Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum! Let me tell you why I joined:

I'm in my early twenties and I never really had a real girl friend. I only had sex once (and it was not really good; quite drunk).
Though I don't really consider myself ugly or something, and I'm generally confident (in high school, a girl told me once "how come you're so confident", my friends always say I know what to say and I love discussing with random strangers...), there's something I must be doing wrong.

I started reading about the game about a year ago, I read about Gambler in a magazine and I was immediately interested. I bought one of his books (The Natural Art of Seduction - unfortunately I lost it somewhere) and it was quite useful to me as I was in a similar situation as AFC_Daniel here on the forum: I was on an exchange project in Spain for a few months. There, applying the techniques in the book, I had quite few number and kiss closes, and one f close (as mentioned above, quite drunk so not so good). But once I got back home, everything was like back to normal and I was a bit of an AFC again. Though a few k-closes (I think 2 or 3 in the first semester), nothing really changed (that's something I want AFC_Daniel to take into account: back home it's not the same!). I was a little more confident with women though.

Recently I finished The Game by Neill Strauss, so I quite know what the game is all about.

I also have a bit of one-itis. This one girl, I know her for a 3 years I guess, and we talked a few times. I only dared to ask her her number after 1.5 years we knew each other (I didn't know about the game back then). Although I had a few drinks with her after an exam, and we really connected, I really liked her, she has a boyfriend since a few years, so I don't think it'll work out. Because of this, and some other cases, I have the feeling that all girls I'm interested in are taken.

What I want to do now is have a decent girl friend that is attractive and intelligent. Plus I want to have more sex, like everyone else I guess!

Now I ask you, how do I start with this?
I heard about Style's 30 days challenge, is it something I could use in my case?
What my problem is (I guess, I'm not sure) is not really the AA, but keeping the conversation going and building attraction from there (closing works too, I kind of feel it when a girl wants to kiss). Another thing is, my friends always go out to the same place, where I know most of the people (which is nice), but not a lot of new (and pretty) faces.

I posted this in FR because I'll try to add some field reports now and then (although I don't have much time, I'll really try because I want to improve myself and that's only possible through critique).

Hi Salamander! Welcome.

We seem to be very similar indeed. We're not ugly, we're smart, we speak a lot of languages, yet we have not the success we think we deserve.

I hope the journey you're starting today will help you, as it did to me.

Youre actually scaring the shit out of me! lol. I really don't wanna start over once back in France! But let's face it, it's gonna be different... I will have to get used to it.

Good luck man.

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Yesterday I went for a run, I saw this HB8 smoking, and I thought "Let's say "Ha, you sports woman, happy women's day to you!", but she wasn't looking and standing still, and I was sweating (probably smelling) and running quite fast. Damn!

Today I'll go to the mall, I'll report later.

Ok, I've decided to take up Style's 30 day challenge, because I discovered I have no game at all, I still have AA although I thought I didn't and I just don't like the way my life is now. Yesterday I went to a bar and all I did was talk with my friends, and this week I went to the mall and all I did was say thank you to the cashier... This can't continue, I want change!

Hopefully I will succeed, I'll report later!

Here is the report of my first mission: evaluating myself.

1. How I think people perceive me:
Funny, sometimes sarcastic guy who is easy to deal with. Doesn't seem to be able to get a girl friend. Wants to be right all the time and wants to have the last word.

2. How I want to be perceived:
The funny guy that is very social, knows a lot of people and gets all the girls.

3. Three characteristics I want to change:
- I don't know anything about fashion, I want to have nicer clothes
- I'm sexually inexperienced
- I don't have a girl friend

4. Three characteristics I would like to adopt:
- Being a story teller, so that everyone enjoys listening to me (any good books on that?)
- Being sexually experienced
- Have a girlfriend

Now my journey can really begin, I'm excited!
Now for Operation Small talk, I'll report later.

Day 1: Operation Small Talk

I decided to go to the train station, because there are a lot of people there and I needed a train ticket.

First person I saw on the street I immediately approached: it was actually a nice girl, I asked her how late it was, but she didn't understand me: she was American tourist, so I started a small conversation about what she should visit.

Second was an older lady, I asked again what time it was, she said that she didn't have watch, but I should check out the parking meter, I could read it there.

Third person was in the train station, I was queuing at the counter. I said to her "pff what a long queu, don't you think" or something like that. She smiled and was a bit uncomfortable, I felt good.

Fourth person was at the ice cream stand (it was actually quite good weather, I was hungry so I went for an ice cream). When I finished ordering, I turned around and said enjoy your ice creams to two persons behind me. They smiled.

When I returned home, I talked to a small lady and asked her again what time it was, she grabbed her purse and started looking for

All in all it went without problem, I think I shouldn't have asked for the time but it's a start anyway. On to the next day!

By the way, if you really want to boost your confidence, whistle this song while you're walking down the street:

Bert Kaempfert - Afrikaan Beat (look it up on YouTube, can't post the link since I haven't got enough posts yet)

Day 2: look into the eyes

I'm a bit slow at my challenge, but I take one day at a time because I have a lot of work for university. Anyway, second day in, I had to approach five people and remember their color of eyes. Quite easy this one, went to school and just started talking:

1) blue 2) green (special eyes!) 3) brown 4) blue 5) blue 6) brown .... (I approached more than necessary, yay!)

I thought it was going to be harder to remember or recognise the color of eyes, but actually it isn't! Went very smooth today! Next day I can't shower or shave myself, looking forward to it

Oh and tonight I'm going to a party, I'm really pumped to open sets! And I've seen my one-itis in a bar by accident this week, I put up a time constraint when I started talking to her, and she said in the end that we should hang out some time, so that's good I guess? Tonight I'm definitely closing some girls, no matter what!

How does it feel to meet your objectives? Congrats Salamander! You probably feel proud today. Use this strenght to have fun tonight with some girls!

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Feels great! I have an adrenaline rush and I feel that tonight's going to be a good night!

Field report: 18/03/2011

Big party (around 3000 people), so a lot of girls. I literally opened every HB8 or higher (I think I did at least 10 approaches in total) with situational openers (for example, there was one HB9 with a scarf one, I came up to her and asked, isn't it too warm for you? I did it with another HB9 who was wearing a jacket too). There was one memorable approach, a girl who told me she wanted to seduce the DJ (the DJ is gay). I told her, "I'm gay, you should practice on me first". She started laughing, I started talking in an stereotype gay voice and she really had fun. Then she said "How do I know you're not really gay" - I said "Would a gay guy do that?" and I went for the K-close, unfortunately too early. Then her male friend came and asked her if I was any trouble, she said no, but I went to the guy and AMOG'ed him real hard: he lived near me and was supporter of the same football team as I am, and we started talking about that (I even sung a club song but he was too afraid to sing along )

I drunk quite a lot but not as much as my friends. One of them said: dude, you're picking out the difficult girls, try some one you know! ... He's an AFC . One of my friends proposed to be wingman, but I don't think he really knows about the game; he only approached one girl.

Conclusions: I opened real good, I kino'd a lot, but I really felt as if there was no attraction. I suppose that's my sticking point for now.

Salamander you were really good here!

When a girl asked me if I was gay, I would tickle her. It continues to build attraction. I guess it would be better to grab her ass instead, but I didn't have balls to do it.

Out of curiosity, which team do you support?

Keep up the good work!

Listen, I don't really feel comfortable disclosing too much information about myself here. Some of my friends know that I read The game, but they think it's ridiculous, so I kind of want to keep this journey to myself.

Sorry for maybe being paranoid, I hope you understand. Thanks for the support anyway!

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You don't have to agree with your friends, but you certainly have to been honest about what you're doing, and your opinions on things.

At least that's my philosophy..

Good point. I always do tell what I do, what techniques (without the PUA lingo though) I used. But I just don't want them to read this.

You know, when I was young, I had a diary, and don't think I would've liked it if my friends read it. You know, it's a place for myself (which I now anonymously share with strangers, that's the difference I guess).

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No problem, I just love football.

Just a word, if you want to keep this journey to yourself... don't start a journal on the Internet!

Anyway, I'll keep on reading... without posting