hello everyone !
i was silently reading topics for a long time and i have to say, it helped me a lot.
but today i decided to create an account and ask for professional help.

yesterday this girl said to me "I'm beginning to like you even more." and i was like ... ehhh.. ok... i just didn't know what i should say. i think i looked like a fool. and the whole situation was kind of akward.
so my question, what could or should i say in this situation ?

"ohh your falling in love with me already"
her- no.
"no? give it 15mins"

If yes. "aha!! my plan is working"

Ive only field tested this twice at the 1month relationship barrier. Worked well hahaha

Why make it complicated? If you had a buddy in a lounge who said that to you, what might you say?

"Yeah I know, I'm pretty great."?
"You aren't so bad yourself."?

Or just show approval without reciprocation?

"Good shit. Let's keep that ball rolling."

You can try sarcastic wit lines here, too.

"Finally. I've been working my ass off to get you to like me."

Just respond casually and keep your cool. I'm sure you can literally say "Good. Time to fuck, yet?" and if you say it with a joking cool smile she'll probably respond in tune, +/- a bit of sexual tension in the air now.

At the same time, if you aren't responding to it normally and give it thought, even the smoothest-sounding line is going to sound retarded.

it's the perfect chance to be cocky and funny.

"I know. Just please control yourself."

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is she playing with me ? she says "nope i take that back. I hate u! you never talk to me! hate u!" ..... did i mess up ?

was that playful? if not then she's playing with you but maybe really wanting you..

the best thing to do is to be honest. do you like her?

This is obviously playful from the language - obviously I mean I have no idea how anybody couldn't see this as playful. If you actually hated somebody, would you say something like this? No. Obviously.

She's being playful while inserting "you never talk to me!" - this is a psychological defense mechanism. She is saying the 'i hate you!' playfully while inserting a (serious) notion "you never talk to me!"/"I want you to talk to me more!", so that any notion of her seeming needy/desperate is overwritten by the "I was clearly joking/being playful!" vibe to it.

She is interested in you bro. I'd say she likes you. Just stop dicking around.

Good responses to "you never talk to me! hate u!" would be something like "I'd talk to you more if you started a conversation" - deflect any 'why won't u start conversations?' with "Busy"/"Not my thing"-type answers.

I'm assuming this whole ordeal came directly after a period where you two didn't talk to each other, yes? As short as 1 day, as long as 1 week. She expected you to initiate a conversation, but you didn't, so she feels slighted - she thinks she likes you more than you like her, and that's why you didn't initiate the conversation in that timeframe. Just reassure her that you think she's cool but are busy with your life (being busy/having shit to do is DHV), and if she wants to talk or hang out then she needs to step it up and say something.

Ordinarily you want to make the first move, but she clearly already likes you so you can sit back and milk it by telling her to state intent. Telling her to stop being a pussy/start conversations/state intent/however you want to put it is a qualifier, she will feel like she's boring you or losing your interest and logic that as the reason why you don't start the conversations, so she will try harder to qualify.

You have this in the bag. Just stop dicking around and maybe bring your confidence up a bit from seeing the first sign of possible dislike as "DID I FUK UP?" Remember, you don't NEED her, so stop worrying so much.

thank u guys for your help ! yeah you guys are right, i shouldn't worry too much and be more confident.

but now i have a new problem... ever since that incident. she always says that i am lying and stuff.. i think she wants to "control" me. recently she demands things like pictures, messages etc... of course dedicated to her. i almost gave in, but i thought that wouldn't be too good, because if i would do that i would make me look inferior.

as you guys can see, i am still a newbie and not a pua yet. so how can i handle her. she doesn't make things easy for me.