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How I learnt Daygame Approach
Daygame, initially, is a challenging activity, requiring its own range of skills, beliefs and attributes. Things like confidence, your ability to hold conversation, creativity and initiative are all hall-marks of those who are successful at Daygame.
Being able to move a girl from the street to a café and even to your bedroom consistently and successfully is an art form and is the sort of thing that a confident daygamer can achieve. The process of becoming successful at Daygame, for me, was a process of conditioning. Today, my Daygame consists of approaching “naturally”. By this I mean that I don’t go out specifically to approach, but rather approach while engaged in other activities. This doesn’t mean that I don’t leave the house with the purpose of approaching but only that my Daygame consists of approaching while engaged in another activity or my day to day errands. Arriving at this place was a long journey. I tried numerous ideas with various levels of success over a period of several years. All of these activities were positive experiences and improved my confidence, mindset and ability to approach during the day.
For me, approaching “naturally” is a matter of context and this is what distinguishes this form of Daygame. To be already engaged in an activity, whatever it is, is a form of context. These are not cold approaches but “cool” approaches. It is the difference between the sniper rifle and the cluster bomb.
Visiting the Art Gallery is a great way to expand your mind, indulge your senses and to meet “cool” targets. You and your target, though individuals, are involved in a shared activity and that brings with it a necessary similarity between you and the basis for a “spark”. For you, the seducer, a range of topics can already be considered “open”. At the gallery, the painting in front of you is the perfect way to start engaging in conversation. Browse the museum, walk with confidence through the corridors and exhibitions and find your target. At the appropriate moment, engaging in “contextual” conversation will feel natural and your target has been opened. At the gallery, moving slowly between the works is a completely natural thing to do. From here, your conversation can easily flow backwards from your end goal, through a range of subjects and you have the perfect opportunity to create “rapport”. After some time, when your rapport is flowing, taking the number, organising a meet up later or taking her to the gallery café for an instant date will seem like a logical progression of your encounter.
Similarly, enjoying the city parks is a great way to find “cool” targets. Your context, though light, is already established. You’re both enjoying relaxing in the city park. Being engaged in an activity brings further context to your approach and will bring it with a range of topics to discuss to stimulate interest. A camera is a perfect example. While you’re out you’ll have the opportunity to take some wonderful photos and when you encounter a “cool” target it will be easy to transition into exciting, stimulating and engaging conversation and activities.
I consider these forms of approach to be advanced. For them to be successful you must already hold many key attributes. Firstly and probably most importantly you need to have the belief that you can approach a girl during the day.
For many, starting out, the mindset is the biggest challenge that they face. The image of approaching a girl during the daytime, with or without a context is a daunting one. The challenge of breaking the social barrier that exists between strangers during the day is the first that must be overcome. Breaking this barrier will give you a step towards “social freedom” and will expand your comfort zone. The comfort that you previously held in this social context must be challenged and destroyed. You must believe that it is normal to approach a stranger during the day and you must also believe that it would be normal for the target to not only be receptive to this but capable of being stimulated, aroused and thoroughly engaged by this.
To overcome this barrier I recommend that one complete exercises, approaching as many “cold”
targets as possible, without a proper context. A cold target may be a stranger walking down the street or through the supermarket. To approach a cold target, early in your Daygame conditioning, is to challenge your boundaries and to begin learning the necessary skills to be able to successful seduce the target. A “contextless” target requires the seducer to use his conversation skills to initially engage and create interest. The seducer will quickly learn that he requires confidence and creativity to be able to create a conversation without any “context”. To successfully engage a stranger or “cold” target requires that your conversation skills be sufficient to not only be able to create a conversation out of nothing but be able to “lead” it successfully to a desired conclusion.
For those who still struggle with approaching a cold target there is the possibility of approaching the activity in stages. I taught myself Daygame in isolation. I didn’t have a support network, wing or many resources to guide me. For me, the challenge of “social freedom” required considerable effort to achieve and it is still an ongoing process.
For me to break through the barrier and the belief that a target didn’t want to be approached during the day I spent a period of six months working on my first impression. Firstly, I improved my walk. I slowed it down and held my shoulders back, posture straight and eyes and face straight ahead. I was lucky, in the respect that, during my rehabilitation from hospital I spent a great deal of time walking the “catwalk” of the rehabilitation ward receiving expert advice on how to hold myself. I can’t say that my posture or swagger are perfect, even after this experience, but I hold myself as best I can and that is all that is required.
The correct body language is essential but even more essential that this is the correct emotional or mind state. Depending on your style or personality you may prefer to approach in a number of different ways. High energy, low energy, curiously or directly with a large amount of sexual tension. To prepare your mindset and body language I recommend you get some music which represents, to you, the energy you wish to approach with and then go out with the sole purpose of walking with grace, style, sexual presence, confidence or whatever it is you wish to project. When I practiced this exercise, I would walk the small city of Perth repeatedly, from one area to another, focusing, in a form of mindfulness on my walk, emotional state and, after some time, eye contact. The music, flowing through my body helped me to project confidence and sexuality and I quickly noticed the difference in reactions from all passer-bys, male or female, young or old when I walked with grace, style, confidence and sexuality.
As I walked, I looked straight ahead and began to focus my eye contact, looking passer-bys directly in the eye as I walked past. The reactions I received were as encouraging as they were diverse. Some people will shy away and others will hold your gaze, returning your look of sexual intent. These experiences built my confidence, challenged my beliefs and confirmed to me the importance of the energy you project. By energy, I do not mean some mystical form of particles, waves or spiritual matter; I mean simply the image that you project with your body language and eye contact. These subconscious communications are more important to a cold target as without a “context” or any kind of shared experience it may form the only basis for them to make a judgement about you and by projecting confidence and sexual intent you are immediately identified as having these qualities. The seducer invariably desires to be the “alpha”, full of natural confidence and advanced sexuality and, without the crutch of a context, the “cold” target will make a judgement based on this information, the only information available to them.
This process took about a month. I was fresh out of hospital and had newly learnt to walk again after being in the wheelchair and I enjoyed walking aimlessly, focused, with a clear mind on the image that I projected. After some time, I built a natural confidence when walking around the city and I began to desire the approach. The next step, for me, was to greet. I continued my walk and eye contact with my headphones removed and began to greet. People walking in the opposite direction where met with a quick “hi” and I gauged the responses I received. When I greeted with a smile, eye contact and the correct energy I got warm responses which reflected the state that I projected. A smile, continued eye contact and a “hi “in return were common responses.
The greetings and body language phase of my education lasted, in total, for about six months. From here, I progress to “natural” or “contextual” approaches.
As I learnt to practice in isolation, I never practiced any of the activities that many others practice and that are common in communities such as the Melbourne Lair. What I call the “cluster-bomb” approach where the seducer visits a high traffic area and makes continual cold approaches is something that I didn’t experience until I joined the community. As a result of practicing in isolation, my development was slow and I don’t think that the sort of time frames I took to gain confidence are necessary at all. Depending on the individual and their background, pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone and developing social freedom can be a quick process with individuals doing this in a matter of weeks, days or even hours. I truly wished that I learnt under the guidance of a community such as the Melbourne Lair.
My “natural” or “contextual” approaches on “cool” targets started simply. Waiting at a traffic light or in the line to purchase a coffee I would often engage and start conversation. These two situations present little “context” but offer the opportunity to develop my skills. My experience is that as the context increases the chance of a successful pickup increases. The “colder” the target, though, the more skills are required and I recommended “cold” targets to develop your skills.
I learnt quickly that the average girl is not just open to being smiled at, made eye contact with or greeted on the street, she if often receptive to a challenging conversation. I learnt to extend past pleasantries and focus on meaty, raw conversation. Challenging their impressions and standing out of the crowd is vital. Most pleasantries form what I refer to as “social cliché” and as such carry a large amount of subconscious baggage. Using “social clichés” such as discussions about the weather or current events can be successful openers but will often result, as with most approaches, in a reflected response or “social cliché” in return. Pleasantries will be replied to with pleasantries and people engage in pleasantries often enough that they have subconscious, fast and automatic responses. These responses are usually not the desired responses as they are generally cold, distant and do not challenge the target. Breaking the cliché and being original is a must and this approach will challenge the target and generate interest as you force them to draw a unique and considered response from their subconscious.
The period where I practiced these “incidental” approaches lasted about another month and a half and I quickly felt the need to be more interesting, challenging and to really engage my target. Daygame purists will argue that approaching with a prop or a form of “context” is using a crutch and that’s it’s not necessary. I agree with this but also believe that a successful daygamer understands the importance of these things and does not need to waste his time “cold canvasing” the streets with difficult, contextless approaches and should, instead, focus his energy on being selective and opportunistic. Women who I have discussed these concepts with agreed that what I call a “cool” approach, such as the art gallery, park or public event are naturally sexier than the cold, contextless street approach.
I love creating art and I began to approach based on my interests and passions. I would take my notepad or camera to the park and engage myself in producing work. I would write, draw or take photographs until a suitable target was near and then I would approach. I tried some gimmicks, such as writing a poem for a target or asking them to comment on my drawing. My props or crutches gave me an instant context and my approaches improved from the “incidental” street approaches that I made before. With this level of context, the target was often more open, receptive and I found much greater levels of success. The context that I brought to them was challenging and I was able to skip the formalities of conversation and draw interest and rapport immediately. These “cool” approaches were addictive and once I had the taste for it I began to practice more and more.
I tried different locations. The social freedom that I had gained in this time allowed me to do things that were previously outside of my comfort zone. I would ride the train continuously, from the end of one line to the other working on my art and doing “cool” approaches. People are often happy to have someone to talk to on the otherwise boring public transport system and I began to find that, regardless of the outcome for me in the pickup, I was filled with satisfaction that I had improved my target’s day or made them feel better. Challenging the social norm naturally brought out a sense of excitement and discovery and in the process of challenging my social boundaries I simultaneously challenged those of my target and almost all were receptive to this.
These activities formed my Daygame conditioning and the whole process of being comfortable and effortless with Daygame approaches took me about two years. These days I do not waste energy on “cold canvasing” and I never leave the house with the sole intention of doing Daygame approaches. Rather, I use my time to pursue my interests and hobbies and make Daygame a natural extension of this. I have found that “natural” Daygame improves your flake ratio and is a much more worthwhile activity than other techniques such as the “cluster-bomb” method. At the same time, I recommend this activity, particularly at the beginning of your journey as without fast, difficult and repeated experiences the development of your skills will take much longer.
As for my Daygame statistics, presently, I do not practice Daygame at any time without a context (except for when I occasionally join Lair Members on day-game outings) and find a large degree of success. For me, striking up a long conversation on public transport is natural and I never struggle with topics. Most people will be happy to give out their number after an experience like this and I like to believe that I have improved their day. For me, this is the most satisfying aspect. I love to impact on people’s lives positively and to me, an encounter with a sexy, passionate stranger is something that I am happy to offer and I take pride in doing this. I may take one number a day, some days by using “natural” game, totalling two or three numbers a week and I find about a 40% flake ratio. I am happy with these results and wish to improve.
“Natural” Daygame is way to pick up effortlessly. You do not waste your own time and you achieve a high degree of success.
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Fox Aston’s Daygame Exercises:
Walking Successfully:
Model yourself on males that project the image that you wish to project. “Alpha” males such as movie stars and rock stars carry a natural presence. Decide on a style that is congruent with you and begin to model it. Walk until you are comfortable with your presence. Decide on the emotional state you wish to project and find music to represent it. Listen to the music and channel the state inside of you when you walk. Let your body feel the emotion and project it with your eyes. Make eye contact, have good posture and keep your chin up. Walk slowly and dawdle.
Greeting:
Make it a goal to great any target you find attractive. It doesn’t matter whether you are walking in opposite directions, beside each other or crossing paths. Say hi, make eye contact, smile, project your energy and listen to the response you receive. Become comfortable with greeting your desired target and begin to think of ways to extend the conversation.
Incidental Daygame:
Whenever the opportunity presents itself engage in conversation. Try to avoid “social cliché” and focus on unique and stimulating conversation. These opportunities could present themselves in queues, at the traffic lights or on public transport. Be observant and learn what is working and what is not.
The “Cluster-Bomb”:
Visit a high traffic area and move from one target to another approaching as many targets as you can as fast as you can. Watch your target’s reactions. Be creative and try to keep each conversation going for as long as possible. Always try to get a phone number or instant date.
The “Crutch”:
Take a prop or crutch out with you when you Daygame. Use this crutch as a point of interest. Avoid “social cliché” and challenge your target. Try to involve your target in an activity. Take a photo of them or ask them about your prop. Walk with them and let them feel comfortable. As always, attempt to get a phone number, date or instant date.
“Natural” Daygame:
Do not engage in approaches without a context. Do not go out of your way to make an approach and, instead, complete your favourite activities or day to day errands without doing contextless approaches. Learn to project your sexual intent to gain numbers, dates, instant dates or continued relationships.
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I may not be the most successful daygamer in the Melbourne Lair but I am happy with the success that I get. I truly believe I am on the path to “abundance” and my development in Daygame, though long and slow, has been journey that has matured me socially, sexually and intellectually. I love the approach, the thrill, the anticipation of the outcome and, mostly, the opportunity to impact on a person’s life in a positive way.
For those who struggle in Daygame, I have presented my journey and encourage people to learn from it. I hope that my article gives others the opportunity to learn much faster than I have. A seducer is one who understands the needs and desires of his target and many women desire a passionate encounter with a charming stranger. Daygame also provides with a different set of targets than Nightgame as you approach those who do not frequent clubs or bars and you will find a new territory of female waiting for you on the street. All you have to is approach!
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