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 Post subject: Oneitis - Friendzone
PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 7:52 am 
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Dated a girl in high school we broke up and reconnected. We went bowling, talked for a while and the girl told me that she wanted to be friends. This was before I started reading up on PUA material. We texted back and forth, and a friend (PUA community) told me that I needed to talk to her about sex or else I'm subjugated into the friend zone forever, and that I also had oneitis.

I texted her this (Friend backed me up):
Guy: Hey, what do you think about sex?
Girl: What the, what are you curious about?
Girl: As long as you understand the difference between sex with love and sex without love. What do you think about it?
Guy: What do you think about me and sex?
Girl: you mean sex with you or you in the sex industry
Guy: Sex with me of course
Girl: Then I would be uncomfortable to be friends with you.
Guy: No you're right sex before marriage is important sex isnt everything thought getting an emotion connection is?
Girl: There has to be emotions chemistry and connection way before sex...
Guy: Emotion, chemistry, and connection is everything without its nothing but lust,
Guy: I suppose sex scary topic you seem uncomfortable ill talk to you later


After that I found out that she's dating someone and that she weirded out by my questions. She never told me about her boyfriend until the end (Interesting) I dont really care but my question is...

Was there something I could have done better here in my game? (Still a beginner at this)


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:21 am 
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Guy: Hey, what do you think about sex?
Girl: What the, what are you curious about?
Girl: As long as you understand the difference between sex with love and sex without love. What do you think about it?
Guy: What do you think about me and sex?
Girl: you mean sex with you or you in the sex industry
Guy: Sex with me of course
Girl: Then I would be uncomfortable to be friends with you.
Guy: No you're right sex before marriage is important sex isnt everything thought getting an emotion connection is?
Girl: There has to be emotions chemistry and connection way before sex...
Guy: Emotion, chemistry, and connection is everything without its nothing but lust,
Guy: I suppose sex scary topic you seem uncomfortable ill talk to you later

Are you kidding? Is this a joke?

I see no "game" in that text. It looks more like a bizarre prank call / random sexuality interview.

LOL


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:24 am 
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What would you do differently, Mack? It definitely needs work


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Personally, and i'm faaar from an expert, I wouldn't start a conversation by jumping straight in with the sex question.. i'd drop it into conversation very carefully when I thought the time was right, and see what sort of response I got.

This said because I believe 95% of girls would get a little creeped out by starting a conversation with that line.

Just my two cents anyway.


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:28 am 
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What would you do differently, Mack? It definitely needs work
When your friend told you to "talk about sex", he meant for you to show sexual interest toward the girl, not for you to conduct a sexuality interview.

You just need to read some pua material. Your question "what can I do differently?" is not a proper question. The fact is that you did EVERYTHING wrong. Read around the forums here, daily, get involved in the conversations, and get yourself a good book on pua. That IS my advice.

You will learn a lot. Best of luck to you! :)


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:29 am 
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You were entirely too forward and you made her uncomfortable, you essentially asked your friend out of the blue if she wanted to have sex with you. Try making sexual innuendos to put thoughts of sex into her head, be a little playful around her. If you want to approach the subject of sex more directly, you should have something that leads into it e.g. "my friend was saying... *insert something about sex* What do you think about it?" Don't flat out come out and make it about the two of you.

What's done is done though, so I would firstly recommend apologizing to your friend, it's not often you should apologize but since she's your friend, you should probably do some damage repair... Just something like: "sorry about the other day, I was just having a funny five minutes." Get your interaction with her back to normal.
Let the friendship be for a little while and then cut contact for a couple of weeks, when you see her again, start doing the sexual stuff I mentioned earlier.

Things are always going to be a little tricky when friends are involved and especially so now that you've figuratively shot yourself in the foot but you may be able to rescue the situation.

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:46 am 
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Thanks for the help guys, Ill keep up with the PUA principles. I see where I did wrong, and I will work on that. Ill keep you guys posted.


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ok look into opening with something either a bit more innocent or a bit more cocky and funny, here's something I would use and have used... I wouldn't suggest you try it as delivery is important:

Me - "Hi, I don't mean to be a bother but could you tell me the german for six?"
(I already know it but hey it got me talking to her)
Her - "Yes it's sechs!"

Me - "thanks...*brief pause*... would you like some?"

she and I laughed about it and I got her number... after a long chat.

(BTW the key to it is sincerity, don't make it too obvious and slip the opener in under the radar, women and girls can smell desperation a mile off)

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