One of the reasons for my low confidence is that I don't really like the way I look.

First of all I am not a fan of my smile. My smile is fine in pictures, during conversation etc. but I really hate it whenever I first see a girl, i never show teeth cause i feel it looks fake..

Second, I have a feeling that I always look tired due to me always going to bed late.

Third, I am not so much a fan of my hair, not the look.. just the color.

These lead to low confidence. I feel I have a good body which can only get better.


It always seems to me like a give off an unfriendly, don't talk to me attitude around people and that needs to change.


anyone have suggestions for these.. thanks!

buy some hair dye.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

My original response was a little drawn out, so I did some editing. You'll find it shorter, and a little sweeter too.

Your smile is your smile, dude. There isn't much you can do to change it. As long as you don't have a really ugly face or screwed up teeth, then I'm sure it's fine. As for the sleep, that's an easy one: get into an effective sleep regimen. No, you might not be able to stay up until 2:00 in the morning watching Adult Swim, but you'll reap all kinds of rewards, physically and mentally.

If you don't like your hair, do some research. I've heard that certain hairstyles go well with certain face shapes. I'm not sure exactly on the logistics of that, but I do know that girls can talk about this crap for hours on end, and they'll spring at the opportunity to help you out on your quest.

Make something happen.

"it always seems to me like a give off an unfriendly, don't talk to me attitude around people and that needs to change."

It's funny you should mention it, I have the same feeling about myself. If me and my friends stand beside each other, and a person wants to talk to one of us, the person NEVER approaches me, but chooses one of my friends. It can bum me out from time to time, but I'm starting to not give a fuck about it.

The random person doesn't know me, so I can't blame him for approaching my friend instead of me!
Besides, it kind of gives me the silent bad-ass look, which I love. That's much better for seduction than being the guy who most people wants to talk to. They're probably approaching your friend, and not you, because he looks friendly, and non-threatening. BEING NON-THREATENING IS NOT A GOOD THING, because it means you're not sending a sexual, seductive vibe!

The only thing it helps, is it makes opening girls easier, because they will open you. But then what? They don't look at you as a sexual being, they look at you as a friendly, nice-to-talk-to guy, so you're gonna have a hard time getting laid, or even getting a kiss.


A GREAT example of this:

I was having a party, and I made a bet with my friend to see who could kiss this HB7 first. A few minutes went by, and SHE started talking to him, because he's got that "everybody wants to talk to him"-quality. A little while sooner, they kissed. Okay, I accept that. BUT!
20 minutes after they kissed, I KISSED HER TOO! It was hilarious. The thing is, there was a really non-sexual vibe going on with her and my friend. But with me on the other hand. Well I had made deep eye-contact with her all night, and being very sexual and seductive, while I hadn't said more than 5 words to her. At some point, she sits next to me, and I just grab her hand (at this point I was alone with her and her 2 girl friends, my friends was all out smoking), and a minute after hand-caressing, I just lean in and kiss her. LMAO! You should've seen the look on her face afterwards, it was like "WHAT? HOW DID HE MAKE ME DO THAT??".

The lesson is, my friend has no sexual vibe, and is therefor easy to talk to. I have a strong sexual vibe, so I just skip the talking.

So to sum up: Fuck it if people aren't jumping on you to start a conversation. They can be entertained by other guys. You're just here to bite their lips and grab their ass after they're done talking to mr. nice-talkative-guy


BTW I hope you understand what I'm saying here, the post got kinda long.

Thanks @Hansel

I take good take of hair, teeth etc.. what about skin? What can I do better?

Second as far as sleep... its hard for me to get into a good sleep routine because of my weird work schedule.. But even if I get like 4 hours sleep or 10 hours sleep i still am tired through out the day.. Is there some proven research on the exact amount of sleep to make you feel the best when you wake up?

Third, as far as the hair ur right, I have had the same hair cut for like 12 years with some different variations.. Would it be worth it to get an expensive hair cut to get the advice from them on the best hair style that fits my head and hair?

There are all kinds of skin products you can get. It all depends on what you want to accomplish. There's stuff that clears blemishes, stuff that exfoliates, and stuff that makes your skin look tan. There's moisturizer too, which is good for dry skin. Girls know a hell of a lot more about this stuff than I do. They'll spend $50 on an eight ounce tube of cream from France though, so don't get too carried away. Just stroll up to the beauty counter, and ask them about it.

It varies from person to person, but eight hours is the general consensus. I DO know that the light emitted from TV and computer screens can slow down brain activity, so sleeping with the TV on is a shitty way to sleep. It may sound crazy, but what you do before you go to bed has a big effect on how rejuvenating your night will be. You're better off reading, or drawing, or whatever, before going to bed, as it gears the brain up for its evening activities. I don't know how much you know about REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, or sleep stages in general, but it has to do with that. There's a lot more information on this, written by people much more intelligent than I, and I highly recommend you look it up. You won't regret it.

For the hair: talk to girls! Any girl will do. They love talking about hair, and they'll jump at the chance to give you a "makeover." They'll give you all of the information you'd ever need, and then some. They have entire websites devoted to this, believe it or not. I've had expensive haircuts, and most of them came out like shit. Most of them were high maintenance and fake looking. If you're gonna go in that direction, do a lot of research first. Go into the salon and ask questions! As far as the actual haircut goes, I've found that gay guys and ugly girls generally do a better job. Prettier hairdressers are better to look at, obviously, but they're not always as good at what they do because they've never had the need to compensate for their looks with their hair. If you're going to spend $80 on a haircut, you want it done right. TRUST ME. There's nothing worse than paying some ridiculous amount of money for a hairstyle, and then having to wear a hat for a month so people don't think you're hairdo is a giant dread lock.

Just my two cents. Hope it helps.