I'm new to this board but I've been dating women for a while. I've finally found one that I love. I'm in the army, set to go on a year long combat tour. If she is still there when I get back, she is the one. Few girls are that loyal.

But even so I'm still attracted to other girls and I flirt. I never take it past flirting, but I can't help lusting for other girls. Are people like us ever going to find "the one" that will make us not attracted to other women? Or do I just need to be stronger?

Or are we all doomed to never marry until we are in our 40's?

She might still there but there is no way you can be sure she didn't sleep around while you are away. Let's face it, everyone loves sex regardless girl or guy, and no one can go more than 3 months without real sex.
So now the question is whether you love her enough to forgive her for sleeping with other guys. And if you do have it in you, you still need to step it up and reclaim your power in the relationship, and retrain her behavior.
If you're willing to grind your teeth and push through till the end, then you should marry her.
I'm not against marriage, but I will only do it once im mentally and physically prepared for the worst case scenarios that come with it.

If shes still waiting for you when you come home?

To me that shows insecurity on her part that could be a major red flag. The way I see it, you should be experiencing as much as you can while you're away and tell her that you dont wanna keep her from living her life.

Make an effort to keep in touch but seriously, LDR are brutal. And especially with all the ass youre gonna be faced with? What if she DOES wait and you realize that she was just something comfortable? That your tastes have changed or even better that you really had no idea what you wanted.

I don't think you'll ever find a woman who stymies your attraction to other women, lets face it, it's biologically unrealistic. That being said, I'm not trying to shit on the idea of love, it is perfectly possible to love somebody and still be attracted to other people; hell, it's even possible to love somebody and still have sex with other women. The desire for sex is a biological urge and it's up to you to decide whether or not you want love to constrain your submission to lust in regard to other women.

I reject the above claim that a person can go no more than 3 months without sex, I have done it myself, it's just a matter of self-control and I pity the person who lacks the willpower to achieve it. If you wish to save yourself for her, do it and if you can't, well then you don't deserve her.
I also protest the idea that if she waits she is proving herself insecure, it is perfectly possible for someone to care for another human being to the extent of being willing to abstain from sex and I judge this to be a good quality, so long as it proves to be of net benefit to the person in question's happiness.

Many who oppose this idea are simply going to be individuals who lack the maturity to understand a loving relationship and to control their basest desires. Pick up doesn't have to be about sleeping with a thousand women and shunning any meaningful relationship with a woman, it is merely a tool that you can use to achieve your desires, if you want to be with one woman, that's fine and if you don't, that's fine too.

_________________
One cannot lose what one has never had.

I re-read and I agree, if you have been dating a while, it would be no sign of insecurity. For some reason I thought you had just met this girl.

People can go more than three months without real sex.

Some women are faithful, not all are promiscuous.

Just wanted to put that out there.

Now to the original poster's question: Will you ever meet a woman who will make you stop being attracted to other women?

Um, no! Why the fuck would you want that to happen. The only time you'll stop being attracted to other women is when you are dead. Marriage isn't about "not being attracted" to other women. Marriage is about making a determination that what you share with this person is so special that you hold it in higher regard than having sex with other people. The urge is still there, but you HAPPILY don't act on it because your love and companionship with this person is so valuable that it's an easy tradeoff in your mind.

That, my friend, is what marriage is all about. Or should be about anyway.