Long story short, been speaking to this girl for about 2 months. I like her, I've felt at times she likes me just through little things she does and says. I feel I've played it a bit too cool though. I mean, I once gave her a hug and I've invited her out one or two times - as a social group thing - but she pulled out. I even offered to pay for her ticket for a gig she wanted to go to with me, but then she realised she had no money. I talk to her whenever I can in person but I've only commented on her Facebook once, and only texted her regarding social events.

Now, last week she added this guy from College she never spoke to previously. She posted on his wall, and they've been having long conversations with little flirty/banter-ish comments thrown in. He's always commenting on her posts. They spoke a lot at College last week, and when I was trying to talk to her he just couldn't shut up! It's like he's getting in my way. Just yesterday she left a message on his wall trying to initiate conversation, and today she asked him if he was coming to the canteen at College for lunch on Facebook. He said he wasn't in during the morning so she urged him to come along.

Any ideas how to win back her attention? I'm not looking for "just ask her out" or "just tell her how you feel" answers. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just want to get her onside again before it's too late.

I'd also like to add - just the week before last I was sat next to her in lesson, and she was being very flirty with me, touching me, describing the seating as "cosy", writing my name on a worksheet I had, laughing at a lot of my jokes.

Then the next week she starts flirting with a number of guys in front of me and over Facebook, including a mate of mine who she knows has a girlfriend.

Urgh, she frustrates me so much.

im a newbie still but i would guess forget about her an sarge other girls she will notice promise you girls are the ones who love compotition play them by there weaknesses

Just thought I'd bump this.

Baracuda - Good thinking but lately she's been distant towards me, especially since this new lad has emerged onto the scene, who she seems to be talking to quite a bit. I feel me and her are drifting apart.

One possible advantage is that he's actually living in my city just to attend this College course, when he's not from here and he's going home for Easter in a few days. Then presumably he'll also go back for summer, before moving down to London for University. Would she be up for a long distance relationship.

Yea mann she probably thinks shes hot stuff since she apparently is talking to some dude from college dont worry though u gotta be a little more agressive u seem to just let her focus her attention on u and as soon as she dosent u freak out but heres what to do FLIRT with her in class, how? Simple tell her u like something she is wearing boots or shoes I perfer rings cuz then u can actuallly aske her to let u see her hand then u extend yours and she will place her hand in yours to see her rings Its also good for kino escelation witch is her getting comfortable with u touching her. Well once u compliment what ever it is that catches ur attention most about her remember it has to be something she is wearing nothing like gorgeous or beautiful hell no, so just be like O Wow I Love or like your shoes where u get them or something like that she Will reply and then just say oh yeah my blank told me about that place whatever the point is for you o chat her up until the point where you could be like look me and some friends are hanging out later on today you should come and if shes like yeah ill c whatever just be like iight col gimme ur number so we can chat or so i can hit u up but only go with people that you trust cause they can cockblock. The whole point of this is to make the girl invest time in you the more a girl invests time in you the more she will become attracted but prety much show her a fun time and be very flirty with her arouse hera little pay with her but most of all have fun and if shes chiling with you who probably are a fun guy do you really think she is going to be thinking about some guy who just chats with her on facebook you got this Playa

O dude last thing Dont text, you dial those digits and u call that chick get ur smooth voice on and show her who her daddy is jajaj and be funny but dot try crack on little stupide things but not all the time or else she is gunna think that u dont take her seriously so crack on her a little to get both of u laughing and get into deep conversation with her and FLIRTTTTTTT 1

This girl seems volatile - NOT someone you'd want to get into a relationship with. I feel in love with a girl like this back in high school, and it was one of the shittiest experiences of my life. The best thing to do is to let her go, and move on to someone else.

If she sees you with other girls, then maybe she'll take interest in you again, or maybe she won't. Who cares?

The long-term relationship isn't going to work. It isn't going to work for him, as she'll lose interest in him quickly, and it isn't going to work for you because, well, she doesn't seem interested in you as it is. Even if she DID somehow rekindle her interest for you, would you really want to be the guy she settles for? What happens if this other guy comes back?

It was just the week before she got talking to this guy that I was sat next to her in lesson and she was being very flirtatious, giving off a lot of good signals.

After lesson on Friday he went off with two mates of his he's always been hanging around with since the start, who she doesn't seem to like much, and said (and I quote) "he's a really nice guy but why is he always bumming those two?" sounding quite annoyed.

I also saw her touch him on the arm for a few seconds as a greeting, although I've seen her do this to other guy friends of hers.

My man,
Kill or get killed. Its easy, you got a limited time to take your chances. Some say 7 hours (not continues).
If you wont make a move within that limited time, there are prediators out there who beat you to it before you know it.
Hesitation brings fear, fear brings mistake, mistake brings masturbation. Practice your game, get confident practicing on fatties, the game calls you when you expect it the least.
At the end of the game she just needs cock, yours or mine. Think about it. There is so much cometition out there there is absolutely no time for doubts ot takin things easy. Fuck that. Go ahead, get what you deserve.

Might ask her to come to a gig with me. All the better if she says yes whilst he's stood there. That's what he gets for trying to fuck my plans up!

One thing - the competition in question is rather "beta male" like. He speaks in a pretty camp voice and doesn't come across as "macho". His main advantage is his sharp sense of humour. How should I "out-alpha" someone like this?