to women i dont find attractive but when i see a HB thats just so fine, my brain just gets clutterd or shutsdown.

Setting small goals would be good also, something like approach 5 women in the mall, like asking directions. and complament at least 1 girl durring my time out. this is great advice.

I usually have that w/e mentallity but im not sure what happend lol, i think next time im going to bring my ipod for music, music clears my head and gets me in the mood.

File Entry #4

Im still feeling sick but i managed to go out today. The sun was shineing, i had a full tank of Gas so i decided to head into the City, i was looking for a new shirt.
I brought my Ipod with me this time and actually listened to a few songs off of barney stinson get psyched mix from How I Met Your Mother, it actually worked lol.

My Goals

-My Goals for today were to try the Newbie Mission again.
-Try and start a Conversation with someone.

Cashier
I walked into this Clotheing store, which had some nice shirts. Tried a few on and ended up buying this really nice White tshirt. As i was paying, i asked this HB7 Cashier where the nearest Starbucks was(i new where it was, it was the first thing that poped into my head) told me the directions and talked for a bit. Like 1 min convo.

I put my new Tshirt on because the one i was wearing was raged looking. Walked into the Bookstore where the Starbucks was. I needed something cold cause my throat was killing me. I ordered, and chatted with this 40yr old women that was serving me, nice lady, she even gave me a free Rice Crispy Square (SCORE!) hahaha. I decided to check if they had any PUA Books here on there computer (they had MM, Natural Art Of Seduction that was it) i didnt buy any cause there cheaper on my Ereader, i turn around and catch this HB8 Nurse checking out my ass(she must of been on her break) i make EC with her she smiles and giggles and she goes back to reading her book, i chickenout to engage her in conversation and i walkout.

I usually dont get checked out by girls alot, it must be the new clothes i bought but i had to check my ass and make sure i didnt have toilet paper or something hanging off lol. I guess i just have a cute ass.

Wal*Mart
I felt like i had no energy when i walked into wallyworld, could of been the sickness or that i chickened out on HB8 Nurse. Anyways i browsed for a bit, didnt find anything. As i was walking down the Sports, i see this HB8.5 waiting for her Paint to be done Mixing. I said fuck it, i dont want to leave on a bad note, all im going to do is say Hi. I perk myself up and start walking. We make EC, i smile and say Hi. She looked surprised and smiled back and said Hi. I didnt choke or anything that time, i felt a big surge of energy hit me and i was in a way better mood. Nothing scary about that, why the fuck did i worry about saying Hi?

What I Learned
-Saying Hi is easy! wtf was i scared of?
-I find talking to Cashiers, or people who work at stores are much more easier to open.
-Having my Ipod with me helped clear my mind.
-Next time i headout im going to make bigger goals for myself, push my boundries.

Im doing this whole thing Solo and it can be hard at times but learn so much more about yourself. I mean, it would be nice if i could get a friend into this also so i wouldnt have to go out all the time alone.
Something i was thinking about today is that i might set somethingup on FB. Invite a bunch of my friends to a club/bar. Im not a big fan of Bars or Clubs but im trying to stepout side my Comfort Zone and try new things. Maybe try alittle Night Game.

File Entry #5

Hey guys

Havnt posted a report in a few days because i have been sick and working alot(bad combo -_-) but i thought i ought to keep you informed of what i have been doing.

While i was sick i decided to buy the Ebook Double Your Dating. I havnt finished it yet but i just have to say this book has alot of great advice about women and how to improve yourself. Its kind of opend my eyes to how women think and how its ok to be man.
Its the only book i plan on buying cause i dont want to fill my head with to much Pickup material.

Im feeling alot better and plan to sarge tomorrow.
Keep ya posted

File Entry #6

Past week has been hectic with work, my store is closing down for a month so im trying to get as much hours as i can before i get a month off work, so with that iv been lacking goingout.


Starbucks

I was in starbucks getting coffee, there was really no one in there but as i was ordering i spot this cute HB8 reading some books at a table. I wait for my coffee and as im walking out i dont even think about approaching i just did it. I was in such a good mood when i approached it felt like i was on auto-pilot.
Mapex-"Doing some studying?"
HB8-*looks up and smiles*"Yea"
Mapex-"What are stadying?" I look at her books and it was Starbucks books.
HB8-"Oh just training to work at Starbucks'
Mapex"oh cool*her boss starts to walk over* well, you have a nice day" *smile*
HB8-"You to *smiles*

I could of kept it going but i didnt want to get her in shit by her boss so i ejected.

Tony Romas

My friend wanted to take me out for dinner so She treated me to Tony Romas. It was great cause it gave me a chance to work on my Conversation skills. I talked to to the waitres. Asked her What the hell is Pulled-Chicken(iv never had it so i didnt no wtf it was). Had a great dinner, i talked to the Bartender and the waitress for 5 min while my friend payed. Talked about the meal, what we had planed for tonight and other stuff i cant remember.


Thats all so far guys. Ill have a Month off work soon so im going to get as much practice in as i can during thhat time.

Hey man.

I play the drums too, and guess what? I have a Mapex kit What kind of music are you mostly into?

Seeing that you have a lot of AA, I'd suggest taking up the challenge in Rules of the Game.

And night game is actually easier than day game IMO.

nice man haha. Mostly Metal and classic rock.

Yeah i have been thinking about it, its always nice to kind of have a guide you no?

i will have to hit a few clubs and see which is easier for me.

Update

Health Issues.

Im down and out for a few days, im just having crappy luck this week. I threw my backout. Bad news i cant really move , Good news i start my vacation early and i get a free massage from a family friend a HB8. shes trained so its gunna be awesome.


The Day Before
I still managed to do a little bit of pickup during the week. I stopped at starbucks to get my coffee fix and this cute HB8 was working the till, iv never seen her there before so i figured she was new and there was my conversation starter.
I asked her if she was new and it turnsout she was, just started working there a few weeks back. Asked her if the red velvet cookies are any good and some more light convo. Turns out she was like 17, im 21 so i got my coffee and ejected. Im not into jailbait lol.

Girls today look older than they appear, got to be careful with that shit.

So im going to lay in this bed for the next few days and listen to this audio book i got The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle, great book and it has helped my inner game big time. Not just with pickup but my everyday life. Just living in "The Now" as he calls it and just enjoying life, being able to shutoff that voice in the back of my mind and also been starting to meditate.

File Entry #7

Im back bitches! Been awhile since iv posted anything, due to being out of work for awhile money has been tight and fuel costs alot these days so i havnt been out. I have been reading more and roller bladeing everyday for a workout and feeling great.

The Weekend BBQ/Party

My friend called me up and toled me he was throwing a BBQ/Party at his house to celebrate being out of college. I figure why not i havnt been out in ages, hit the market and buy some Cheese filled smokies and buns and head to the party.

I show up at the party and everyone on the Deck enjoying the Sun, it was fucking nice out. I had my white dress shirt on(usually i dont wear white or dress shirts) my new jeans and sungalsses. My friend is talking to this chick cute HB8 red-head, i say hi to my friend and than introduce myself to the HB8. I start talking to my friend about this book iv been reading(he really loves books), the HB8 kinda just sits there listaning, im not really giving her attention. Im just chillingout having a goodtime enjoying the sun and covo with my friend i havnt seen in along time.
The HB8 picks up my smokies and ask.
HB8 "ohhh these look good, did you bring these"
Mapex "yea, i brought the wieners and the buns"
HB8*laughs*"i cant wait to try one"
Mapex"You didnt ask me if you could have a wiener, ask nicely"(i said this playfully)
HB8"can i please have one"*smile*
Mapex"alright you can have one i guess"

She smiles. My friend starts talking about school and how happy he is that college is done for awhile, i turn to the HB8 and ask her what she took in college. She starts talking about what she took in college as shes talking she picksup her chair and moves closer to me. (alright its on baby!) I foundout its very easy to keep a convo going pretty easily, just listen(actually listen, not be thinking how bad you wanna fuck her) and pickup on those key words that can lead into another conversation. Anywas this chick can talk forever, and im enjoying every minute of it, She gets on the topic of travel and i hear my friend say hes going for Ice. I told the HB8 "Hold that thought for a second" i walked away went to talk to my friend and decided to go with him to get Ice. Nice walk in the Sun. Told the HB8 we were going to get Ice, wed be back in a few minutes. And we left.

As were walking to the Store my friend tells me the HB8 redhead that iv been talking to has a Boyfriend and hes at the Party, i just told him cool beans man. Im just hear to have a goodtime and have some BBQ.

We get back to the BBQ/Party with the Ice and more girls have shownup. The HB8 Readhead is talking to these 2 girls that showedup. I walkup and introduce myself to HB8.5 and HB7. Nice girls, talked to them a bit and i forgot that i brought Tequila and Margaritta mix. I was thirsty and Hungry so i told them im going to make some Margarittas with the Ice we just bought. At this point something happend cause when i said Margaritta all the girls heads shotup and asked if they could have one. I said sure why not.
Made the drinks handed them out. I walked backup to the HB8 Redhead and we continued our convo about the places she has traveld.

HB8-"last summer i went down to(i think she said Brazil) around summer time ans it was so hot. My clothes were soaked in sweat."
Mapex-"ohhhh thats sexy"
HB8-*Laugh*"i know its sick but did you know if you took your clothes off(Ohhh baby) you cant just throw them in the corner cause mold will grow on them"
Mapex"ohh really? ill make sure if i ever visit there than to just wear my boxers and nothing else, hell ill just walk around naked. Enjoy the breez"

We talked for a good 15 min. She even said Lets both BBQ and i busted her balls on how she could flip her burgers and she couldnt use tongs that well. After the burgers and smokies were cooked she gave me one of her burgers. We ate and i went inside to see what my friend was doing. He was rolling a joint with these 2 chicks and asked if i wanted to go into the field and play hacky sack with these 2 girls. we did that for awhile. We came back and more people showedup. I introduced myself to more people and got to talking to these 2 hockey chicks about the Playoffs for a good 20 min.
Made another drink cameout side and sat down with HB8.5 and HB8 redhead.

Night Time

Night hits and 2 friends i know showup and we talk and we do some shots. We cook more food on the BBQ. Some people made a fire in the pit and everyones down there talking so i decide to join them. Start talking to the people around me, during the night the HB8 Redhead that iv been talking to is sitting with her B/F, and everytime i look over i keep catching her looking at me, even when im not in a convo just looking at the night sky i catch her looking at me. Now i know this chick has been giving me IOI's all day and night, im not really the type to make a move on a girl with a b/f.
I head inside to get another drink with a friend and the HB8 Redhead comes inside and askes if i want a Smokie. I say i got a Smokie and point down to my crotch. She looks at my crotch and i call her a perv for looking and said" its ok i forgive you" She laughs at this and she goes outside and starts to BBQ.

People start to leave and by about 2 am there just a handful of people left. HB8 Redhead leavs with her B/F and im dead tired so i hit bed.

I thought the BBQ/Party was great, i did alot of things i wouldnt of done. I introduced myself to people i didnt know, i BBQ and Made Drinks for people, i had people always talking to me. Even though HB8 redhead had a b/f she seamd interested in me.