Hey so I have known this girl for a couple years and never really talked to her but ended up sending her a facebook message in november. She seemed really interested and was even writing up a to do list for when I come back. (I study abroad and she lives close to my home). She seemed almost too excited to meet me.

I ended up coming back in december and met her for a few drinks and we really hit it off we basically ended up dating and we slept together after the 3rd date. we were basically acting like bf/gf but it was never formally mentioned. I asked her what she thinks will happen when I go back ( I wasn't coming back for about 5 months). She said it would be easy for her as she could focus on herself and it wasn't a big deal.

I end up going back abroad and she tells me she misses me alot and i told her I missed her too. We talked over IM almost everyday and would SPAM on occasion. She even sent me a birthday gift, I sent her flowers for valentines. She did make it clear that she couldn't do this because of the distance, but still talked to me everyday.

So around march she tells me she got asked out on a date and she doesn't know what to do. She said she feels weird going because of me but it was clear that she didn't want a relationship with me or anybody. She said how messed up would it be if I didn't go because of you. She also went on to say she does feel like going on the date and he seems like a nice guy.

I told her she can do what she wants and I do care for her but the decision is hers and I appreciate her honesty. We didn't speak for the next 2 days I end up sending her a message saying its probably better we don't speak for a bit. She ended up getting furious saying if she was so special i would rather be nothing than friends. I responded saying I am just looking out for myself.

I apologized the next day saying I do like her friendship and she apologized for being selfish. But after this point our texting became very distant I pulled back away because she was being cold.

I ended up coming home for a week due to a family emergency. She wanted to meet up We eventually met up over drinks and we were flirting alot, I probed her about her date and she put it off, saying she probably won't go on another date with him and he was weird etc. She ended up grabbing my hand and holding it while we drove home.

We chilled at my house the next day and she was completely cold and awkward she didn't let me touch her, I asked her what the deal was and im confused she said she didn't want to blur the lines between us. I told her I don't want a relationship either as I am far away I just want to understand how she is feeling.

She told me she does like me and does see a future with me sometime ( I come home permanently in 2 months) But she is really emotionally fucked up due to her prior relationship and whatever happened in december was because it was carefree and there was no stress of a relationship. She said I am the first guy she has come to an understanding with. When I dropped her home she gave me a hug and a kiss and was messaging me again pretty decently since. But she is getting cold again, so im contemplating just cutting contact for a bit.


I want there to be a shot to get back with her when I'm back in 2 months. Is there a possibility and how do I play this situation to my favor?