The girl I am interested in is now running what I call a "hot and cold game", she shows interest then pulls away, I am keeping my distance but maintaining a confident demeanor and attitude, along with making her laugh, with some crude but valid attempts at openers to a more involved relationship.

But her "hot and cold game" is confusing me, is she interested or just trying to get me to chase her again, and how can I turn it so she is chasing me?

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I'd suspect that she's trying to make you chase her. When she goes "hot", make her chase you, don't let her have you whenever she wants - people want what they can't have.

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ok cool thanks for the awesome tip, gonna try it when I next meet up with her.

Also can you suggest any good ways to cause her to chase me more without being too obvious, I know it sounds like a AFC question but I am running on empty in the idea department.

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I don't know if what I am going to say is the right way to deal with it or not, but I'll tell you how I handled a recent situation.

I reciprocated everything she did and I completely stopped making contact first. I became completely reactive. I would only text if she did, only call if she did, only chat if she did, only send a picture if she did. She finally snapped, lol, and called me out on it. My dominance was established when I told her "Look, you wanna play games, and that is fine, I don't mind. Cuz I still like you. But you can't have it both ways. You can't both 'avoid' me and act pissed when I don't 'chase' you".

She concurred. Now she's all up on my junk, again. Women?

ok I'll give it a shot thanks for the advice!

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