ok long story short--been talking and chatting to this HB8 for few weeks and its going well--im about to make my move because --well its just time to--ive made enough convo with her so that im not a complete stranger but also if something isnt done im doomed to friendzone--however thats not the issue--im going to make my move.

The issue is---id kinda like this girl to be around me for a while--its not oneitis---im just not after a one night stand---ok say i take her out and that evening she is willing to have sex should i take it---if i take it its kinda like theres nothing further comming and no real reason for us to hang out anymore--there being nothing to look forward to---ive seen many cases where sex on first night kills any possibility of a relationship dead in the water----However if she is going to put out on the first night---how could i refuse the action without seeming weird,freak,gay wimp or any other number of explanations she comes to about it------What should i do