Ok so this HB8-HB9 whom I worked with for about 4 weeks is now leaving at the end of the week. I REALLY want something to happen between us. She has shown a variety of IOIs. Though today I think I should've ended the conversation to DHV but instead she was the one to start walking away >.<

Anyhow I've got her on facebook (added her early on which is a bad move I know) but anyway now she is leaving and I want to get her number.

I can't really ask for it on facebook, can I? Can I ask for it at all?! I've been told that you should never ask for a HB's number directly and that you should coax her into giving it to you without you asking.

But how?

Thanks in advance!

DON'T DO IT, I have had bad experiences, two times the girls got clingy, it was dreadful, got her number with-in 2 weeks of working there, she left. BAM.... texts always and FB messages..... the worst man... make sure she isn't clingy, Merely ask for her number. "Hey, we should grab a coffee/drink some time" She will say yes if she is into, then youll get her number.. Easy???

Sounds good man, I just wasn't sure if I should ask for her number as I may DLV :/

She isn't clingy (not yet anyway) and seems pretty chilled so will go for it, after she's left though - will leave it for a little bit so that it doesn't seem too keen

Go for it mate, If she gives you IOI's just go for it, one more thing, you can't lose, if she says no, who cares, she leaves work so you don't need to see her (Y)

I'm pretty uncomfortable asking for numbers (regardless of gender or my intention towards the person) so I usually give mine out instead. I tell her I'm going to be somewhere and that she should meet up with me there, I then give her my number so she can get in touch when she arrives. It's worked out well for me so far and I've never had anyone not call/text/whatever afterwards.

_________________
One cannot lose what one has never had.

I never give out my number, it gives her way too much control over whether she wants to text you or not, and when she texts you. At least if you have her number, you can invite her out when you feel like it.

If you're going to see her again, strike up a conversation, a few minutes in, take out your phone and say

"We should keep in touch, put your number in their and i'll call you sometime"

That way, you're not having to ask her, and she'll be more inclined to do it, considering you're handing your phone to her.

Saying "Can I have your number" is so lame.

Thanks for all the advice guys, I really appreciate it! Danzella I'm especially happy with yours because it accomplishes 2 things that in my mind are beneficial for me:

1. I can ask her in person. I REALLY didn't want to be a guy who seems like he needs the Internet to get a phone number.

2. It gives me control. As you said, I take her number and she will have to wait for ME to give her mine as I'll take it and say "Cool, I'll give you a call sometime". And the fact that I'm not really "asking" directly for her number, instead 'instructing' her, if you will. Demonstrating some control/self-confidence ".

You say she's leaving at the end of the week, now i'm not sure how far she's going, but regardless, this cries out to me 'nothing to lose'..

It's such an excuse for you to say 'i've enjoyed these past few months, we should definitely keep in touch. i'll tell you what put your number in here and i'll give you a cheeky text and see if you fancy going for a drink or something?'

That's what i'd try anyway. But I wouldn't listen to me!

I would and WILL listen to you mate, that sounds really good to me!!

And she's going to be leaving permanently - though she'll be living in the same city., she was only a temp. I do have nothing to lose indeed so will just go for it!

Thanks and will update you as to how it goes later on