Hi.

My last nickname for a while was "Sleepy man". At a time I didn't understand how true this name was for me.

Quick story.

I'm a foreigner in U.S.A. college. Had 0 experience and social skills, then started PU, got a bit better, met 2 very interesting girls, got one-itis, got destroyed. Number-closed whole bunch of girls but had a lot of flaky numbers...


I started gaming in summer,but I've been out of the game for a few months, mainly due to effect of one-itis I had. I was occasionally doing approaches, but couldn't take it anywhere. I witnessed myself slowly turning into a KJ. Although I never lied on this forum, I noticed myself giving advises on topics that I had small experience in. That's why I stayed away from forum as much as I could.

About a week ago I decided to get back into the game, did few approaches, got few numbers, arranged a date, got flaked the night before the date...

Today I saw a girl I n-closed a while ago and who flaked on me. She did the same today when I tried to arrange a date saying that she'll have to study on Sunday for an exam on Thursday...hmmm

I was a bit depressed by the accumulation of these flakes, but then I remembered that back in a day, I didn't give a fuck about flakes, because I had whole bunch of other numbers to call. Also, after I lost my first one-itis, I got treated, by meeting the second one...which I lost too due to 0 experience.

So I came up with my rule number 77 "Keep approaching". I decided to start today. Now. Went to my library to study for exam I have on Sunday...saw one cute Asian girl. I we talked for the last 2 hours. She turned out to be a high-schooler who loved ghost stories and horror movies. That was the first time me meeting a person like that. It was fun. Actually I'm writing this and I was talking to her 15 minutes ago. We talked for hours, and had a great conversation. She said she doesn't use fb and doesn't carry a cell phone, which at first I thought of as a flake, but as I talked to her I could see the adorable goofiness of this girl, so actually I believed her. Anyways, if I didn't approach, I wouldn't meet such an interesting person.

This brings me to the Conclusion which I came to on that busstop.I thought to myself after I got flaked...

I got over 70 n-closes before I found an interesting girl, which I really liked. Most of these numbers were flaky, but somehow the ones that I like most, weren't. For a second, I thought of it from another angle which made all the difference in the world for me: I got these n-closes in a matter of 2 weeks. I haven't seen any girl that I'd really like to be with for the first 18 years of my life. And now, after 2 weeks I found 2!!!.

I decided to start tracking my progress by the number of days when I honestly go out and approach wherever I am. Without choding out.

Not attached to the outcome. I'll do my best and write down here as many details as I can, and I hope for your corrections. Peace.

Alright guys, I know this is a shitty beginning for the first two days of my journal, but hey...I had exam today...give me a break.

So basically

26.03.2011-Day 1:

Spent the whole day studying then accidentally met one of girls, i number closed couple days ago(didn't recognize it was dark.) Got on the bus-then recognized her. Then went back home, and wrote on her wall on fb:

Me: did you wait for a bus at the College Mall bus stop today? at around 9:30 p.m?
Her: Yeah..
Me: lol I was there too, but couldn't recognize you in the dark) it wasn't until I got on the bus that I recognized you lool but you didn't recognize as well...and didn't even share the tangerine with me....how greedy

-no reply...whatever...
27.03.2011-Day 2:

In the morning, when I wen to library to study, I met one girl...I number close long time ago(about 8 months-when I just started PU), went on a couple dates, then got a cheek on K-close...(I had 2 of them by that time, but this was my first rejection.) Didn't know what to do, (although now I know, how to deal with this shit.) and then normal story one-itis=>no replies=> finally got her out of my mind a few weeks ago (but it wasn't until the day I started this journal that I got her out of my head completely...) I haven't seen her for about 6 months and guess what? I ran into her today...WTF???

Anyways had a short conversation, she was with some guy(not a threat, looks like an AFC, but is 6 feet 2. I'm 5 feet 8 -whatever girls like SHORT GUYS!+she's shorter than me anyways..)

Now, the main thing for me is to not get all needy and shit, and keep gaming... I got flaked the night before I successfully arranged a date... ten got flaked, when I tried to arrange a date...I felt like shit because of that...but...THAT WAS THE PROBLEM!...as I figured out later...feeling like shit when I got flaked...I didn't have this before..."Why?"-was my thought.

Answer was simple as this:

before- I usually had at least 15-20 other numbers to call on a date, and i usually took me 10 flakes in a order put me down a bit.(btw. that's what happens when you want to have a date in 1 hour-give her at least a day or two lol)

So this was the reason:

I didn't approach enough...2-3 numbers a day is enough to fill your free time with fun dates (making dates fun-another topic worth discussing)

Anyways, I went back to studying and took my exam...hopefully, I did well...

Goals for the nearest future:

Send some fun text to The Girl I met today...
Get some more numbers, start arranging dates, get myself back into the game...

About my looks if somebody interested...

5ft 8, white guy, not skinny, not fat, don't have huge muscles, thick accent, can't pronounce clearly letters "R'' and "L". Under 21 in US-doing daygame mostly, although college parties aren't bad location either

Don't have a wing. Found a PUA lair in my town, contacted them through email haven't received any reply...they kinda seem inactive too...

Main Challenge: To t the momentum to approach(I remember times I couldn't stop myself from approaching.)

Main Goal: I really don't have a specific goal, since I'm going back to my country for 4 months this summer...gaming is almost impossible there...(Muslim majority country+will have to live with parents(pretty strict ones))

Finding a great gf would be really nice though...

Material selection:

Completed:

1) Venusian Arts(Mystery)
2) Way of the natural(Zan Perrion)
3) Blueprint Decoded( Tyler Durden-RSD)

Skimmed through

1) some of David De Angelo's staff
2)60yoc Anti-manifesto
3)Magic bullets (Love Systems)
4)Phone game manual(Love systems)
5)Zen of meeting women(Max Weiss)
6)some of David Shade's staff
7)Gunwitch method.


Any suggestions would be great, I'm thinking about checking Vin Di Carlo's "Escalation ladder" and "Attraction Code"...when I have time...

Wow that's a lot of number close dude. that's good.
But have you stopped to think of why you've been getting a lot of flakes ??
Maybe it's your txt game or you're good at attracting flaky girls hey

Here's something good on flakes: http://www.eseduce.com/how-to-prevent-a ... y-roosh-v/

And this might be useful for your txt game: http://puafieldguide.com/dBs%20text%20g ... d%20ed.pdf

@Gringoz

Yes that's why I started reading

The "Phone and Text game manual"

Percentage of flakes went significantly down after reading it, but I kind of prefer to keep the phone conversations short, and instead of keeping conversation going till she asks for date herself and throwing stack of routines(don't like them). I just go straight to point and try to arrange the meeting.

P.S.thanks a lot for links btw-they look great so far.

Man this is what happens when you get one-itis and have no clue what to do with them: http://makesmalltalksexy.com/blog/2010/ ... -sickness/

Anyways

Day 3

Nothing really.

Studied my ass off, sent the girl I met yesterday, a message on fb.

-"You got skinnier, didn't they feed you in Texas at all?" (she went to Texas for spring break)

Except for that...nothing PU related.

Actually I feel kind of tired lately. Totally unmotivated. Sat on the table with two cute Italian girls, tried to start the conversation but I just wasn't feeling it. BTW I saw one asian girl in library foodcourt...(yes we have a food court in the library-we rock I know) but by the time I was in the line she already finished her meal and left...so i guess I;m not totally unmotivated...still it isn't like in old times. Now I just feel this unwillingness/laziness to approach. No fear, some excitement. Even if I had a great conversation with a girl, it doesn't motivate me to do the next approach(back in a day every successful approach would pump me up)...but now its like I have to drag my ass over to approach just to approach...even if I like the girl...

BTW something I forgot to mention about yesterday. After i met that girl, I was so reactive during the conversation, it was disgusting...Gotta keep it cool. And trust my instincts...

Day 4

I'm done with this depression I've been in for the last week. I remembered my mentor and decided to live my life to its best.

Tomorrow is gonna be a new day

DAY 5

started really crappily...I overslept 2 of my classes...if my teacher doesn't agree to schedule another class for me, I'll lose 105 of my final grade...

Went to my break-dance practice...was super-tired and my back hurt...(I was learning wing mills...)

Later I went to library. saw 4-pretty girls...all alone studying...didn't approach...felt like biggest wuss in the world. may be its because in my school's library but that's not an excuse.

Then I went for a coffee...

I saw a girl, i n-closed a while ago, we started talking, then some dude comes in and starts talking(some of her old friends, completely took her attention) then his buddies come, I start talking to them, shift attention of the whole group to myself...but then he kind of shifts her attention on himself, and I'm left to 2 dudes listening to me...I'm trying to AMOG...
What I do to AMOG, is to compliment him on something to cut the convo and then start talking to the target...so:

I'm looking at everything but everything he wears and says is so damn boring, I end up complimenting his sweater, with snowflakes on it...bad choice...

he is astonished because apparently he himself doesn't like that sweater... then I eject...when going up the stairs laugh at myself for that stupidity...that was retarded anyways...

Go upstairs, sit see two girls sitting on the tables with their laptops, i kind of like one of them. No idea how to approach in the quiet area of library like that...so I don't.

later went to sit on the computer, saw a cute Asian girl, sat near her, started convo right away,

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you reading, anatomy text book and (i don't remember but it was about jobless people) at the same time. What is your major?

Her: started explaining etc

-we have a great conversation about music, whatever

-once I'm in the set, I feel like a PU-machine...unstoppable...

well...almost unstoppable...

some girl came:

Her:if you want to keep talking, you can go downstairs and talk there, this is quiet area
me: ok, -_-


...we had to stop...started studying, then when she was leaving , I number-closed. she asked me to write my name on her hand when i introduced myself(looks like I've still got it;)) and text her right away so that she can have my number.

that was it for today.

goals: learn how to get myself into good mood...

The thing is if i'm in good mood, it takes a really boring person in order not to have a fun conversation with me.

I thought to myself today: What if somebody told me that I have 1 day to live...how would i live it? I'd probably go to the first attractive girl on the street, and tell er that she is beautiful and kiss her right there..well I didn't do that but i felt free...my voice became just the way it should be. I just felt great...for the next 10 minutes, then the same old me...

it's like when I'm in the "zone" I feel like I got all the game in the world.

How to get into this "zone' is a my biggest sticking point...

Day 6

Nothing special.

Texted girl I n-closed yesterday:

"Are you still walking around with my name on your hand?"
-no reply

Then talked to one girl on fb, who hasn't been talking to me in a while, and started replying for some reason...its long story with her, but I actually gave up on her, because she wasn't replying, and now she started commenting on my posts, replying on my comments I made before...I started talking in chat room, everything seemed fine, then she just went offline.

WTF? whatever, I don't care. Not anymore.

Day 7,
Called the girl with my name on her hand. Got a voicemail...hrrr

Kept all day thinking what I'm doing incorrectly...

Went to some house party which was pretty lame(they were playing beer pong with water for God's sake) although there were some drinks...

Talked to random girls, including hottest ones in the house, but had no clue how to take it further(I don't usually do nigh game-almost always daygame)

Day 8

Still kep wondering what I'm missing...and it hit me. Today.

I was sitting on fb, early in the morning(like 5-6 a.m.) and one of my friends posted that his gf texted him that she cheated on him...

And this guy was one of the coolest kids that I know. When I say cool,, I mean it. Tonn of social status. doesn't speak much, but when he does, always hits the spot lol...

Great body-language... So what was it?...and it hit me...coolness that he displayed was complete opposite of passion...

Being cool is attractive, because society told us it is so so it works to some extent, but passion...its like going primal... I remembered couple examples from movies, which some "guru's" like to show and I was like: "Fuck! That's what it is...they were straight up sexual!

here is one of links that explain what I'm talking about. It's commented, by one PU coach. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il80PVGG ... r_embedded


PU is about passion gentlemen!

Expressing your passion, showing that you're a passionate person, being a passionate person, making her feel passionate about something, in this case about you. I started thinking of how can I convey those, and how can I express myself? Like in Jeet Kun do, where Bruce Lee was teaching people how to express themselves through motions, I needed somebody to teach me how to express my passion. I remember Bruce Lee(who is my role model-I even was born the same day he died...but 19 years later) saying, that simplicity is path to genius...

But I didn't know what to do with it...I didn't know how to express myself...so I approached a girl in library, but it went nowhere...hmmm I started talking about"what she does" etc....

Then I found this:

shock-and-awe-technique-by-ciaran-not-a ... =shock+awe

"This is what I'm talking about"-this is one of ways to express your passion...now I need some more, so I'll check Jeffry's show out. I've seen Tyler Durden's "blueprint Decoded"- and I really liked, it but to me it seemed to be mostly about inner game(which is very important.) Now I need tools to express myself.

Actually I'm waiting for a reply from my friend, to see if there are any parties around to try this Shock and Awe out...

Day 9
Nothing

Day 10

the only PU related thing is , that I saw a girl who closely resembled one of my ex-onetis, so I went out of my way to see if that was her(that wasn't) but it still looks like I have some feelings for her...

I never used to like asian women before, but when i saw this actress, everything changed...now i like asian women more and more, and recently they even topped white women...for me...all because of that one actress...

I still have an affection for her, and she actually opened a new company of her own, and I even had a crazy idea in my head of going to work there just to meet her...lol I know I'm such an AFC...
I'm a daydreamer, so I often find myself picturing different scenarios in my head without even sustainable basis for them...which I believe only cripples my game...

anyways,

I talked to one girl I fb-closed a while ago , but because I was busy, I didn't have time to contact her, so she almost forgot me, but I reiniiated contact, slowly over last few days...and today saw her in the library, talked a little bit, got bunch of IOIs.

so then...

I talked in chat with her(beginning of convo was fun but fb chat stores only limited number of messages so that is whatit was like...and this is probably a lot more useful because this is the part where I fucked up...) I should've stopped the convo earlier...


let's call her ML

(P.S. this was early in the morning so i was a bit sleepy )-feel free to criticize as much as you want though, since I don't consider it an excuse...

so here we go (last 50% of convo):

LYL:

lol so you're going to reject a guy jus because he doesn't make as much money as you????
I'm not gonna reject a girl if she is making less money than me :)

[ML]5:57

it depends...the meaning of career could not be judged just by money
stronger doesnt mean ability to earn more money, right ?

[LYL] 5:58am

would you reject a girl if she made less money than you?
[ML]5:58am

why do i need to reject a girl??haha..i am not les

[LYL]6:00am

how was I supposed to know that?
lol j/k
guess what...
I sat on the table with one asian girl here in the library
she looked exactly like one of my friends...
so I'm like sitting, and she is like: yes sure you can sit
and thats it...
so I'm kind of confused
that she doesn't even say hu
hi*
so I thought "may be she is a different girl adnd its me not recognizing her?"
and one more thing I noticed
she had exactly the same shaped glasses as my frind, but her glasses were dark brown instead of whirte
so I see her phone on the table.
and send a message to my friend, just "hi wassup"
and I see her cell phone isn't reacting
so I'm like:" is your cell phone on?"
and she says yes its on
that's when I understand that she was a wrong person
when I told my friend about it, she thought I'm racist lol....od course in joking manner
but they looked so alike...

[ML]6:05am

hahah
yeah...kinda funny...but i do always recognize wrong person

[LYL} 6:06am

lol that's so awkward isn't it?

[ML] 6:06am

especially when i am not wearing glasses
haha...sometimes no..
just trying to be friendly doesnt hurt anything

[LYL}
Report · 6:07am
today I was "friendly" once already...
that was a bit awkward...
ok
I gotta study
btw.

[ML]6:08am

haha...go study...good luck with ur exam..:)

[LYL]6:08am

ok))
write your cell phone number
I'll call you next time during my library/study/coffee break
my number is *******
**********
2nd one is correct lol

[ML]6:10am

haha...i wont sure if i will be there. i will text u then :)

[LYL] 6:10am

how am I gonna know, that it is you and not some creepy/stalker girl?

[ML] 6:13am

haha...i do when i promise

[LYL] 6:14am

u do what?

[ML] 6:14am

i just texted u

[LYL] 6:14am

my cell phone is off---(it was off for real)
battery is dead

[ML]6:15am

haha...u will receive it when u recharge it :)

[LYL]6:16am

I'm sure you wrote some smart text...
trying to be funny...
too bad my caell phone was off...I'll go recharge it.

[ML]6:16am

haha...u will c..

[LYL]6:17am

it better be funnny
or I'll write your number as a "boring text messager"
or BTM to make it short

[ML]6:18am

= =...

[LYL] 6:18am

?

[ML]6:18am

=.=
dont u see it is a face!!?

[LYL]6:18am

it is chinese face...
chinese smile language
p.s.
what does ~
mean
???

[ML]6:19am

haha...welll..go to study man...

[LYL] 6:19am

all my chinese friends write it
~~~
alright...I'll go to study...you should study less...or you'll get old...(strong men don't like it) -- this was from the beginning of convo when we talked about relationships etc...call back humor..

______________________________________

This looks totally flaky to me...I think I'll need to engage n a more successful convo, or find an awesome/funny text to make the first contact...


BTW:

CRITICISMS, ADVISES AND OBSERVATIONS ARE TOTALLY WELCOME!!!


P.S...i started using SOI's and then kind of stop it because blablabal (push/pull) I dropped couple in the beginning worked didn't work very well but didn't suck either...I just should learn how to be more effective at it...

Day 11


I'm really really busy...so the only PU related thing was this fb conversation with a girl I n-closed, went on 2 dates long ago, failed k-close and she was mostly ignoring me since then untill I met her ( I think I mentioned it here)

Here it is:


[LYL]11:28 p.m.
guess what?

[LYL]11:56pm
wassup mean girl?
[JC]11:56pm
making dinner
starving
[LYL]11:57pm
what are you cooking?
don't say if its an insect
[JC]11:58pm
mushroom, chicken, and tofu
[LYL]11:58pm
mushrooms cause people to....
how to say politely...
produce more gases
[JC]11:59pm
so polite
[LYL]11:59pm
its better than
[JC]11:59pm
It is the only thing I got
[LYL]11:59pm
saying mushrooms cause people to fart
Today
[LYL]
Report • 12:01am
I'm going to make a desert for myself after I'm done with studying
[JC]
cool
[ LYL]12:02am

vanilla ice cream+ tangerines
+strawberries, cranberries and blueberries
mmmmm can't wait

[JC]12:02am

oh～that makes you~ how to say politely
looks more round than you once was

[LYL]12:03am


one of gifts God gave me is eating as much as I can without gaining weight
hyper metabolism
don't be...
how to say politely...
jealous
I met one girl today
she looked like you
at first I though it was you
so I'm like hi JC wassup
and she is like, yeah everybody confuses me with her
and I'm like do you know her?

[JC]12:06am

I am not jealous, I happens to be the same kind of person

[LYL]12:06am

and she is like:

[JC]12:06am
I don't know her

[LYL] 12:06am
sure, that is the meanest journalist major in (my college) who eats a lot of mushrooms

[JC] 12:07am
at least you need to give me her name

[LYL]12:07am

she said, she is afraid if I tell u her name you'll hurt her
she is by my side now
hi~~~

[JC]12:08am

........a Chinese girl??

[LYL]12:08am

half Chinese half Indonesian
her grandpa is half Mexican though...


[JC]12:08am

I don't know anyone who is half Chinese half Indonesian

----------------------------------------------------------------
Here she went offline and I sent her message “Get on chat!”
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[LYL]
whats you cell phone number?
better send something funny o my number
[JC]12:16am
**********
I am gonna go to bed now, I don't sleep well last night and good luck with your dissert
[LYL]12:17am
ok

Day 12

Slept all day,
Studied all night...gotta start making money...

any ways, I fb-closed one hot girl a while ago back when I was in Texas, and talked to her occasionally...

Started talking couple days back just for fun: Here it is:

LYL:

How is life? are you still in Texas?

CH:April 3 at 2:01pm Report


My life is good still working and schooling tied but happy. I'm still in Texas . How's yr life there?
Sent via Facebook Mobile

LYL April 3 at 5:36pm
all is good, thinking about skydiving, add me on SPAM btw. just copy past my name, and you'll find me

CH 3 at 6:04pm Report
i dont have SPAM, just yahoo messenger

LYL April 3 at 9:54pm
u should open an account I love SPAM

CH: April 5 at 12:50pm Report
I think I will
Sent via Facebook Mobile

LYL April 5 at 10:07pm
tell me when u do.

CH April 6 at 1:04am Report
k i will

CH April 6 at 9:30pm Report
hey my nick name on SPAM is *************


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Would be nice to have some internet sex with her lol....or may be even more...just playing for fun...


since I got 2 exams this week-end...(no resting man...if I get internship this summer 'll start brand new journal just for that...) so I'll call JC tomorrow, see if I can take her out on a date.

Talk to the TT...(the girl who wrote my name on her hand) If she flakes-delete the number. Will initiate contact with Thai girl text...

day 13

Saw a cute girl in the class sitting the seat next to m neighbor. She was Korean, so I could've started convo but had 0 clue where to take it, and how to close...in class. In another class got ton of IOI's from 3 girls around me. Whoever said preselection was a strong attraction switch-told the truth, after the first one displayed interest, 2 others followed.

Called JC, got a voicemail. (since enough time didn't pass I can tell I was sent to voice mail.) It is kinda understandable, since I called her at 11 p.m. Then I sent her text

"U can't talk v=because you are on a date again? so popular...I'm jealous. lol"

that's it.

Feel like shit.

day 14

The only thing worth noticing IMO, was me sitting with couple friends of mine on the table, then one of my female friends joined us, shittested me, I just ignored it with 60's method, got couple IOI's(my friends thought we were dating or something). Then she and one of my friends left early, so I was left with my other friend(real AFC-but a nice guy), and I saw a girl I n-closed a while ago, sitting on neighbor table woth her friend. I talked a bit with my friend about dogs, so I engaged her, and noticed these two having a nice conversation and that my friend likes her. I ''put a foot in the door'' by saying that we should play pool sometime(I played couple times with her, but she is really boring, although not bad at pool.) She replied with sure, just call me. So after we left, I asked my friend if he liked the girl, he was like, yeah I think she is beautiful-so I was like, I can arrange kind of a date, call you two to play some pool, you guys can talk, and see where you can take it from there...he refused by saying he has a lot of classes etc...

The only thing I could do for him is to offer an opportunity, whether to take it or not is his business...

day 15

nothing

day 16

was a long hard day...at the end of the day, I was sitting in the library all tired, and decided to text TT, to ask her out.

Me: "Let's go out drink coffee some time this week"

TT: Some bs about how its sweet she is sorry and she has plan with her bf

Me: Bring him with me, I'll bring mine too.

Her: "some bs similar to one above

(by this time I was in bad mood so)

Me: Are you always lie that?

TT: What? going out with my bf?yes.

Me: (ws writing something brutally honest about how I think its retarded to give number to a guy, when he says that he'll text you to take you out, saying yes, text me, and then saying this bs) But luckily, I was talking to one of my female friends about it, and she stopped ,me from writing it...she thought it was retarded too..

so I just wrote:

"Hope you have fun! text me when you want to hang out"


hrrr I'm a bit pissed.