| Personally, the only material I read was, "The Game," and I tried reading, "Mystery Method," but I found it overly technical so I never got through, I would say a quarter of the book.
"The Game," to me was helpful in that at the time it was relatively unknown that there were better methods of communicating and presenting yourself to women than others. The perception I had was kind of like, you are either born with it or not. If you are born with it then you live the life. If you are not you kind of end up settling for what you can get.
I did see a couple of Youtube videos featuring Cocky-Funny method, but I cannot really say I was influenced by any of it.
"The Mystery Method," again to me was just complicating what is probably more natural than it seems.
The majority of my learning was done on various message boards. A lot of them at this point have tanked.
When I first started I was lucky, as there were on the message boards obvious legends who knew how to communicate and get ideas across. Now a lot of my old message boards are sadly filled with what I call, "little dogs," trying to act as if they are, "big dogs." The legends have largely moved on; there is kind of point I have found where Pick-up leads to other aspirations such as travelling the world or climbing MT. Everest. At least that is the pattern I see with the greats on the old message boards.
I was also lucky in that I had a lot of friends who really could just naturally score women. I also have an older brother who again has always offered me advice on how to pick up women. So, I can't write I started out with nothing.
Personally, I would say the best place to start if you are starting completely from scratch is actually not starting by trying to pick up women. Instead, try to become more social in all aspects of your life. Learn how to make new friends everywhere. Learn how to make the clerk at the store laugh or share a funny story with you.
Learn how to be on a first name basis with everyone. Learn how to enter an elevator, where everyone is silent, and get everyone talking about something.
The reason I suggest this approach, is because it builds confidence by giving you positive social experiences. Generally, people are very open if they feel you are not trying to get something from them or sell them something.
Trying to pick-up women, you will be encountered with women who naturally have a defensive wall around them. So naturally, they are going to be less than excited or even interested to talk with you. Too many experiences like that when you are starting out may discourage you in the long run.
Also in just trying to improve your overall social skills, when you feel confident enough to start approaching women you will have an easier time. Because you have social experience under your belt going in, you will be naturally relaxed and confident. Consequently where the girl would have at one time had a defensive wall up, she will not with because you are relaxed and confident.
I mean at this point, I can really chat with anyone. I like that, more so than the picking up women aspect. It actually helps my job a helk of a lot. When I hang out with friends, I'm usually the one who kind of gets the party going with another group of girls.
I can honestly write, I have never been slapped or really put down by women at bars. The worst I have ever gotten is, "no thanks," with sometimes a, "that is sweet of you."
At this point the greatest compliment I have ever received was by an older dude. I was at a local convenience which is family run. I know the entire family on a first name basis and they have even invited me to their home on special occasions.
I was in line and the father who owns the store said to me while I was in line, "Good morning [name]" and my reply back was, "Hey Good morning, how is [name] doing. I hope he is doing well." This older husky biker dude behind me said, "That is the most genuine and sincere greeting I have ever heard."
That too me means more than picking up women.
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