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i cant do it thats what she did to me. whats disturbing is her youngest child is only a few months old
I know how you feel buddy; you are a good guy--I'm not saying you are , "nice," but a good guy there is a big difference.
It does suck that she has a toddler and she is reckless and potentially, dangerous. However, she is in no way your responsibility. You can do nothing to make the situation better for her or her children. The only thing that can result is you get dragged down as well.
If you truly care about her children, then you can suggest she works with a social worker or a psychologist to get her life together. Not only are these people paid to help people get back on track, they have the training and the necessary distance to do so.
Personally, if you can afford therapy or can find a good therapist with a sliding scale then I recommend seeing one. Realistically and while you may not want to admit it, she has abused you and has left you with some pretty deep scars.
Abuse is a cycle, abuse keeps you at a point in life such that you cannot move on. You have to move on, do not get sucked in back to the cycle.